Colliecole
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My SO is a man who likes really rough sex, ya know throw me on the bed, yank the clothes off and proceed with NO caution etc...Which is cool, but sometimes a girl wants some intimacy. There was one time when we were doing some foreplay, I told him to slow down and he whisperes, “I am a man. You’re having sex with a man…” and kept doing what he was doing. I’m thinking, and I gonna have to get with a woman just to get some intimacy??!! You gotta be kidding me.
So, last night was one of those nights. I Had a long day and I wanted to “make love” not just f***…so we got into it. I kept telling him to slow down, chill out and eventually he got frustrated and yelled “Aw forget it!” and got on his computer. I was PISSED! So later that night after I cooled down and we were in bed, I told him how I was feeling. I told him that I think he’s selfish because he refuses to come out of his box. I’ve been everything from a catholic school girl to a dominatrix in bed for him, but he rarely does what I want. Even when he goes south, he does it all hard to the point where I’ll just pull his face away from it...So I explained all that to him. Told him that I gotta be warmed up. Told him ALL my preferences in plain English................. and he listened! He agreed, told me he can se where I’m coming from, and said that I should’ve told him this stuff because he’d have never known. You gotta understand I’ve been dreading talking to him about this for a while. I thought my subtle hints and whatnot would get through eventually but they never did.
......I guess the reason I’m even sharing is because there’s been a lot of talk on here about what we like/don’t like, and we gotta express that to our men because they are SLOW…and they’ll never get it. Either they’re slow, or we’re just to complicated, but either way, you damn near gotta write it down for these men.
So, last night was one of those nights. I Had a long day and I wanted to “make love” not just f***…so we got into it. I kept telling him to slow down, chill out and eventually he got frustrated and yelled “Aw forget it!” and got on his computer. I was PISSED! So later that night after I cooled down and we were in bed, I told him how I was feeling. I told him that I think he’s selfish because he refuses to come out of his box. I’ve been everything from a catholic school girl to a dominatrix in bed for him, but he rarely does what I want. Even when he goes south, he does it all hard to the point where I’ll just pull his face away from it...So I explained all that to him. Told him that I gotta be warmed up. Told him ALL my preferences in plain English................. and he listened! He agreed, told me he can se where I’m coming from, and said that I should’ve told him this stuff because he’d have never known. You gotta understand I’ve been dreading talking to him about this for a while. I thought my subtle hints and whatnot would get through eventually but they never did.
......I guess the reason I’m even sharing is because there’s been a lot of talk on here about what we like/don’t like, and we gotta express that to our men because they are SLOW…and they’ll never get it. Either they’re slow, or we’re just to complicated, but either way, you damn near gotta write it down for these men.
So true.....
Not to say that I would leave him as a result of this, but since we r talking marriage I would hate that 5 years later I cant take it no longer and start to look for a Sexy Talker, lol. 
