LivingInPeace
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I've been blessed to have this man as my husband. Because, based on what I've seen, I could have done much worse.
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PrissiSippi
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Added a few details to the would be baby room. Bought new dresser. Organized our bookcase. Made it my girly space. Letting go of the thought that it will one day be a baby room. I have no faith. And yet losing my mind silently. Sigh. I just wish I didn't grieve so hard. Then I grieve alone. Lawd. Just why?
Taleah2009
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Why are you letting go of the thought???
Brwnbeauti
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Is adoption or fostering out?
If we can't have any we'll adopt or become heavily involved in my 50-leven nieces and nephews lives
tapioca_pudding
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I'm not quite sure where to post this, so since it somewhat concerns my marriage I will post it here. It's super duper long lol but I really want to share the story.
The night before/morning of our flight to our wedding destination, DH and I were in the emergency room because I was sick. Turned out I had pneumonia. He took immaculate care of me, all the way through. Our wedding was that Saturday evening, and while it was absolutely beautiful, I had so many "plans" for the wedding night, but was exhausted and could not follow through like I wanted to. Of course he was amazing, and thankfully I started feeling better by the time we got to our honeymoon destination.
However, I really wanted to "make up" for being sick on our wedding night. (Now before anyone comments, I know that 1) Sex isn't everything etc and 2) I couldn't help getting sick. But it was one of those things where, I really wanted to make things special for him, so I wanted to recreate the moment. Plus I was so appreciative for how he cared for me.)
So the day after our wedding, I booked a hotel room in our home city. The hotel is very upscale, and we always dream about staying there one night to be 'fancy' lol. The room was booked for last night. DH had no idea of my plans, it was all a surprise.
Yesterday morning, I called the mail courier and had them hand deliver an invitation I had made to his job, just telling him to go home, get an overnight bag and the address where to meet me.
I called the hotel just to firm up my plans, and to make sure dinner would be ready, etc. The Concierge asked, "Are you all celebrating anything?" I said, "not quite.. we got married several days ago and our wedding night didn't go quite as planned due to me being ill, so I wanted to recreate the moment and thank him for caring for me". She said, "Oh how romantic!!", and confirmed my arrangements.
My plan was to leave work at 3pm, get home by 4pm, grab what I needed and then head to the hotel to be there by 5 as scheduled. Well I wound up having a late meeting yesterday that went over, and didn't leave work until close to 4. I rushed home, grabbed what I needed and got back in my car, rushing to the hotel (it's like 10 mins from home).
As I'm driving past the grocery store, I see a lady pushing a buggy down the street, filled with groceries.... and then the buggy toppled over and all her groceries fell. I could visibly see her frustration as she put everything back inside.
I was sitting at the red light thinking, God I should go help her. But I was scheduled to check into the hotel by 5, and it was about five minutes to 5 and I had so much prep to do before DH arrived. But it bothered me so much.... so I turned around, started honking like a crazy person and asked if she needed a ride. She nodded her head and a tear fell down her cheek.
I helped her get the groceries into my car, put the buggy in my trunk to take back to the market, and then drove her home, which was about 20 minutes away. She kept going on and on about how blessed she felt, because she was having such a bad day - her car had broken down that morning and had to go to the shop, but they didn't have any groceries for her children and she couldn't get anyone to give her a ride to the store. She was embarrassed to take the buggy from the store, but she didn't have any other way to get the groceries home. We live in a very affluent area, so she was saying how she was so embarrassed, gathering her groceries on the street while all these fancy cars drove by, gawking at her. And she thanked me of course, and tried to give me money. I told her to just pay it forward and be kind to others. We took her groceries in her home and I said good bye.
Well by this time it's about 550 and I'm calling the concierge telling her I'll be there asap. She says, No worries, we'll wait to arrange things until you arrive. (I was expecting DH at about 7pm).
I get to the hotel, flustered, carrying a million bags, sweating lol. The Concierge says, "Mrs. Pudding, your story really touched me today and you seem like such a sweet person. I told my manager about what happened on your wedding day and what you're trying to accomplish tonight, and he was moved as well. So we are going to upgrade your room to our top suite, and comp your champagne and your dinner/dessert. We just really want tonight to go well for you."
