MissYocairis
Well-Known Member
Personally, I'd suspect your clingy because your subconscious is screaming at you that while you are, without a choice, totally committed to the child in your belly, he, on the other hand, is not.
He's not married to you, which might give you a bit of a feeling of peace, as that is an indicator of commitment, and having a child is no certainty of a father sticking around.
The fact that he is now 'changing', as well - going out, spending money that might be better saved towards baby needs, and basically not changing into a role of father/provider, while you are, by force, changing into the role of mother/provider.
Nah, you aren't being a paranoid pregnant woman at all. You are seeing that your partner isn't as invested in being a father as you are invested into being a mother - and that's some scary ish.
I'd suggest sitting down and talking to him - on a regular basis over a long period of time, in fact - the next 6 months sounds about right - what he feels that fatherhood is all about. Starting from birth, how does he see himself involved in rearing, protecting, nuturing, and providing for both you - who will be very occupied in childcare, and y'all child. I would talk with him about finances, schooling, clothing, carseats, daycare, college funds, etc, etc, etc. I'd also be sure to focus on the fact that you are going to be changing as well, and that you will be leaning on him a lot more for support, and that you are going to need a lot more of his time, too. Fatherhood is NOT just about money.
And personally, I'd take my tail to the courthouse and get married, too, but that's just me.
Good luck. I hope he realizes it's time to grow up and be a father and provider - and not think that now that you are irrevokably tied to him, now is the time to act a fool.
Yeah...this is it right here. I cannot imagine being pregnant unmarried. Not making a judgment call, just being honest that it would HAVE to make a woman feel some kinda way (as you are feeling).
He's out and about and enjoying life. You are living with a constant reminder that your life will never be the same. He's newly fly and flossing...you're unsettled and anticipating the impending MAJOR changes that your body be subjected to.
You guys are supposed to be enjoying this pregnancy together in JOY...but you can't because you are seeing the sheer permanence of it all. And suddenly, your six year romance just isn't enough anymore...now you need something more permanent and it hasn't occurred to him. You should feel the way you feel. It's your spirit telling you to pay attention and start making some plans...
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