average to whom though?
maybe these men dont think they're average?
I agree.
I've always said time and time again that what we as WOMEN think men want/like in a woman or a wife, usually is NOT the same as what MEN actually really want or like.
I think that there is often a huge gap between what women think is important and what actually is important. Like many things, the way that women compare themselves against other women has everything to do with women making themselves feel better about themselves than with what is actually true. The same phenomenon is observed in threads about overweight women having SOs and DHs.
Anyway, it's very possible that *some* women who are very beautiful learned to rely on that and didn't develop much more, or they also probably get hit on a lot more by men who view them as a sex target even if they're not into them for anything serious. Very few people actually commit to someone because of their looks; that might be a part of the attraction, but being in a relationship is based on other factors.
^^THIS!!!
Exactly.
That's why when it comes to men, I don't even really try anymore.
*shrugs* I used to wonder why whenever I would go out dressed to the nines I would get a lot of men LOOKING (Sure!) but very rarely would I ever get good quality men coming up to me, asking me out on a date, etc. I'd get men staring, and saying "hello" and all that, but very rarely do I get asked out when I'm all dressed up.
But let me be running into the Target with no make up on, a pair of sweats and my hair just doing it's own thing, and guess what?? I actually get MORE men (and people in general) wanting to talk to me! Go FIGURE!!
Honestly, I really think it's pretty simple. I think women who are SUPER beautiful are intimidating to men...plain and simple. I think they may like what they see, but they either feel like a woman THAT gorgeous probably already has a man already, or is SUPER picky.
In fact, many guys I know used to chase very attractive women, but after dealing with SOME of them (notice I said
SOME, not all
) they found that a lot of times some of these women were either stuck up, high maintanance, didn't treat them right, or just DIFFICULT in general to deal with. I agree too w/the person who said that it seems like highly attractive seem to have problems in their love lives.
I don't think this is a general RULE, but I think I have seen a lot of attractive women have issues w/romantic partners, but then again I've also seen a lot of avg and even ugly women having problems too! So, who knows.....maybe we just ALL have romantic issues lol
Bottom line, I will ALWAYS agree that a wonderful personality is hands down much more important than good looks. The looks may get you in the door with a guy, but it won't keep you in the HOUSE.
I think when men finally settle down and get married, believe it or not it very rarely has anything to do w/looks.
In fact, when men talk about their wives/their fiancee's the word beautiful/sexy is hardly mentioned. Why? Because it's usually the QUALITIES that their woman possesses that means much more to them. Now, of course a guy has to find you attractive in order to even want to spend time with you, but when he falls in love, it's NOT about looks. Good-looking women are a dime a dozen. But a woman who makes him FEEL good, compliments him (as in being a compliment), supports him, is tender, gentle, kind-hearted, etc. THESE are the qualities most men are looking for.
I think sometimes, not all, that some beautiful women are looking for the same level of attractiveness they are and wont settle for less. Like my sister, she is beautiful, and I am not saying that because she is my sister. But she has always been expectionally beautiful, well she is single now too
. She was engaged at one point in her life, but she has always been extra hard on guys. She wouldn't talk to them if their ears was too big or if they had a big head.ALL the guys she dated has been very attractive, but losers too.
She feel like since she is beautiful she won't give a "decent" looking guy a chance. She has passed up alot of great guys because of that. Now average looking girls may not be that caught up in the looks departments. Dont get me wrong, I am not saying we are dating Shreks, but alot of times if the guy is an overall nice guy you wont typically just turned down an "average" looking guy . This is just an observation.
You're right...I've seen this happen too.
erplexed
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