I agree....
If we're talking literally, then yes....you can never quite tell men's TRUE intentions until they've proven themselves.
I usually put men in either 1 of 5 categories:
1) Attracted to me
2) Attracted to me AND interested in me as a person (wants to know who I am, my likes, my dislikes, etc)
3) Attracted to me, interested in me as a person AND interested in having a REAL relationship with me (he wants to date me in other words)
4) Attracted to me, interested in me as a person, interested in dating me, AND AVAILABLE to do so (in other words....he's not taken, married, gay, etc....He's SINGLE, and AVAILABLE to date ME)
5) NOT INTERESTED
Category #4 is the category that I pay attention to. Those other categories (while flattering) are NOT going to get me in a relationship.
When I was younger, I erroneously would assume that a man who was attracted to me, or even interested in me as a person was also a man who wanted to DATE me.
NOT NECESSARILY SO.
I had to learn that the hard way, but I'm glad I finally learned that lesson.
I don't even pay attention to guys in categories 1, 2, 3, or 5...(DEFINITELY not those in Category 5
). I only pay attention to/or give guys the time of day if they fall into
Category #4.
It might be my own little quirky rule, but it has steered me pretty well thus far.