I'm not quite sure where to post this, so since it somewhat concerns my marriage I will post it here. It's super duper long lol but I really want to share the story.
The night before/morning of our flight to our wedding destination, DH and I were in the emergency room because I was sick. Turned out I had pneumonia. He took immaculate care of me, all the way through. Our wedding was that Saturday evening, and while it was absolutely beautiful, I had so many "plans" for the wedding night, but was exhausted and could not follow through like I wanted to. Of course he was amazing, and thankfully I started feeling better by the time we got to our honeymoon destination.
However, I really wanted to "make up" for being sick on our wedding night. (Now before anyone comments, I know that 1) Sex isn't everything etc and 2) I couldn't help getting sick. But it was one of those things where, I really wanted to make things special for him, so I wanted to recreate the moment. Plus I was so appreciative for how he cared for me.)
So the day after our wedding, I booked a hotel room in our home city. The hotel is very upscale, and we always dream about staying there one night to be 'fancy' lol. The room was booked for last night. DH had no idea of my plans, it was all a surprise.
Yesterday morning, I called the mail courier and had them hand deliver an invitation I had made to his job, just telling him to go home, get an overnight bag and the address where to meet me.
I called the hotel just to firm up my plans, and to make sure dinner would be ready, etc. The Concierge asked, "Are you all celebrating anything?" I said, "not quite.. we got married several days ago and our wedding night didn't go quite as planned due to me being ill, so I wanted to recreate the moment and thank him for caring for me". She said, "Oh how romantic!!", and confirmed my arrangements.
My plan was to leave work at 3pm, get home by 4pm, grab what I needed and then head to the hotel to be there by 5 as scheduled. Well I wound up having a late meeting yesterday that went over, and didn't leave work until close to 4. I rushed home, grabbed what I needed and got back in my car, rushing to the hotel (it's like 10 mins from home).
As I'm driving past the grocery store, I see a lady pushing a buggy down the street, filled with groceries.... and then the buggy toppled over and all her groceries fell. I could visibly see her frustration as she put everything back inside.
I was sitting at the red light thinking, God I should go help her. But I was scheduled to check into the hotel by 5, and it was about five minutes to 5 and I had so much prep to do before DH arrived. But it bothered me so much.... so I turned around, started honking like a crazy person and asked if she needed a ride. She nodded her head and a tear fell down her cheek.
I helped her get the groceries into my car, put the buggy in my trunk to take back to the market, and then drove her home, which was about 20 minutes away. She kept going on and on about how blessed she felt, because she was having such a bad day - her car had broken down that morning and had to go to the shop, but they didn't have any groceries for her children and she couldn't get anyone to give her a ride to the store. She was embarrassed to take the buggy from the store, but she didn't have any other way to get the groceries home. We live in a very affluent area, so she was saying how she was so embarrassed, gathering her groceries on the street while all these fancy cars drove by, gawking at her. And she thanked me of course, and tried to give me money. I told her to just pay it forward and be kind to others. We took her groceries in her home and I said good bye.
Well by this time it's about 550 and I'm calling the concierge telling her I'll be there asap. She says, No worries, we'll wait to arrange things until you arrive. (I was expecting DH at about 7pm).
I get to the hotel, flustered, carrying a million bags, sweating lol. The Concierge says, "Mrs. Pudding, your story really touched me today and you seem like such a sweet person. I told my manager about what happened on your wedding day and what you're trying to accomplish tonight, and he was moved as well. So we are going to upgrade your room to our top suite, and comp your champagne and your dinner/dessert. We just really want tonight to go well for you."
I just kinda stood there in disbelief.... their top suite runs $1700/night and is decked the freak out lol. And I knew the dinner I ordered would be about $200, without the champagne or gratuity/tax. So I was just standing there looking dumbfounded. Finally I 'came to' and said thank you a billion times.
I got to the suite and it was ah.maz.ing. They had the fireplace going, the dinner table was set, they had dimmed the lights, etc. Just perfect. They brought me candles (the non-fire kind) so I could set the room up. She told me she would call me when DH arrives, and give him a rose.
DH got there about 7:05. I got the call from the front desk, so I was "ready" when he walked in lol. His reaction was priceless. I had the shower running for him with a glass of champagne, so he went and did his thing. While he was showering, dinner arrived right on time and the waiter was SO nice, everything was beautiful. DH and I enjoyed dinner and each other.
I know this is a long ass story lol I was just so overwhelmed yesterday by everything, and thankful. I still don't know quite to express how I feel about everything, but yesterday was perfect, just perfect. One for the memory books.
Just wanted to share... I'll stop gushing now lol.
But I think this change just has come from just not exploiting every little thing we don't like and if there is something we don't like we just learning how to talk to each other about rather than fussing about it. We are TTCing right now so we are really trying to work out these little petty kinks and make sure we are solid before we bring a baby in, because that's going to be a whole new load of...stuff. LOL. Communication is so key. I have also been reaffirming my husband a lot lately. He doesn't ask for it but I send him messages all throughout the day like "I appreciate you so much" "thank you for being an awesome leader for our household"etc. I've just seen his demeanor change. I know that we will still have trials to go through but we are just making sure our foundation is solid.
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