I just kinda stood there in disbelief.... their top suite runs $1700/night and is decked the freak out lol. And I knew the dinner I ordered would be about $200, without the champagne or gratuity/tax. So I was just standing there looking dumbfounded. Finally I 'came to' and said thank you a billion times.
I got to the suite and it was ah.maz.ing. They had the fireplace going, the dinner table was set, they had dimmed the lights, etc. Just perfect. They brought me candles (the non-fire kind) so I could set the room up. She told me she would call me when DH arrives, and give him a rose.
DH got there about 7:05. I got the call from the front desk, so I was "ready" when he walked in lol. His reaction was priceless. I had the shower running for him with a glass of champagne, so he went and did his thing. While he was showering, dinner arrived right on time and the waiter was SO nice, everything was beautiful. DH and I enjoyed dinner and each other.
I know this is a long ass story lol I was just so overwhelmed yesterday by everything, and thankful. I still don't know quite to express how I feel about everything, but yesterday was perfect, just perfect. One for the memory books.
Just wanted to share... I'll stop gushing now lol.
The night before/morning of our flight to our wedding destination, DH and I were in the emergency room because I was sick. Turned out I had pneumonia. He took immaculate care of me, all the way through. Our wedding was that Saturday evening, and while it was absolutely beautiful, I had so many "plans" for the wedding night, but was exhausted and could not follow through like I wanted to. Of course he was amazing, and thankfully I started feeling better by the time we got to our honeymoon destination.
However, I really wanted to "make up" for being sick on our wedding night. (Now before anyone comments, I know that 1) Sex isn't everything etc and 2) I couldn't help getting sick. But it was one of those things where, I really wanted to make things special for him, so I wanted to recreate the moment. Plus I was so appreciative for how he cared for me.)
So the day after our wedding, I booked a hotel room in our home city. The hotel is very upscale, and we always dream about staying there one night to be 'fancy' lol. The room was booked for last night. DH had no idea of my plans, it was all a surprise.
Yesterday morning, I called the mail courier and had them hand deliver an invitation I had made to his job, just telling him to go home, get an overnight bag and the address where to meet me.
I called the hotel just to firm up my plans, and to make sure dinner would be ready, etc. The Concierge asked, "Are you all celebrating anything?" I said, "not quite.. we got married several days ago and our wedding night didn't go quite as planned due to me being ill, so I wanted to recreate the moment and thank him for caring for me". She said, "Oh how romantic!!", and confirmed my arrangements.
My plan was to leave work at 3pm, get home by 4pm, grab what I needed and then head to the hotel to be there by 5 as scheduled. Well I wound up having a late meeting yesterday that went over, and didn't leave work until close to 4. I rushed home, grabbed what I needed and got back in my car, rushing to the hotel (it's like 10 mins from home).
As I'm driving past the grocery store, I see a lady pushing a buggy down the street, filled with groceries.... and then the buggy toppled over and all her groceries fell. I could visibly see her frustration as she put everything back inside.
I was sitting at the red light thinking, God I should go help her. But I was scheduled to check into the hotel by 5, and it was about five minutes to 5 and I had so much prep to do before DH arrived. But it bothered me so much.... so I turned around, started honking like a crazy person and asked if she needed a ride. She nodded her head and a tear fell down her cheek.
I helped her get the groceries into my car, put the buggy in my trunk to take back to the market, and then drove her home, which was about 20 minutes away. She kept going on and on about how blessed she felt, because she was having such a bad day - her car had broken down that morning and had to go to the shop, but they didn't have any groceries for her children and she couldn't get anyone to give her a ride to the store. She was embarrassed to take the buggy from the store, but she didn't have any other way to get the groceries home. We live in a very affluent area, so she was saying how she was so embarrassed, gathering her groceries on the street while all these fancy cars drove by, gawking at her. And she thanked me of course, and tried to give me money. I told her to just pay it forward and be kind to others. We took her groceries in her home and I said good bye.
Well by this time it's about 550 and I'm calling the concierge telling her I'll be there asap. She says, No worries, we'll wait to arrange things until you arrive. (I was expecting DH at about 7pm).
I get to the hotel, flustered, carrying a million bags, sweating lol. The Concierge says, "Mrs. Pudding, your story really touched me today and you seem like such a sweet person. I told my manager about what happened on your wedding day and what you're trying to accomplish tonight, and he was moved as well. So we are going to upgrade your room to our top suite, and comp your champagne and your dinner/dessert. We just really want tonight to go well for you."
