Re: Married Ladies/or those in serious Relationships: Where or HOW did you meet your
Hey Everyone - I hope you don't mind but I wanted to share the search from the male perspective from a relative who got married a couple of months ago.
Kenneth Meets His Princess!
God's blessing comes into view
Well, you might think that this story starts from when me and the love of my life first met, but in actuality it started back when I was 14. I had been praying for a real love to come into my life--someone that would love and celebrate me and I her. It seemed like everyone had a girl in their life except me--so I guess I was envious because other people seemed to have a relationship while I didn't. Through my life's experiences, I started seeing all the wrong things that people would do in relationships...things that wound up hurting the people involved rather than enhancing and breathing life into the relationship. I started asking God if He would bless me with a wife one day because I wanted someone to love and to reciprocate that love in return. Ultimately, I wanted to do things God's way rather than my own way.
I had been in a couple of short-lived dating relationships, and each time I started to not only learn about the other person, but also myself. I learned that I was very immature and superficial in alot of ways when it came to relationships. So, one day I asked God if he would grant me wisdom to know who to pursue as far as a relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. Man, that had to be one of my biggest challenges with my relationship with God. It seemed like every woman that I wanted to date, He would either say "no", or somehow or another things just wouldn't work out like how I planned it. This struggle with finding the right person--along with all the normal anxieties and depression that goes with it--continued for some time until one day at UGA....
There she was...the love of my life. Joselyn. Everything that I wanted in a mate--beautiful, believed in Jesus as Lord, intelligent. There was just one problem...I wasn't seeing her as such at the time. Perhaps I suffered an injury from playing basketball or fell while running the treadmill at the SPACenter--I have no clue--but I just wasn't seeing her as the gem that she was and is at that moment in time. She had come out to Timothy Campus Ministries' Friday Night Bible study with her friend Rita. We became friends and hung out every now and again, but I was totally blinded to the fact that I was staring my future wife in the face every bible study. All the while, I continued my search for my bride to be.
After we graduated from UGA, Joselyn and I would talk on the phone every now and then to check on each other. We would always drive together to Family and Friends day at Timothy Baptist Church in Athens every year. Still oblivious to my wife being right under my nose, I continued my search. After one disappointment after another, I was pretty much about to give up. I got tired of being hurt, feeing rejected, and not being celebrated or loved by the women I dated. I had talked to Joselyn about some of my dating woes, and she told me about some of her experiences, too. We went from talking on the phone every now and then to talking almost every day. Finally, we started going out together--this was last year when we started dating. Then, for the first time, God had opened my eyes and showed me my wife.
We continued dating exclusively until our engagement that took place during Spring Break on March 31st of 2007 in Savannah, Georgia. I was so nervous. I kept replaying in my mind how I was going to propose to her--was it going to be on the beach, or in a restaurant, or on the tour trolly? Fortunately, God had things all figured out. We were in all those situations where it might have been a perfect time to ask her, but I never had the ring on me--it was still packed in the suitcase at the hotel. While we were on the beach--our last stop before going back to the hotel for the evening--I remember God giving me a little bit of wisdom, and a brilliant plan. I told Princess (Joselyn's pet name I gave her) that I had a gift for her back at the hotel. Her eyes lit up like two of the brightest stars in the night sky. She asked what it was--I told her I couldn't tell her until we got back to the hotel. Needless to say, she was anxious to get back to the hotel. When we got back, I told her to close her eyes and don't peek and hold out her left hand. I got on one knee and at 7:15 PM that day, I asked Joselyn if she would make me the happiest man in the world. The rest, as they say, is history.....
If you want to hear her side of the story you may want to read it at their website link it is
http://www.mywedding.com/kennethandjoselynswedding/stories.html
That comment is a pet peeve of mine because I hate hearing people bash the women in my city. I'm already a smartazz by nature so he was already gettin an earful of snarky remarks but he pissed me off after that little comment so I turned on full blown *****-mode!
His response to my behavior really impressed me. I know a player when I see one because I can spit game with the best of them but he was different. He shouldnt have been bothered with me to be honest, yet he remained patient poised gentleman throughout. He even made his friend offer me & my friend a ride home after I rejected his offer to pay our cab fare.
The rest is history lol
I didn't want my family to flip out, because they would. They know now and are fine with it, they love him.
