How to date a white man
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mnemosyne
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Well it's in Cali I guess they figured bw there needed some help? ~_~
Why are two black guys experts on this?
The John panelist looks like he has a 5lb bag of sugar in his tank.
At least they have the line about no negative things stated about black men?
Will this turn into a say something nice thread?
Why are two black guys experts on this?
The John panelist looks like he has a 5lb bag of sugar in his tank.
At least they have the line about no negative things stated about black men?
Will this turn into a say something nice thread?
Renewed1
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I don't agree with the workshop theory. I really think the whole WM/BW is being overthought, it's not that difficult. Men will date what they are attract to and if a BW is interested in a WM then she should approach him.
I strongly believe that WM just need to feel comfortable with the thought that BW are willing to date outside their race.
I strongly believe that WM just need to feel comfortable with the thought that BW are willing to date outside their race.
tocktick
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I've seen many "how-snag-a-white-dude" dating books, blogs and now I can add a seminar to the list that only target BW. Yet, I'm waiting to see one targeting WM (or other races for that matter 
). I suppose one might argue that they have "more options" but there is no guide for them about how to handle friends and family, get a BW's attention successfully, understand cultural differences etc. These kinds of things seem very one-sided.
I think people should be more open to date non-BM (unless they are steadfast in never dating out for whatever reason). However, dating out of your race really shouldn't/doesn't need to take manuals and seminars. Ultimately, men are men, imo. Although I can't see how this event would really help one in their pursuit to find WM in the real world, it's cool if people get something positive from it though. *shrug*
). I suppose one might argue that they have "more options" but there is no guide for them about how to handle friends and family, get a BW's attention successfully, understand cultural differences etc. These kinds of things seem very one-sided. I think people should be more open to date non-BM (unless they are steadfast in never dating out for whatever reason). However, dating out of your race really shouldn't/doesn't need to take manuals and seminars. Ultimately, men are men, imo. Although I can't see how this event would really help one in their pursuit to find WM in the real world, it's cool if people get something positive from it though. *shrug*
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Crystalicequeen123
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Exactly.
Because I have usually not had any problem attracting a non-black man outside of the United States. It's the stigma here that is the problem...not the men. WM probably are interested in some BW, but since BW don't usually make it widely-known that they are "open" to dating men of other races, I think men of other races (WM especially) don't even bother.
Remember, men are attracted to SUCCESS. If a man senses that he will be *successful* when he approaches a woman (she won't bite his head off in other words lol), then he will be even more attracted to her.
But if there is any doubt, then most men won't even bother...especially if they could easily just find someone of their OWN race/color.
MD_Lady
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All I can say right now is WOW.
Okay, I've got a response now... Even though I do think this is a bit serious
I do appreciate how the event was created "out of love for black women". IMO, (black) women spend too much time adjusting their behavior to please and gain acceptance from (black) men, even when doing so interferes with their happiness. I've always thought BW should spend less time feeling jilted by BM who prefer non-BW and more time pursuing relationships with men who are interested in them (be those men BM or non-BM). Hopefully, the women who attend this seminar will get some positive information that will help them find Mr. Right (of any race).
Okay, I've got a response now... Even though I do think this is a bit serious
I do appreciate how the event was created "out of love for black women". IMO, (black) women spend too much time adjusting their behavior to please and gain acceptance from (black) men, even when doing so interferes with their happiness. I've always thought BW should spend less time feeling jilted by BM who prefer non-BW and more time pursuing relationships with men who are interested in them (be those men BM or non-BM). Hopefully, the women who attend this seminar will get some positive information that will help them find Mr. Right (of any race).
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Crystalicequeen123
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I know right??
I'm not quite sure how I feel about this "seminar". I mean, I know people have the right to give seminars on whatever topics they so choose, but at the same time...something just doesn't sit well with me about this.
~NanCeBoTwin~
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Seriously???
If a man senses that he will be *successful* when he approaches a woman (she won't bite his head off in other words lol), then he will be even more attracted to her.
ITA. The major benefit of this is some positive PR. I don't think I could bring myself to attend (would love to be a fly on the wall though) but just having this "out there" might help some guy work up the nerve to ask out a cute black girl.
Those panelists canNOT be real!!! Those look like stock photos of models. I guess it's possible, tho.
TheGrimPhreaker
Active Member
So now a piece of mushroom is stuck in my nostril because I laughed so hard while I had mushroom pizza in my mouth......
So they think BW need help so bad to date out of their race, that we need a workshop?....Lord have mercy...
So they think BW need help so bad to date out of their race, that we need a workshop?....Lord have mercy...
andromeda
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[in Mr.Garrison voice] mmm-kaayy...
Even though I don't have a problem with ir dating and date all types of men myself, this is sort of disturbing. The images and copy on the flier are like a print version of a Billy Mays infomercial:
[In shouting voice]
"BW, have you had trouble finding a mate? You're not alone! Today in America there are x number of BM and x+1 number of BW, so your prospects of finding a mate are dismal if you do nothing."
