Interesting topic OP!
You know, when I was younger (and more naive I'll add lol), I used to think that this saying was a bunch of hog-wash.
I would always argue: "but I want to be madly in love with my husband too! I don't want to end up with someone that loves me to death but I can't stand him."
But now that I'm older and I have more experience I
NOW see what this saying means.
And I completely agree. The quote isn't saying that a woman SHOULDN'T love her husband, or that a woman should just settle for any guy that worships the ground that she walks on. No....I take this quote to mean that a woman should love her husband...yes, BUT...he should love her just a little bit more than she loves him.
Why you may ask??? Simple: Men are different from women, and when a man senses that the woman loves HIM more than he loves her, this just invites all kinds of abuse.
After being in a "relationship" (if you can even call it that
) where I loved the guy so much more than he loved me, I am never going to settle for a relationship like that again.
Not only will the guy have to pursue me hard in the beginning, but he will have to like me just a little bit more than I like him. Because when man loves the woman more than she loves him, he tends to treat her like a
QUEEN. I've seen that relationships are much smoother this way also.
In the relationships I've seen (based on personal experience, and the experiences of my girlfriends) where the WOMAN loved the man more than he loved her, it has never worked out.
Either that, or there was always sooo much
DRAMA in the relationship!
That's why it's so vital for the man to be the one doing the pursuing. Because when he has to work a little bit to get you, he can't help but respect you more than if you just threw yourself up on him. That's just how men (sad to say) think and reason.
Believe me...I've learned my lesson!! There is honestly some truth to this statement.