Married Ladies Random Thoughts

CafedeBelleza said:
Dh said he'll be glad after I go to this concert.
I'm beyond annoyed. My original partner flaked. And after he figured out he'd have to go or I'd go alone he offered to take care of everything if I found someone to go with me. Then the other girl had a family emergency. And the last minute ask has to make a turn around trip- which isn't too bad but dam I had plans. I was gonna book my room, chill, walk to the venue, rock out- get hoarse, come back hit an after party, wake up and do a cute lunch. Instead we'll be riding there and returning I'm kinda pissed...
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I think it would be cute if you still went along with your plans and let DH participate. Kinda like a staycation.
 
Nyssa28 said:
Just saw this...It would also be a good break from the stress of midterms. Can you threaten/tell him what your plans are and tell him you'll be doing that by yourself?
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I like the weekend together thing but since he's so insistent I'm not gonna force him. Then I'd have to deal with him being a sourpuss. So Ima just enjoy my Monday off - yes I took a day of recovery- maybe shop my disappointment off
 
CurliDiva said:
I envy my DH's no-stress personality because he really is an "in-the-moment" type of guy. He is happy, relaxed, and slow to get offended. I'm always trying to do multiple things at once or worrying about all of the "what ifs "which get overwhelming! ;{
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I could have typed this post myself. His personality has been rubbing off on me though, but I'm no where near his level. I tell him all the time that he has the gift of faith. Its not a normal level of faith at all.
 
Planned a vacation getaway for me and DH all day yesterday at a beautiful 19 room bed and breakfast in Key West. I show it to him and next thing I know he typing on his computer. Talking bout if we gonna stay at a bed and breakfast we might as well use Airbnb cause it's the same thing. He's looking at what's available. I really can't stand him y'all. :mwahahafire::cry3::lachen:
 
Life has been STRESSFUL the last 6 months. I just feel overwhelmed a lot. Getting married, buying a house, home remodeling and health issues going on in the last 8 months. Plus I feel like I should do everything around the house since I get home earlier than him and he has to battle traffic for an hour. I can't handle it all anymore and I'm learning to let go and let him pick up the slack. It's helping. Sometimes I think I take for granted how wonderful he his.

I went to Mexico with my MIL and SIL in March and we had an awesome time. It is SO NICE to have awesome in laws. I'm lucky as hell bc my brothers wife and I do not get a long AT ALL!
 
Happy Mothers' Day y'all!!

DH said he wasn't buying a big gift for his mom since he had given her a lot for Tax Time. I didn't know anything about this. And as I said earlier he never gave me anything on our wedding from his tax refund. He doesn't understand why I am upset. I told him he should take care of his home first. He told me he takes care of his home cuz he pays the house note. Am I unreasonable?
 
PrissiSippi said:
Happy Mothers' Day y'all!!

DH said he wasn't buying a big gift for his mom since he had given her a lot for Tax Time. I didn't know anything about this. And as I said earlier he never gave me anything on our wedding from his tax refund. He doesn't understand why I am upset. I told him he should take care of his home first. He told me he takes care of his home cuz he pays the house note. Am I unreasonable?
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He never gave you the $1,000 he offered to give you from his tax refund? And then mentions today that he gave his mom a lot from said refund?
 
hopeful said:
He never gave you the $1,000 he offered to give you from his tax refund? And then mentions today that he gave his mom a lot from said refund?
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YES! He said he "forgot" to give me the money from the refund. But I feel that it's just a passive aggressive way of saying I'm just not doing it. And I get it maybe he didn't agree with me coming up with the amount. He turned around and said he would give me $500 instead on his own. I said okay but he never gave that amount either. So I feel that we are living not in unity but as roommates. He pays his obligations and I pay mine. I don't know how he spends his money and he doesn't know how I spend mine and I'm tired of leading in everything. He sees no problems with this. He sees no problem with anything. He's laid back about EVERYTHING! I get he's not an aggressive guy but he's not aggressive or assertive about ANYTHing but will do passive aggressive stuff like this that makes me feel like Ima just take care of my own and he will take care of his. But it's my hope for us to move towards being more unified.
 
