Married Ladies Random Thoughts

CurliDiva said:
Second full day with DH's family, and even 'he' is ready for the flight back home Monday! I'm so glad these people live miles and miles away, which makes it easier to love them from a distance! :)
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It makes me feel good when I see that look that says I can't wait to go back to our home and be with you. There is always this magic number of days and hours when they have had enough.
 
Just go back home after spending the holidays with DH's family. One of his cousins just had a baby and another is pregnant so I was hoping we would be off the hook with baby talk. WRONG! We haven't been married 6 months and everyone wants to know when babies are coming.

I've spent the last 3 Christmases with them so I'm determined to spend next Christmas with my family.

I already know that his family is going to have a problem if DH is home with them. He only goes home twice a year so it'll be drama.
 
DH upgraded my ring for Christmas. New ring is beautiful!!! I wore my old ring proudly but it was really small.

True story: He proposed to me in a public place so afterwards all the ladies wanted to see the ring. One lady said "Let me put on my glasses, I can't see it.":eek: I felt some kinda way but her comment rolled off me because I was so happy and the moment was so perfect. He could have given me a string ring and I would have been happy.

But I love my new ring. I can't stop looking at it.!!!:drunk:
 
What is the link to the thread about what you should do before you get married? I remember one of the first things said was to learn how to pick up shoes. Every day when I see my DH's shoes sprawled out in the living room with his socks thrown everywhere i think about that thread. I would like to reread. I thought it was made by shimmie but it's not. Do y'all know what I'm talking about?
 
I told DH I wanted more affection and He has been really putting forth the effort and it's making me love him even more. :love4:
This morning he was getting ready for work and I was still sleeping. He taps me on my shoulder and I rolled over and he says "I just wanted to look at you". Then I texted him earlier today and told him I was really tired and will be going to be early tonight. He said ok just make sure we tell each other I love you before you go to bed. :love: It may seem corny but I am eating all this up. Just the fact I told him I wanted something that is completely opposite of who he is, and he is really doing it. Doing it for me. I love that man :love2:
 
DH and I went to dinner Friday and the topic of my going to grad school came up. I mentioned here a few months ago that he kept moving the packet I printed out for a program I was interested in around the room so I would see it. At dinner he said he still thinks I should do it. I know deep down I really want to, but I keep talking myself out of it. I'm worried that it will put a strain on our relationship and take away from time with him and our son. I don't know what to do.
 
PrissiSippi said:
What is the link to the thread about what you should do before you get married? I remember one of the first things said was to learn how to pick up shoes. Every day when I see my DH's shoes sprawled out in the living room with his socks thrown everywhere i think about that thread. I would like to reread. I thought it was made by shimmie but it's not. Do y'all know what I'm talking about?
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i put the socks in his shoes and kick the shoes to the side. or throw them in the closet. luckily im not OCD or i would have gone crazy by now.
 
LeftRightRepeat said:
i put the socks in his shoes and kick the shoes to the side. or throw them in the closet. luckily im not OCD or i would have gone crazy by now.
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lol yup! I just put them under a chair or just put them up myself lol. But I giggle every time I see them not put up because of that thread.

OAN I hope everyone has been doing well. I have no complaints. I've been working on saying things sweetly. I told him about two things that was bothering me (on two separate occasions) but I just made sure I stated the facts and how I felt and what I would have liked to happen/see and I kept the conversations to 5 minutes max. And it actually happened. All that nagging I'm leaving in 2015. :toocool:
 
I am tired. I am ready to go. Exit living. But i am scared that my husband wont be able to cope without me...

For me, living is excruciating.
 
Ganjababy said:
I am tired. I am ready to go. Exit living. But i am scared that my husband wont be able to cope without me...

For me, living is excruciating.
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Whoa whoa hold up here lady. What's wrong hon? Those are extreme statements. Do you need to talk? Pm me if you're up to it. If not I won't be offended.

Just take care and know that people care about you. Even folks you haven't met in person.
 
Ganjababy said:
I am tired. I am ready to go. Exit living. But i am scared that my husband wont be able to cope without me...

For me, living is excruciating.
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Halt! Please stop and get help immediately! You are suffering from extreme depression. You need help, support, immediate intervention. Exit living is suicide and is NEVER a good option. We love you and care about you. You are valuable, beautiful, lovable. Ask your husband, sister, best friend, someone to help you now.
 
Thanks ladies. I am really trying to get better. Some days are harder than some. It seems as if I will have to cut my mother out of my life for good. Our interactions are draining my very soul. At the same time I feel guilty and bad. But I really tried. So now its time to cut my losses and accept that things are as they are.

I have restarted therapy and trying to remember to take my medication. There is a big difference when I do not. I am almost catatonic. I hate that I may have to be on them for the rest of my life.

I am feeling more hopeful today.
 
Ganjababy said:
Thanks ladies. I am really trying to get better. Some days are harder than some. It seems as if I will have to cut my mother out of my life for good. Our interactions are draining my very soul. At the same time I feel guilty and bad. But I really tried. So now its time to cut my losses and accept that things are as they are.

I have restarted therapy and trying to remember to take my medication. There is a big difference when I do not. I am almost catatonic. I hate that I may have to be on them for the rest of my life.

I am feeling more hopeful today.
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I understand your feeling about not wanting to be on medication for the rest of your life, but if you can see and feel the difference, then you know what to do.

Someone posted something to do with self preservation in another thread today (or yesterday) and I think in this case you may have to go that route. I don't want to tell you to cut your mom off because I know nothing about your relationship. However, you know what you're experiencing. If the interaction is taking such a toll on you mentally and emotionally, you might need to take a break.

I personally try to stay away from people I deem as "energy vampires" I just shut down and will not give them any of me. I'm glad you're feeling hopeful today. Between 2011 and 2012, I was going through some lows and this song by Kirk Franklin, "Smile" always improved my mood. Find your happy place and "visit" often.
 
@Ganjababy thanks so much for the update dear. As far as the meds, keep taking them for now. Try not to look at it as having to take them for the rest of your life, that's a long time. You never know what the future holds for you. You might be off of them in a few years. Who knows? Just take them consistently for now. Focus on now, not the past or the future. And as far as your mom, maybe you just need a break, some distance. Again, saying you need to cut her out of your life for good is so permanent and scary. Try to pull back some, cut yourself some slack.

But great, you restarted therapy and are taking your meds. Pat yourself on the back. Be proud of you, you are doing good :yep:. And remember, lots of people suffer from depression. You are not alone. There is still too much stigma associated with mental illness. It's a health/medical issue like a heart problem. Nothing to be ashamed of.

Take good care of you. You and your precious life are very valuable. And yes, your husband would be heartbroken without you. We would all be. I just whispered a prayer for you. Hang in there and be strong. (((Ganjababy)))
 
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