Married Ladies Random Thoughts

divachyk said:
@PrissiSippi having the same financial goals is helpful. Otherwise, it's a challenge and exhausting when one wants to spend and the other wants to save. Good you guys talked it over.
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I don't think we have the same financial goals. And we had different upbringings. It's been causing us a lot of mini drama lately and lack of communication. I feel like a failure. I legit don't know how to talk to him. I was brought up with people talking to me blunt need shuts down this way. But I'm too lazy to sugar coat stuff or know what's okay to sugar coat and what to not. This along with the baby thing. Is really just hurting us right now. Prayers needed.
 
PrissiSippi said:
I don't think we have the same financial goals. And we had different upbringings. It's been causing us a lot of mini drama lately and lack of communication. I feel like a failure. I legit don't know how to talk to him. I was brought up with people talking to me blunt need shuts down this way. But I'm too lazy to sugar coat stuff or know what's okay to sugar coat and what to not. This along with the baby thing. Is really just hurting us right now. Prayers needed.
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Praying for you and hubby
 
Lol on a more positive note. My hubby has been bragging to all his church friends that his wife has joined the choir and she can blow. Lol and he joined the media ministry lol to videotape while I sing and we can worship together more hands on. That's my middle class version of power couple. :lachen: Finding a church home you love really changes a lot.
 
@PrissiSippi, my dh and I have the same upbringings. While our financial goals are similar we have different views on how to get there and yes, it is very challenging! I wish I could tell you the stars will eventually align and your views and strategies with match but that's not been my experience. In those moments when/where we clash, we talk through it as best we can.
 
PrissiSippi said:
I don't think we have the same financial goals. And we had different upbringings. It's been causing us a lot of mini drama lately and lack of communication. I feel like a failure. I legit don't know how to talk to him. I was brought up with people talking to me blunt need shuts down this way. But I'm too lazy to sugar coat stuff or know what's okay to sugar coat and what to not. This along with the baby thing. Is really just hurting us right now. Prayers needed.
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Brains and Beauty, I'll add you and your DH to my prayer list.
 
Thanks everyone. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever gone through both mentally and physically. I wasn't too far along but it's amazing what it takes out of you. I'm exhausted. September has been a hard month. I was hit by a woman who ran a red light.....luckily no injuries. And less than a week after I got my car back, someone slashed my tires! And now this. I hate September.

The bright spot is that we are looking for a house and found one we love that's near family. That's so hard in their neighborhood! We're putting in an offer today. *fingers crossed*
 
Briabiggles said:
Thanks everyone. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever gone through both mentally and physically. I wasn't too far along but it's amazing what it takes out of you. I'm exhausted. September has been a hard month. I was hit by a woman who ran a red light.....luckily no injuries. And less than a week after I got my car back, someone slashed my tires! And now this. I hate September.

The bright spot is that we are looking for a house and found one we love that's near family. That's so hard in their neighborhood! We're putting in an offer today. *fingers crossed*
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Oh wow! I'm hoping October goes better for you. Get some rest and do some meditation. Sending relaxation and baby dust your way.
 
I saw my very manly husband cry today. He is as burly and manly as they come

He never cries.

He is so upset. His mom called him and said she'd been walking all this time on a broken foot (in 3 places). He's angry bc she is so selfless and won't care for herself. She walked away without treatment bc she didn't have $200 for the deductible. He said he would have transferred the money. She didn't even think of asking. His Vietnam veteran dad is ****ing crazy, all these years feeding conspiracy theories of experiments and even at the height of her pain he told her to see her vascular doctor. Its so late now I told them to tell her to go to the ER. She'd have her cast/walking boot, meds and an MD appt. black ppl gotta do better. Its a long background but she and FIL are non-compliant diabetics and hypertensive.

All I could do is hold my 2 year old in one arm (its her b day) and hold him in the other.

Wife life
 
@naturalgyrl5199 It is something about men and their mothers, my DH was like that too when his mother decided to have a surgery. The MD imo really did not know what was wrong with her but I knew the root cause was her diabetes and we wanted to help her . We are really into health and healing yourself naturally . She decided to do the surgery anyway. DH just broke down and cried. I hope your husband feels better and your MIL gets well.
 
Lol he texted me: you look so beautiful in the choir stand. You're glowing.

I wanted to say it's because of the a million lights they have on stage but I kept my peace and accepted that compliment with pride and was just as giddy as a high schooler. I'm goofy though.

naturalgrl Happy Birthday to your lil one and I'm hopping your MIL gets some treatment. We only have one life to live!
 
PrissiSippi said:
I don't think we have the same financial goals. And we had different upbringings. It's been causing us a lot of mini drama lately and lack of communication. I feel like a failure. I legit don't know how to talk to him. I was brought up with people talking to me blunt need shuts down this way. But I'm too lazy to sugar coat stuff or know what's okay to sugar coat and what to not. This along with the baby thing. Is really just hurting us right now. Prayers needed.
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Have you considered writing your concerns on paper and sharing them with him?
 
CafedeBelleza said:
Have you considered writing your concerns on paper and sharing them with him?
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I like that idea. I just don't want to beat the horse to death. I don't know how to voice my concerns and not sound condescending. I don't feel I am being this way because I have my own areas I need to work on and I've voiced them but still.
 
PrissiSippi said:
I like that idea. I just don't want to beat the horse to death. I don't know how to voice my concerns and not sound condescending. I don't feel I am being this way because I have my own areas I need to work on and I've voiced them but still.
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Writing it gives you an opportunity to edit it and make it positive. Plus you can watch him read it and read his reaction and respond accordingly. Maybe even make a list of goals for yourself, goals for the two of you, then ask him to add his. Like a venn diagram
 
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