Wow! This is a fascinating thread. I don't think the intent of most of the people on this thread was to demean or degrade black men...or black women to exalt white men. And while I understand the circumstances that most black women find themselves in--myself included--there's something to be said about the prevalence of single black women. Statistics claim that a single black woman--regardless of economic or social status--has a greater chance at winning the lottery than finding a suitable black mate. Now, what these numbers mean by "suitable" is both objective and subjective.
The objective aspect of this is that there's no denying the numbers. The ratio of black women to black men is nearly 2:1 in most geographic places. In Atlanta where I'm originally from, for instance, I understand that the ratio is 3:1. In D.C. it's about the same. And there's no denying that the black community is confronted with a host of social and economic problems/conditions that render it less likely that black women (and men, for that matter) get married. The high unemployment rate, for instance, is an example. We cannot refute these facts.
The subjective aspect of this is that we are simply confusing circumstance with preference. If I were to say that I the likelihood of me being with a white man is greater due to my social/economic circumstance, that's different than asserting a preference for white men because they are superior to black men in terms of________ (fill in the blank).
I am assuming that most of us, including myself, would love nothing better than to have a nurturing black man as our life partners. However, I am confronted with a number of confounding circumstances that simply make the probability of that less likely. This is NOT to say that there are no good, decent black men out there. Or, that white men are "better," more committed to their relationships than black men. White men cheat. White men lie. But there are cultural differences between the races than explain why most whites marry and most blacks don't.
I live in Washington, D.C., and there's no question that there are cultural differences/explanations for why blacks tend to marry less than whites. Some of it can be explained by economic conditions, but when you rarely see black families loving and caring for each other in public, spending time with one another in nurturing relationships, it does make one wonder. Please...I'm NOT saying that there are NO black families like this, but when people started questioning the authenticity of Claire and Cliff Huxtable 20 years ago, we have to be honest about the state of the black family in this society.
Speaking of D.C., here's a recent article that was in the Post regarding blacks and their idea of marriage. It made me so depressed and upset, but this is a very real phenomenon. If you get a moment, please read:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/03/25/AR2006032500029.html
To those of you who are blessed to have found your life partner or soul mate, hold on to what you got...for dear life!
I like your answer ^ 
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2. How did you meet?
....god I wish well could just 'hook up sometimes' damn morals 
. Interracial relationship happen here but undercover. Racism is alive and the CA's aren't afraid to show it with there rebel flags, celebration of Rebert E. Lee day on Dr. King's b-day, and their tri kappa marches 
erplexed. Good Luck ladies. I've never had the opportunity nor will i ever have the opportunity to date white and it just won't happen here in the racist south.I can tell that none of you ladies are from the Deep South
I can tell that none of you ladies are from the Deep South
I think your beautiful. You guys make an attractive couple. Congratulations! (I'm late) I like this thread.
Caucasian Americans
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*crowd cheers, cue balloon release. Camera pans back, cut to commerical.*
*Game show hostess voice* Thank you for playing, "Who's Married to a White Man." You have won, uh, *rifling thru tote bag*, uh... *pulls a slightly smushed object from its depths[/i]"An apple cinnamon cereal bar!"
*crowd cheers, cue balloon release. Camera pans back, cut to commerical.*
UmSumayyah, you're funny.
At these questions! I don't care if I get stoned for this, but most of the black female/ white male couples I've seen the white men have looked like this: http://www.grimmemennesker.dk/data/media/1/691.jpg or like this: http://sacandolavuelta.bitacoras.com/nerd.jpg 
Really? Maybe that's that "typical white man" look that longhairlover was talking about.
I love a story with a happy ending2. How did you meet? On the job. He was a consultant and I wanted to make a white female "friend" (who would constantly tell me that black men wanted her so bad and say things like black men are crazy about white women) jealous and to show her that it went both ways, so I flirted with him. I chose him because my "friend" and I both worked in accounting so we knew how much he was being paid as a consultant. I didn't want just any ole white dude, I wanted someone that was really gonna get under her skin. We went out on a date and had the best time ever. Truth is, I had NO attraction to white men at all, but I just wanted to shut this ***** up. Turns out, he was my soul mate.
I can't say that most of the WM I've seen with BW have looked like this, but dude in the second link has defintely been well represented.
There have been a few occasions where the white men have been GOREGOUS (never an in between lol) and the black women... not so much. I'm sure there are more variety of BW/WM couples in Massachusetts, but I've never seen it lol.
There have been a few occasions where the white men have been GOREGOUS (never an in between lol) and the black women... not so much. I'm sure there are more variety of BW/WM couples in Massachusetts, but I've never seen it lol.
NO YOU DIDN'T. That first dude was straight up busted to the n-th degree. As someone who has dated interracially before, I'm sad to say that this does seem to be the case. The guys I dated were decent looking, but I don't see many BW/WM couples where the guy is "dreamy" and the woman is average. I've seen two good looking BW/WM together, but too often I'm seeing gorgeous sisters with average or unattractive white men.
I know looks aren't everything; however, f I ever date a white male again, he has to be good looking...I'd expect this from any male regardless. Just being real.
i am currently engaged to my finacee. we have been dating for 5 yrs and he his 100 percent white. i have always been attracted to white males...