Hmm, I don't think he was in jail but now I have to ask
. I'm not sure what to think about that because most women I know want a relationship ultimately with the person they are dating. Plus, I don't feel like he really answered the question. Like is he trying to say all the feelings were unrequited? They all had somebody else on the side? I just find it odd that he spent five years dating and having sex with people and didn't make a connection or nobody wanted a relationship. I'm still confused and on the fence. I mean I guess you're supposed to sew your oats in your twenties, but my heart just doesn't work like that so I don't understand it.
He's been having caual sex for the last 5 years with no committments.
Am I wrong for feeling like that's nasty?
He's taking me out soon. I'll see what he's about but I'm dealing with him with a long handled spoon.
So I asked him about it. I'm impatient. He basically said that he was dating during that time. Some he was having sex with and some he was not. He said he has not found anyone "worth" being in a relationship with.
I asked him why not. His response:
"Maybe because they already had someone just waiting for them to come around. Some I weren't sexual with we just didn't click at all"
I'm not trying have a man that's been passed around, so to speak. That's a turn off for me.
I wanted to add ....
A flag for me is if he left a trail of broken hearts in his past. I would be interested to know if there were any "misunderstandings" in his past were he was involved with someone who didn't realize that she wasn't in a relationship.
I was assuming before that he was not sexually active, but, if he is sexually active then I won't lie. I would want to know how he was getting his needs met. (I would be wondering. Not sure if I would ask though)
I like guys like him because you can rule them out quickly if they are trying to be deceitful. His actions should have him sorted out quickly because you seem like you know what "you" want.
What I hate are the guys who do and say all the right things for..... 3 months.... just long enough to begin a relationship and then like clockwork they CHANGE. Almost to the day they start acting the fool and cutting up....
I've seen that have more of an emotional impact on my family and or friends than a guy that says, let's hang out and see if we are compatible.... to me that means NO SEX.
The minute he pushes for sex in my opinion is when his actions are not lining up with his 'talk' of relationship.
. I'm all for reformed, disease-free male whores.
I'm not disappointed. There are men out there that aren't promiscuous. I think that's safe to say. There's no need to settle for a ho. (My own personal preference)
relationship is the key word. It's ok to have sexual chemistry and even sexual tension and flirting. That's the fun part of dating and getting to know each other. But, as things progress feelings should be expressed in words and actions prior to sexual relations.
I would personally think so. I would definitely go extra slow with him with that extra information. I wouldn't feel comfortable sleeping with him, until he has proved he's not going to put me in that "casual" sex category. And just be extra safe, he will need to get tested before I do anything sexual with him if that was me.
If the ho'ing was a lot, yes. I would not date him even if he changed.