I just kinda stood there in disbelief.... their top suite runs $1700/night and is decked the freak out lol. And I knew the dinner I ordered would be about $200, without the champagne or gratuity/tax. So I was just standing there looking dumbfounded. Finally I 'came to' and said thank you a billion times.
I got to the suite and it was ah.maz.ing. They had the fireplace going, the dinner table was set, they had dimmed the lights, etc. Just perfect. They brought me candles (the non-fire kind) so I could set the room up. She told me she would call me when DH arrives, and give him a rose.
DH got there about 7:05. I got the call from the front desk, so I was "ready" when he walked in lol. His reaction was priceless. I had the shower running for him with a glass of champagne, so he went and did his thing. While he was showering, dinner arrived right on time and the waiter was SO nice, everything was beautiful. DH and I enjoyed dinner and each other.
I know this is a long ass story lol I was just so overwhelmed yesterday by everything, and thankful. I still don't know quite to express how I feel about everything, but yesterday was perfect, just perfect. One for the memory books.
Just wanted to share... I'll stop gushing now lol.
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tapioca_pudding
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^^^beautiful beautiful story! Thank you for sharing. I'm so happy for you, your dh, and even the lady you helped. Sounds like you both chose well.
Thank you SO much @hopeful, you are too kind. I am still floating from yesterday lol, truly.
Taleah2009
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Beautiful story!! Soooo I'm totally going to steal this idea for the future. Maybe New Year's Eve!!
Taleah2009
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DH scheduled facials and massages for us tonight. Super excited
divachyk
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I love reading all the wonderful stories.
You nailed it @tapioca_pudding. I literally felt every emotion you had in that story from knowing you should help the lady in need to rushing back to the hotel, etc. So glad your night was magical!
@Taleah2009, that is awesome that he's so thoughtful and kind. Enjoy!
You nailed it @tapioca_pudding. I literally felt every emotion you had in that story from knowing you should help the lady in need to rushing back to the hotel, etc. So glad your night was magical!
@Taleah2009, that is awesome that he's so thoughtful and kind. Enjoy!
LivingInPeace
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@tapioca_pudding That was a great story! It's great to have a sense of romance.
hopeful
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Dh is just getting sweeter and sweeter. I was out and about today and bought myself some flowers. I put them in two vases, cut their little stems a bit and was quite pleased. About an hour later the doorbell rings and I have a delivery of a huge bouquet of flowers. I told him he must have been in tune with my desire for flowers. I also told him not to laugh at the little flowers I bought. I wouldn't trade him for all the tea in China.
JerriBlank
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Umm, my divorced, baby mama ass is tearing up off the last page of this thread. I love the good parts of marriage! Nothing compares to expressing your love for someone! Thanks for sharing loves!
divachyk
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@JerriBlank, don't tear up dear. But check it, I have nothing positive to share today. Momma always told me if I didn't have anything good to say, then say nothing at all. How my situation is set up today....I have no comment.
Brwnbeauti
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Me Monday-Wednesday lol@JerriBlank, don't tear up dear. But check it, I have nothing positive to share today. Momma always told me if I didn't have anything good to say, then say nothing at all. How my situation is set up today....I have no comment.
tapioca_pudding
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LOL you can totally have the idea @Taleah2009!! We're twins anyway
DH LOVED every single detail so I'm sure your DH will as well.@divachyk Thank you so much! I tried to not make the story too sappy here lol but it was truly such an emotionally overwhelming day, in a very very good way.
@LivingInPeace Thank you!! One of my fave things about my marriage is that we are both pretty romantic.. he has done some really, really amazing things for me as well.... I never hesitate to create moments for him, because he always creates them for me, in big and in small ways.
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Taleah2009
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@tapioca_pudding Yes twin! I started pouching the subject yesterday, like babe, is there any fancy hotels you ever wanted to stay in the city. lol. I am starting my research now.
Super jealous your hubby is romantic. Mines is NOT! lol. Not super romantic anyway. He did set up the massages and the facials yesterday since we weren't able to them in the DR. But other than that, not romantic at all. lol. But neither am I. So annyy more romantic ideas you can share please send them my way![/QUOTE]
Super jealous your hubby is romantic. Mines is NOT! lol. Not super romantic anyway. He did set up the massages and the facials yesterday since we weren't able to them in the DR. But other than that, not romantic at all. lol. But neither am I. So annyy more romantic ideas you can share please send them my way![/QUOTE]
tapioca_pudding
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@Taleah2009 LOL!! Facials and massages are NICE! He is so thoughtful..!! Treasure that!
