I am Divorcing...

[deltagyrl]

You are courageous to share your story with us.
Please take care of yourself and good luck on your journey back to you.

 

[lthomas1]

I went through it many years ago. Once I left, I never looked back. I never allowed him to abuse me again. He used to call ocassionally and I would hang up as soon as I heard his voice. Eventually he went away and I was grateful. You will be fine and God Bless.

 

[Ms Red]

You WILL get through this. You will be in my prayers. I remember praying for you on your wedding day This too shall pass.

 

[FlyyGyrl]

I am praying for you.

 

[thatscuteright]

(((((((((((((((((((((( HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
You will be in my prayers.
Please check your PM

 

[whosthatgurl]

you definately have my prayers.

 

[Laginappe]

Ditto on all that Lag has said. One question: what does SSDD stand for?

Same Shyt Different Day

 

[hondahoney007]

I'm sorry you had to go thru that. Years ago, I was in an abusive relationship, both mental and physical. It took some time but I got thru it and moved on. You can do it also. It will take some getting thru it but you will get thru it and you will be ok. We are all pulling for you here on the forum.

 

[The Girl]

I have hugs prayers and applause all for you mzcaramelicious07. Please use them as needed

 

[shunta]

Mzcaramel, Im sorry to hear of all your troubles. I remember you being so happy just a few months ago, but you gotta do what you have to do. Im just so happy that you are getting out before its too late. You are a very smart lady. You hang in there and we will be here to support you.

 

[hotshot]

God bless! You have made a step toward self love.

 

[Cien]

MzC...

I am so sorry to hear this!!! I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts....

May God Bless You and Strengthen You...

(((big hug)))

:Rose:

 

[Starian]

Just goes to show you never truly know what someone is going through, in spite of outward appearences.

Kudos to you for finally having the courage to leave. I remember looking at your wedding pis and telling myself I wish I had a wedding like that.

You're such a pretty woman, and it's a shame he doesn't know your worth. Just be strong, and know that you will get through this. *hugs* Praying for you.

 

[AngelicRose07]

i really hope everything works out for the best

 

[caribeandiva]

This situation is so confusing because he never flat out hit me with his fist. I've been pushed, wrestled to the ground, hit up side the head with objects, grabbed up and thrown, kicked, chased, among others, but never flat out punched in the face. And I guess since he didn't hit me with his fist, it was said that he wasn't abusive. The verbal abuse was out of this world. I think that is one reason why I stayed. I started to believe some of things that he screamed two inches from my face every other day.

To my knowledge he did not know about me being on here. I mentioned I checked out hair boards, but that is it.

And to another poster, who mentioned a son, I don't have any children (Thank God!).

sorry to say but all the things you listed are considered physical abuse. i'm glad you're getting out of this relationship while you're still alive. things would only escalate from there. I'll keep you in my prayers.

 

[PhonyBaloney500]

This situation is so confusing because he never flat out hit me with his fist. I've been pushed, wrestled to the ground, hit up side the head with objects, grabbed up and thrown, kicked, chased, among others, but never flat out punched in the face. And I guess since he didn't hit me with his fist, it was said that he wasn't abusive. The verbal abuse was out of this world. I think that is one reason why I stayed. I started to believe some of things that he screamed two inches from my face every other day.

To my knowledge he did not know about me being on here. I mentioned I checked out hair boards, but that is it.

And to another poster, who mentioned a son, I don't have any children (Thank God!).

That's more that enough abuse. Any one of those one time is one time too much. I applaud you for leaving. PLEASE be careful and safe. Make sure wherever you move to you're unlisted online, in phone books, etc.

 

[crlsweetie912]

:update:

Has anyone spoke to the OP? I checked her profile because for some reason, she has been on my mind the past couple of days. She logged on as of 10/1/07. I pray that you are alright MZ and welcome to the dc/md/va area!

 

[lexi08]

:update:

Has anyone spoke to the OP? I checked her profile because for some reason, she has been on my mind the past couple of days. She logged on and posted as of 10/1/07. I pray that you are alright MZ and welcome to the dc/md/va area!

I hope she is ok

 

[mzcaramelicious07]

:update:

Has anyone spoke to the OP? I checked her profile because for some reason, she has been on my mind the past couple of days. She logged on as of 10/1/07. I pray that you are alright MZ and welcome to the dc/md/va area!

Hey Everyone!

Thank you so much for asking about me crlsweetie! I am doing wonderful!! I can not stress enough how wonderful I am doing. I moved to the metro area about 3 months ago, got blessed with a GREAT job and most importantly have peace in my life. I was actually offered 7 out of the 10 positions of which I interviewed and am still getting calls for positions!

I am a different person waking up each day knowing that I no longer have to deal with nonsense! My mind/thinking is healthy, and I am so happy to be myself and not have to tip toe EVERY day because of not knowing what is going to happen next.

I pray everyone is doing well!

Be blessed!


