Married Ladies Random Thoughts

I just feel like whoo hooing all the time. Must be the Netflix and chill weather.

Tryna think of an anniversary gift for DH. We will make one year in March. I'm thinkin a recliner. He always wanted a recliner.
 
CafedeBelleza said:
Wine and exercise
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What kind...I am so not a drinker. My hubby and I have been having the same argument over and over. It's like WTF don't you get....I have a problem with ABC! So you get mad because I am upset about the problem ABC that you are at the root of?So I have resolved myself to keeping my mouth shut and just having my alone time. I refuse to have the same conversation again. I don't want to sweep my issue under the rug, just so we can get over the argument and hurt feelings. Call me a baby, but I don't want to talk right now and I want to be left alone!
I'm sure some married vet will scold me and my behavior! LOL!
 
syze6 said:
What kind...I am so not a drinker. My hubby and I have been having the same argument over and over. It's like WTF don't you get....I have a problem with ABC! So you get mad because I am upset about the problem ABC that you are at the root of?So I have resolved myself to keeping my mouth shut and just having my alone time. I refuse to have the same conversation again. I don't want to sweep my issue under the rug, just so we can get over the argument and hurt feelings. Call me a baby, but I don't want to talk right now and I want to be left alone!
I'm sure some married vet will scold me and my behavior! LOL!
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I buy inexpensive red weekly 14 hands and
Ménage trois. I'm no vet so that's how I mellow out... It's good for your heart
 
My writing down how I can show love to hubby has made me a lot less aggressive and watch how I say things. I hope I can keep it up. I still feel the want to lash out my frustrations on the inside but instead I just let it go, drink some 1800, or cuddle it off. I'm a work in progress.
 
How can I encourage him to do things in a timely manner? Our garbage disposal has been broken for 4 months. I tried to sit back and wait on him fixing it. He simply put a bucket under the sink and left it like that for months. Then about two months ago I had gotten enough and I told him he has very little initiative when taking care of his household and I didn't like it how if something went wrong I felt like I would have to be the saving grace. (He's paying off credit debt and has little play money until he finishes) so when stuff needs to be taken care of around the house he always says he has to wait til the next pay check. Next paycheck comes and he "forgets" or just doesn't do it. I end up havin to fix it if I want it done.

I ended up buying a garbage disposal...but I figure that should make a light bulb click like dang she bought the garbage disposal at least I could fix it. Instead he takes his time. It's like he waits til inopportune times (Claims he finna fix it tonight...um why tonight and you know something finna go wrong...you're gonna have to go to home depot. it's gonna be closed then. so i'ma be a whole day without water because you gonna try to get back to it after church) to claim he's going to work on it, but won't tell me these times/dates so if I say hey let's go here instead of saying you can go...I have to fix the garbage disposal or xyz he just drops everything he is doing and says okay and just never fixes the said problem.

I get that he is not a handy man. Never was never will be. But he can't be a handy man AND not pay for stuff to get fixed. You have to choose. Either or.

And why is he OKAY with being this way ugh. I told him that out paint is starting to peel. We need the exterior painted soon. I told him I was going to give him a long term goal of figuring how we should pay for and who we should get to paint the house. He said he didn't know why I gave it to him because it's gonna be a color I want not him. Dude you focusing on color and I'm focusing on that the house needs to be repaired and you need to figure out how it's gonna be done because I'm tired of handling everything else.
 
This man has me so confused- well not really but it's a mess. I clean and I don't mind it but if you have a timeline for completion you gotta diy I work just like you. Don't tell me you care about a clean house and leave em pty bag of chips on the couch for a week. Or drop Hershey kiss papers on the floor after you eat em. Don't complain about clothes being hung when you've dropped em on the floor for 6 years and not said a word. You want the bed fixed- two options, get up before me or fix it yourself.
I'm hiring a cleaning lady when we move because I CANNOT AND WILL NOT. And I'm using a wash n fold
 
@CafedeBelleza they never learn.

Just like them, we do ish when we feel like it for the most part. Like today. I already know what cleaning and laundry I'm going to do. However, I'll do it when I do it. Don't come at me talmbout 'I thought you said you were gonna do xyz today'.

Fool it's 11am! You got me on a timeline or something? I aint at work! Ugh!
 
Right! @sunnieb like don't come at me like that! Then acting all indignant. "I'll do it myself" ain't. No skin off my back. "Anything else you want me to do since I don't do anything around here?" Well you said it. Ughhjhhhh!

Then- record scratch-
"Every Saturday you spend all morning on your hair "
You only notice now because March-October every Saturday you get up and golf.
On the bright side- we aren't doing th silent treatment after arguing this morning.
 
He fixed the dang garbage disposal. And perfectly at that. Only took an hour. Laws why could he have done that four months ago!! :look: Now my kitchen is back to not smelling like rotten eggs. :barf:. My friend told me I need to work on instant gratification. Suck a stick or something. I am but I sure do not feel like it today.
 
Taleah2009 said:
If I get any closer to the edge of this bed I will off it. Silent treatment on both ends
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Lord knows I have been there and I have tried not to. I try to subscribe to don't go to bed angry, but I'm sorry I have to take time out to myself or I will strangle him. We will have moments like this and then he tries to strike up conversations as if we haven't spent the last couple of days hardly talking. He likes to pretend that the issue that caused it never occurred...NOPE!
 
Miss617 said:
I didn't think we were doing Valentine's Day this year, but apparently DH bought me stuff. Now I gotta buy this fool something. *grumble grumble*
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DH does the same thing too...and gets me a gift every year. Sometimes I don't reciprocate as gifts are lost on him. Its clearly not his love language. I remember getting him a mini Ipad as a ''just because gift". He simply said thanks and gave me a little peck. :confused:. The next day, I noticed that he cut the lawn and I told him how good it looks. I was really impressed but all I said was "Babe, you really did a good job on the lawn".....total different reaction! He was all over me, hugging and kissing me!
 
Loving said:
DH does the same thing too...and gets me a gift every year. Sometimes I don't reciprocate as gifts are lost on him. Its clearly not his love language. I remember getting him a mini Ipad as a ''just because gift". He simply said thanks and gave me a little peck. :confused:. The next day, I noticed that he cut the lawn and I told him how good it looks. I was really impressed but all I said was "Babe, you really did a good job on the lawn".....total different reaction! He was all over me, hugging and kissing me!
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Ugh, annoying! But at least it seems like you've figured out that his love language is probably words of affirmation and can save yourself some money in the future ;-) Lol. We didn't even talk about whether we were exchanging gifts or not this year, so now I'm just like whyyyyy did you have to spring this on me. I'm thinking DH's love language is acts of service. Maybe I'll make or buy him a little coupon book or something. Either that or more cologne lol.
 
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