Married Ladies Random Thoughts

Taleah2009 said:
Sooo question for my veteran married ladies, when your husband gets in his feelings about something dumb how long do you let him be in his feelings? Do you just let him come out on his own, try to talk to him, cuss him out :arguing: lol??

But seriously though I need some tips before I knock some sense into him.
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Dh rarely stays in his feelings for more than 24 hours. Like he'll go to sleep and the next morning all has been forgotten. So usually I do nothing. Otherwise cooking something he likes or hugging and kissing him will do the trick. I've never cussed him out but I think that might not work lol. Also try not to look at what he's upset about as dumb but important to him, at least important at the moment.
 
hopeful said:
Dh rarely stays in his feelings for more than 24 hours. Like he'll go to sleep and the next morning all has been forgotten. So usually I do nothing. Otherwise cooking something he likes or hugging and kissing him will do the trick. I've never cussed him out but I think that might not work lol. Also try not to look at what he's upset about as dumb but important to him, at least important at the moment.
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Thanks @hopeful I am going to continue to do nothing. I cooked last night and he didn't even eat it! Came in the house with his own food so now I am salty and in my feelings and want to be petty and not cook tonight. lol But that won't solve anything.

It just makes me mad because he can be soo hypercritical. The things he get upset with me about are the same things he does to me! Like ugh...
 
Taleah2009 said:
Thanks @hopeful I am going to continue to do nothing. I cooked last night and he didn't even eat it! Came in the house with his own food so now I am salty and in my feelings and want to be petty and not cook tonight. lol But that won't solve anything.

It just makes me mad because he can be soo hypercritical. The things he get upset with me about are the same things he does to me! Like ugh...
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I understand. I would just cook something I like tonight or get take out. Make it easy on yourself. Have you checked out our Queen's Code thread? I think the book we read might be helpful to you on communicating just what you wrote here.
 
tapioca_pudding said:
It's so close..!! I did it up big and fancy last year (my first time ever hosting, our first time with both our families present etc), but a sista was tired after lol needed a full day to recover. BUT it was AWESOME and everyone still raves about it. So I dunno.
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Maybe consider hosting again but find a way to make it easier this year: ask others to bring side dishes, purchase some ready-made stuff, let others help you clean up, use paper plates, etc. It takes practice to find what works best. You don't want to get yourself or everyone else used to you being exhausted.
 
hopeful said:
I understand. I would just cook something I like tonight or get take out. Make it easy on yourself. Have you checked out our Queen's Code thread? I think the book we read might be helpful to you on communicating just what you wrote here.
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I have read that thread. I'm going to order that book. Thanks
 
Taleah2009 said:
I have read that thread. I'm going to order that book. Thanks
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hopeful said:
Maybe consider hosting again but find a way to make it easier this year: ask others to bring side dishes, purchase some ready-made stuff, let others help you clean up, use paper plates, etc. It takes practice to find what works best. You don't want to get yourself or everyone else used to you being exhausted.
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Wait I totally lied. I haven't read that thread. I was thinking of another thread you started about you were reading. I will read through the queens code thread tonight.

Thanks!
 
Is anyone not looking forward to Thanksgiving? :look: LOL. I don't host it, but we go over to my grandmother's house and have a big feast there. This year I have been asked to bring my deviled eggs.( 3 dozen) and broccoli cheese casserole. I'm just not looking forward to conversing with people I haven't seen in years and them asking personal questions. My grandmother's house is usually soooo packed. I just want to do something intimate this year, like a trip or something. Me and DH have been married 2 years so he's still meeting a lot of my family and getting to know them. And he loves being around my family. So I guess I will suck it up this year. Maybe next year
 
@LucieLoo12 I didn't grow up with holidays being grandiose, so this notion of "big celebrations" is new to me and sometimes daunting. I go through phases lol sometimes I love it, sometimes I wanna tell everyone to kick rocks. :lol:

DH informed me last night that this Thanksgiving we are going to the movies and eating takeout. :lachen: I said that's smooth with me!!!!
 
tapioca_pudding said:
@LucieLoo12 I didn't grow up with holidays being grandiose, so this notion of "big celebrations" is new to me and sometimes daunting. I go through phases lol sometimes I love it, sometimes I wanna tell everyone to kick rocks. :lol:

DH informed me last night that this Thanksgiving we are going to the movies and eating takeout. :lachen: I said that's smooth with me!!!!
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Looollll!!!

I wish my DH would say that but he is too excited. But yea I grew up with the big shindig every year so it gets kinda old to me. But you got to at least make you a sweet potato pie and some dressing lol lol
 
DH just said to me that he put on his French cut just for me and i did not notice! I am like whaaaaat?!

Then he said thats why he is spilling over.

I swear sometimes i do not know what to do with this dude. He moves to the beat of his own drums. I am the one that should be saying that...

