Husband's dumb mouth

[ShiShiPooPoo]

Oh, and I don't think there are levels of jerk. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk IMHO. You don't deserve a jerk.

 

[gabulldawg]

Oh, and I don't think there are levels of jerk. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk IMHO. You don't deserve a jerk.

Great posts, Shishipoopoo!

 

[Te'TahHead]

I woulda have said "Really? Then, I bet people can't believe I'm with YOU" and gave him a dry, phony smile.

But, that probably isn't what you want and/or NEED to hear...so, I am useless at this topic.

 

[apemay1969]

I woulda have said "Really? Then, I bet people can't believe I'm with YOU" and gave him a dry, phony smile.

But, that probably isn't what you want and/or NEED to hear...so, I am useless at this topic.

I think that all the time. I just dont say it.

 

[apemay1969]

Ok. I'm back. Here's my take on it.

My husband is a certified smart ass. We've been together for going on 11 years (4 married) and I swear I never noticed it before we got married. If I ask him something like "Are you going to grill today?" He'll respond "Does it look like I'm going to grill today?" He will say this like he is joking around but hee hee hee I don't like it and one thing that I absolutely DETEST IN LIFE is a sarcastic man.

Anyway, one day he responded like that to something else and I flat out asked him "Why are you so smart alec?" That shut him up. Then when he did it again I said "Boy, When did you become such a smart ass? Have you always been like that?" He said that he had and that he was gonna work on it. THEN when it happened again I flat out cussed his ass out up down inside out and backwards. That's the day I said "Who the f@&^ you think you talking to?" It hasn't occurred again.

The thing about it that is so interesting is that after me cussing him out his parents stopped by and I noticed that that's how his MOM responds to his DAD. So I guess he learned it from her...she's VERY rough and sarcastic.

So, the bottom line is that if you address this with him he may stop. Men aren't very smart sometimes and they don't know that that mess is hurtful. After awhile, that mess will begin to wear down your self-esteem so put a stop to it today. Tell him that you don't like his assholishness and that that wasn't part of the deal. I mean who has to put up with that? Maybe his mom or dad is an ******* and that's where he learned it from. Assholishness is a learned behavior for sure. We're not born an *******. I'm not telling you to cuss him out like I did my DH but EVERY MAN at some point in the relationship needs a good old fashioned cussing out or at the very least a tongue lashing. Men are like children, they will get away with whatever they feel like they can get away with from us. Nip that ish and you'll feel better. You need to get your power back in the relationship.

This response is so awesome. I'm the smart mouth of the family. Your comments have made me think that I probably don't say what he says but I think it. I had to do some self eval after thinking about it. I did talk to him about it also and he said he was just joking.

I heard a comedian say that people do that a lot. They'll say 'Dang you look fat...just kidding" thinking that just kidding will cancel out the insult. My boss does that too and I get confused. LIke, she'll say, we can have that meeting even if such and such doesn't show up, we don't care and then she'll say, just kidding. I can't tell if I should schedule the meeting without such and such or not.

What is that about? Is that a black thing?