ETA:

Awww....thank you so much ladies for your thoughts and prayers. They were much needed!

I do not want to act like I left the situation and immediately was doing "the bomb" like I am now. For those of you who may still be in a situation that I just got out of, do know that it takes courage and was hard for the first couple of weeks that I left. I didn't leave with a smile on my face, but am smiling now! I did the crying, hurting thing for a few weeks only, then got myself together and made a committment to succeed and not stay in that depression. I made a decision to forgive, not speak negatively about he or his family and to move forward (emotionally). Just wanted to say that.

Be blessed Ladies!

 

[MzLady78]

Thanks for the update!

I'm so glad everything is working out for you!!!

 

[Xavier]

It is nice to see that you are doing well. Thanks for the update. I know many of the ladies here were/are praying for you.

 

[lexi08]

Hey Everyone!

Thank you so much for asking about me crlsweetie! I am doing wonderful!! I can not stress enough how wonderful I am doing. I moved to the metro area about 3 months ago, got blessed with a GREAT job and most importantly have peace in my life. I was actually offered 7 out of the 10 positions of which I interviewed and am still getting calls for positions!

I am a different person waking up each day knowing that I no longer have to deal with nonsense! My mind/thinking is healthy, and I am so happy to be myself and not have to tip toe EVERY day because of not knowing what is going to happen next.

I pray everyone is doing well!

Be blessed,

Brea

I am glad to hear you are doing well

 

[Browndilocks]

Hey Everyone!

Thank you so much for asking about me crlsweetie! I am doing wonderful!! I can not stress enough how wonderful I am doing. I moved to the metro area about 3 months ago, got blessed with a GREAT job and most importantly have peace in my life. I was actually offered 7 out of the 10 positions of which I interviewed and am still getting calls for positions!

I am a different person waking up each day knowing that I no longer have to deal with nonsense! My mind/thinking is healthy, and I am so happy to be myself and not have to tip toe EVERY day because of not knowing what is going to happen next.

I pray everyone is doing well!

Be blessed,

Brea

That's great news. I thought of you a few times as well. I'm glad to hear that things have favorably worked out for you.

 

[MzTami]

Hey Everyone!

Thank you so much for asking about me crlsweetie! I am doing wonderful!! I can not stress enough how wonderful I am doing. I moved to the metro area about 3 months ago, got blessed with a GREAT job and most importantly have peace in my life. I was actually offered 7 out of the 10 positions of which I interviewed and am still getting calls for positions!

I am a different person waking up each day knowing that I no longer have to deal with nonsense! My mind/thinking is healthy, and I am so happy to be myself and not have to tip toe EVERY day because of not knowing what is going to happen next.

I pray everyone is doing well!

Be blessed,

I'm so happy to hear that you are at peace and doing great!

May God continue to bless you. ((((HUGS)))

 

[mzcaramelicious07]

Awww....thank you so much ladies for your thoughts and prayers. They were much needed!

I do not want to act like I left the situation and immediately was doing "the bomb" like I am now. For those of you who may still be in a situation that I just got out of, do know that it takes courage and was hard for the first couple of weeks that I left. I didn't leave with a smile on my face, but am smiling now! I did the crying, hurting thing for a few weeks only, then got myself together and made a committment to succeed and not stay in that depression. I made a decision to forgive, not speak negatively about he or his family and to move forward (emotionally). Just wanted to say that.

Be blessed Ladies!

 

[mzcaramelicious07]

Hey Everyone!

Thank you so much for asking about me crlsweetie! I am doing wonderful!! I can not stress enough how wonderful I am doing. I moved to the metro area about 3 months ago, got blessed with a GREAT job and most importantly have peace in my life. I was actually offered 7 out of the 10 positions of which I interviewed and am still getting calls for positions!

I am a different person waking up each day knowing that I no longer have to deal with nonsense! My mind/thinking is healthy, and I am so happy to be myself and not have to tip toe EVERY day because of not knowing what is going to happen next.

I pray everyone is doing well!

Be blessed,

Brea

Wow...didn't mean to post my name!

 

[MzTami]

Wow...didn't mean to post my name!

I edited my post to exclude your name. Maybe the other ladies/or Mods can do the same.

 

[SweetNic_JA]

Wow...didn't mean to post my name!

I'm glad you are doing well. It sounds like you will be blessed from here on out. Keep strong...and oh, you can edit the last post and remove you given name...you never know who's stalking the board

 

[sunnydaze]

Yah!!!!


I am so glad to hear you are doing well. I too have been thinking about you!!

I am a different person waking up each day knowing that I no longer have to deal with nonsense! My mind/thinking is healthy, and I am so happy to be myself and not have to tip toe EVERY day because of not knowing what is going to happen next.

..and I know exactly how wonderful that feels

 

[PinkAngel]

It feels so good to read this and know that you're okay, that you're loving yourself and succeeding. I'm so glad you're doing so well. Stay on that path & be blessed.