Right?
 
tapioca_pudding said:
@LucieLoo12 I didn't grow up with holidays being grandiose, so this notion of "big celebrations" is new to me and sometimes daunting. I go through phases lol sometimes I love it, sometimes I wanna tell everyone to kick rocks. :lol:

DH informed me last night that this Thanksgiving we are going to the movies and eating takeout. :lachen: I said that's smooth with me!!!!
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Your DH sounds like mine. He wants to go out to dinner and I'm like nnnoooooo lol. I enjoy being around my family for the holidays but then again changing it up and going out may be a nice change of pace
 
I was watching our wedding video the other day because I hadn't seen it all the way through. And then saw something I kind of forgot about - after the 'kiss your bride' part, we did our kiss and then DH reached and grabbed me to give me another kiss. :love: I wasn't expecting it so he got mostly cheek :lol: But it was so so sweet....

Looking at the photos of that moment (our kiss, his facial expression, him grabbing me again) really, really warms my heart for this man. I've seen him look at me that way a million times but something about seeing it on a photo is totally different, I can't explain it....
 
So we were suppose to be moving in 4 weeks. I am thinking I have time to pack and get things in order. Dh texted me today that he moved the date to December 4th. :drunk::thud:. So I'm think I'm going home and and relax. Nope. I'll be packing. :naughty: But things could be a lot worse so it's not that bad. :drunk: We are going to go look at a new living room set after I get off...

Is anyone else husband very involved in details you didn't think he would be? Like for instance, I didn't think DH would care about planning our wedding, but he was involved in every detail. And now that we are buying new furniture he wants to be involved in this too. I told him "I didn't think men cared about stuff like this". He said "I'm not most men" :lachen:. I always seem men to not care about anything but food, sex, and sports. But my DH is very involved in things and he knows what he's talking about too! It's kinda attractive that I don't have to think everything out. But don't tell him that :look:
 
LucieLoo12 said:
So we were suppose to be moving in 4 weeks. I am thinking I have time to pack and get things in order. Dh texted me today that he moved the date to December 4th. :drunk::thud:. So I'm think I'm going home and and relax. Nope. I'll be packing. :naughty: But things could be a lot worse so it's not that bad. :drunk: We are going to go look at a new living room set after I get off...

Is anyone else husband very involved in details you didn't think he would be? Like for instance, I didn't think DH would care about planning our wedding, but he was involved in every detail. And now that we are buying new furniture he wants to be involved in this too. I told him "I didn't think men cared about stuff like this". He said "I'm not most men" :lachen:. I always seem men to not care about anything but food, sex, and sports. But my DH is very involved in things and he knows what he's talking about too! It's kinda attractive that I don't have to think everything out. But don't tell him that :look:
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Yep, this is my dh. He has taken over decorating our new house! HE dragged ME out over the weekend to look at accent chairs, curtains, art for the walls and rugs. I was so tired...he has been on top of it. He has done an excellent job, and when people compliment the decor I make sure to give him all the credit!
 
LucieLoo12 said:
So we were suppose to be moving in 4 weeks. I am thinking I have time to pack and get things in order. Dh texted me today that he moved the date to December 4th. :drunk::thud:. So I'm think I'm going home and and relax. Nope. I'll be packing. :naughty: But things could be a lot worse so it's not that bad. :drunk: We are going to go look at a new living room set after I get off...

Is anyone else husband very involved in details you didn't think he would be? Like for instance, I didn't think DH would care about planning our wedding, but he was involved in every detail. And now that we are buying new furniture he wants to be involved in this too. I told him "I didn't think men cared about stuff like this". He said "I'm not most men" :lachen:. I always seem men to not care about anything but food, sex, and sports. But my DH is very involved in things and he knows what he's talking about too! It's kinda attractive that I don't have to think everything out. But don't tell him that :look:
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Mines is not. lol. Well atleast the wedding anyway. lol. All of his ideas I vetoed so he just fell back and let me do my own thing.
 
SoniT said:
My in laws will be visiting for the week of Thanksgiving. Please pray for me. My FIL is cool but my MIL works my last nerve.
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Let's pray for each other. LOL I will be seeing my in-laws around XMAS time and my MIL be doing the....mooosstt. She is very passive aggressive and very nosey. I love my FIL, but she is really intrusive sometimes. We are suppose to be doing family pictures. Hopefully all goes well.....
 
LucieLoo12 said:
Is anyone else husband very involved in details you didn't think he would be?
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Yep... my husband was SO involved in our wedding it was crazy. I was the organizer but he was more of the planner, if that makes sense. So he was the CEO and I was the COO..... kinda the same in our marriage LOL. :lol:. I love it though. He's into many things that "typical" men wouldn't be concerned with.
 
LucieLoo12 said:
Let's pray for each other. LOL I will be seeing my in-laws around XMAS time and my MIL be doing the....mooosstt. She is very passive aggressive and very nosey. I love my FIL, but she is really intrusive sometimes. We are suppose to be doing family pictures. Hopefully all goes well.....
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She sounds like my MIL. I'll pray for you too. :)
 
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