@PrissiSippi
Yes, he is passive aggressive, very much so, cloaked in being a "nice" guy. I read once that the best way to treat passive aggression is to treat it like aggression. For instance so I see you have decided to not give me the money you promised me. You have decided to break your promise and I'm not ok with that. When he stammers and looks innocent and says I forgot, how could you think it was intentional? Because I'm your wife. You offered, you promised, you see me every day, and you did not follow through. It is not my job to remind you. It is your job to remember, period, as my husband, as an adult, and as a man. He is going to drive you crazy with the nicey nice passive aggressive bs. He's starting to get on my nerves now :lol:.
 
hopeful said:
@PrissiSippi
Yes, he is passive aggressive, very much so, cloaked in being a "nice" guy. I read once that the best way to treat passive aggression is to treat it like aggression. For instance so I see you have decided to not give me the money you promised me. You have decided to break your promise and I'm not ok with that. When he stammers and looks innocent and says I forgot, how could you think it was intentional? Because I'm your wife. You offered, you promised, you see me every day, and you did not follow through. It is not my job to remind you. It is your job to remember, period, as my husband, as an adult, and as a man. He is going to drive you crazy with the nicey nice passive aggressive bs. He's starting to get on my nerves now :lol:.
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Yeah he told me I read too far into things and need to remember that's one of his flaws. He's a forgetful guy. But I'm saying I don't like it when you say you're going to do something and you don't do it. Just a month ago he told me he got a ticket in my car for expired tag. It wasn't his responsibility but he upped and said hey I'll pay for you a car tag. Just let me know when you want to pay for it. I told him I was doing it next week and was going to get my mom to get it. He said okay and didn't volunteer to up the money at all. I didn't bring it back up until now. He always backtracks and says Fine I'll give you the money tomorrow. But to me it's the principle. I didn't need the money. The tag was $48. But I need someone I don't have to feel like I'm controlling them telling them what to do and they oblige. If he made an initiative I plan for him to fall through with it without me pushing him to do it. Ugh!
 
Ok, DH tries to be handy around the house but he's not! Now he keeps saying that he's going to do all the yard work yet he's watching tv all weekend. I'm going to hire a landscape company and call it a day.
 
Today is a hard day. I want to be a mom :( . People keep telling me happy mother's day and every time it hurts me.seeing all the pictures on Facebook holding their babies makes me sad. Gosh I hate these fertility issues. When I see DH playing with our friends babies he just lights up and I want to give him that. I haven't said anything to anyone, I just came here to vent. I know it's going to happen in God's tine but it doesn't make the process any less painful.
 
@LucieLoo12 :bighug:
I know how you feel, I struggled with Mother's Day for a long time before I had my son. It was especially hard because my husband already had a daughter, so I felt like I would always be "just" a stepmom and never an actual mom. And so many of my friends had had babies while I was carrying nothing but the burden of being "infertile." I know it's hard, but please try to stay positive. I thought I couldn't get pregnant for 7 years before it finally happened. It may take time, but if it happened for me, it can for you! Keep the faith. :hug2:
 
Miss617 said:
@LucieLoo12 :bighug:
I know how you feel, I struggled with Mother's Day for a long time before I had my son. It was especially hard because my husband already had a daughter, so I felt like I would always be "just" a stepmom and never an actual mom. And so many of my friends had had babies while I was carrying nothing but the burden of being "infertile." I know it's hard, but please try to stay positive. I thought I couldn't get pregnant for 7 years before it finally happened. It may take time, but if it happened for me, it can for you! Keep the faith. :hug2:
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Thank you dear :)
 
LucieLoo12 said:
Today is a hard day. I want to be a mom :( . People keep telling me happy mother's day and every time it hurts me.seeing all the pictures on Facebook holding their babies makes me sad. Gosh I hate these fertility issues. When I see DH playing with our friends babies he just lights up and I want to give him that. I haven't said anything to anyone, I just came here to vent. I know it's going to happen in God's tine but it doesn't make the process any less painful.
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Love you and thinking of you this Mother's Day!!
 
LucieLoo12 said:
Today is a hard day. I want to be a mom :( . People keep telling me happy mother's day and every time it hurts me.seeing all the pictures on Facebook holding their babies makes me sad. Gosh I hate these fertility issues. When I see DH playing with our friends babies he just lights up and I want to give him that. I haven't said anything to anyone, I just came here to vent. I know it's going to happen in God's tine but it doesn't make the process any less painful.
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:bighug: I know how you feel. I've had 2 miscarriages in the last 8 months. Only a handful of people IRL know. My bestie (who does know) sent me a nice message today. It felt good for someone to acknowledge that I'm a mother in my own way. Just being pregnant changes you. Before I was kind of "whatever" about having kids. Now, I want them so bad knowing that it might never happen.
 
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