Yeah I do recognize that I'm fortunate DH is a romancer lol. He knows I don't like attention so his gestures are typically more subdued/intimate, but touch my heart deeply every.single.time lol.
Edited - I think I've shared enough lol.
Yeah I do recognize that I'm fortunate DH is a romancer lol. He knows I don't like attention so his gestures are typically more subdued/intimate, but touch my heart deeply every.single.time lol.
Edited - I think I've shared enough lol.
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loving these stories 
so sweet i lubs ya dh for doing that--i love gestures like that
@ the night in the hotel..dh and i do that often...we love it...we was just talking bout a hotel room we done tore up from the floor up...i found myself getting a bit overzealous movie-ish--- lets get freaky by the floor to ceiling windows..dh said babe i love you and want you alive after this...lmaooo..at the time i had been drinking some chardonnay from the bottle...lol
cheesy but i love cheesy stuff..we met on the 24th of the month...dh sends me flowers on the 24th of the month not every month but damn near and its hilarious because i love it and act like its the first time I've received flowers in my life because life is so busy and etc i forget what day it is half the time and bam flowers at the office at home etc...its like the sweetest thing that melts me...as i never expect it...even though the date is synonymous with the day we met...
romance is a hugeeee deal to me....he keeps it going with his alpha male self....and i do too!!! it keeps things interesting...
i have a note dh sent me yrs ago in my phone case that i look at all the time--he was away on a trip and i was home.... he sends me a a bouquet of flowers and a note saying its been a good 3 yrs 2 weeks and 4 days even though I'm not there your always on my mind..love you lux....something really moved me about that because dh is very masculine but sweet so while i expect him to do the big stuff the lil things that he does make my heart smile because its all on his own no nudging from me or etc and its always a surprise..those lil things keep us together in more ways than one..aside from his coins lmaooo
so sweet i lubs ya dh for doing that--i love gestures like that
@ the night in the hotel..dh and i do that often...we love it...we was just talking bout a hotel room we done tore up from the floor up...i found myself getting a bit overzealous movie-ish--- lets get freaky by the floor to ceiling windows..dh said babe i love you and want you alive after this...lmaooo..at the time i had been drinking some chardonnay from the bottle...lol
cheesy but i love cheesy stuff..we met on the 24th of the month...dh sends me flowers on the 24th of the month not every month but damn near and its hilarious because i love it and act like its the first time I've received flowers in my life because life is so busy and etc i forget what day it is half the time and bam flowers at the office at home etc...its like the sweetest thing that melts me...as i never expect it...even though the date is synonymous with the day we met...
romance is a hugeeee deal to me....he keeps it going with his alpha male self....and i do too!!! it keeps things interesting...
i have a note dh sent me yrs ago in my phone case that i look at all the time--he was away on a trip and i was home.... he sends me a a bouquet of flowers and a note saying its been a good 3 yrs 2 weeks and 4 days even though I'm not there your always on my mind..love you lux....something really moved me about that because dh is very masculine but sweet so while i expect him to do the big stuff the lil things that he does make my heart smile because its all on his own no nudging from me or etc and its always a surprise..those lil things keep us together in more ways than one..aside from his coins lmaooo
I've been really nervous about cutting my hair (formerly tailbone length) to avoid further damage and DH bought me a "Black girls are magic" hoodie. I came home to it laying on the bed with a note that said "You are stunning. Own it"
Loving
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@Taleah2009 Wow girl! You can certainly teach us a few things about romance!
Taleah2009
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@tapioca_pudding I am sitting over cheesing and smiling and swooning at your stories!!! Thank you for sharing! You have definitely given me some ideas!
Taleah2009
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tapioca_pudding
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Lol thanks.. now I'm all embarrassed and going back and deleting/editing lol I think I overshared.
tapioca_pudding
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See 
jk!!
Loving
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Oops! Lol!
Taleah2009
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hahaha
janaq2003
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@tapioca_pudding I loved your story! Taking some notes.. been married for a while and doing something like this never crossed my mind. We tend to get caught up in hustle and bustle of life and forget about the little things..
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