"Fortunately, there's a solution. Get a white guy! Yes, it sounds crazy but with our proven method it works! Just look at all these famous BW/non-BM couples. See how happy they are? That can be you too! Just attend our workshop and learn how to free your mind of those delusions that you'll actually meet a decent black guy. Our workshop will be moderated by a panel of guys who have an uncanny resemblance to stock photo images of male models."
"But wait there's more! When you attend our workshop, not only will you get to slough off all that cumbersome dignity and self-respect, you'll also get... a free lunch!"
"But hurry, seating is limited and tickets are selling fast..."
On another note, I had no idea about Melody Hobson and George Lucas!
Even though I don't have a problem with ir dating and date all types of men myself, this is sort of disturbing. The images and copy on the flier are like a print version of a Billy Mays infomercial:
[In shouting voice]
"BW, have you had trouble finding a mate? You're not alone! Today in America there are x number of BM and x+1 number of BW, so your prospects of finding a mate are dismal if you do nothing."
"Fortunately, there's a solution. Get a white guy! Yes, it sounds crazy but with our proven method it works! Just look at all these famous BW/non-BM couples. See how happy they are? That can be you too! Just attend our workshop and learn how to free your mind of those delusions that you'll actually meet a decent black guy. Our workshop will be moderated by a panel of guys who have an uncanny resemblance to stock photo images of male models."
"But wait there's more! When you attend our workshop, not only will you get to slough off all that cumbersome dignity and self-respect, you'll also get... a free lunch!"
"But hurry, seating is limited and tickets are selling fast..."
On another note, I had no idea about Melody Hobson and George Lucas!
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BrooklynSouth
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Well, they will make some money and if you look at it as a chance to meet a possible mate..go right ahead because open minded hoping for that IR match folk will be all over it. I do think the audience will be 90% black women.
BroadstreetBully
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Wow...I can see it now...BOOTCAMP! Sounds like some type of 'evacuation' seminar.
They have a website
http://www.blackweekly.com/freeyourmind/
from the website...
Please don't stone me yet...I applaud the effort but something is just off.
They have a website
http://www.blackweekly.com/freeyourmind/
from the website...
Please don't stone me yet...I applaud the effort but something is just off.
Choclatcotton
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wow! what an insult and slap in the face.
PeanutButterandHoney
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We'd be pissing our panties if there was a "how to date a white woman" workshop.
Princess Tam Tam
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erplexed 
You know Almaz, I thought this at first too, but I'm wondering if this is a way for WHITE MEN to meet black women. Yeah, they'll be presenters and speakers, etc., but I'm quite sure there'll be some white dudes looking to date their preference.
I've lived in LA for a few years now and I can honestly say that the black population isn't very high. The blacks who have lived here since forever live in their OWN neighborhoods and don't like white folks. They just don't. So any white man that wants to date a bw will have to deal with one that's not from LA.
I don't mind the seminar. It's in Culver City not too far from me. I won't be attending though. Like others have said, you don't need a "class" on how to date a white dude. They're just like every other man with some slight cultural differences.
If a white AMERICAN man is interested in forming a relationship with a black woman then he's already aware of how some people will "think" even his own family.
I find that more minority families are accepting of these relationships than white ones.
I've seen many interracial couplings in LA, so it's not a big thing here or I think ANYWHERE anymore.
DragonPearl
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There is a workshop on everything under the sun. Why not a workshop on that? If some women think they can benefit from it, I see nothing wrong with that. We've had threads on here with women new to dating IR who have posted asking questions on the subject.
DragonPearl
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The OP's title is misleading. It's not a "How to date a white man" workshop. From what I read it's a workshop on dating IR. That means not just white men.
Also, black men as a group have had no problem dating the rainbow and they obviously don't need a workshop, LOL, while black women as a group are the least likely to venture outside of their group.
And no, I am not part of the workshop and I am not being paid to promote it.
I am just speaking my mind. 
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Bunny77
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The OP's title is misleading. It's not a "How to date a white man" workshop. From what I read it's a workshop on dating IR. That means not just white men.
Also, black men as a group have had no problem dating the rainbow and they obviously don't need a workshop, LOL, while black women as a group are the least likely to venture outside of their group.
And no, I am not part of the workshop and I am not being paid to promote it.
That's kind of how I see it.
I mean, I look at some of the questions folks have on here about dating IR, and I just get the general sense that many BW might be open in theory to the idea, but are letting fear and misconceptions hold them back.
And this is really no different than all of those workshops/seminars/"discussion forums" that black folks have been having in their black student unions in college or in their women's groups or whatever about BW's dating woes and all that jazz. The IR topic comes up, but I find that in general, a lot of BW seem to enjoy talking about their dating problems more than actually doing much to solve them.
So if this workshop is a step towards taking action for some people, then it served its purpose.
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