TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
I seriously think that I have somehow entered an episode of "Single White Female" If you don't understand the reference to that movie... you are a youngin!!!
So, I came across this "colleague" a few years ago at work. Since there's not many women of color in our environment, we make it a point to try to acknowledge / get to know each other. After our initial introduction, we didn't interact much outside of a passing "hello" because we work in different departments.
Around the beginning of the summer, we had an interdepartmental meeting and we talked more, etc. We went out to lunch a couple times (I consoled her about turning 40), but as we talked more, I started sensing that she may be a bit... off. She started doing things that made me uncomfortable.
For example, I shared with her that I was upset with the guy I was dating for inviting me to a white party at the last minute because I didn't like white parties or have the time/energy to buy a white outfit in time for the event. The next day I get a skin tight white dress delivered to my door from Amazon. She then texted me later that day like "SURPRISE!!!" When I asked her how she got my address, she reminded me that I had invited her to my Dad's birthday party and my address was on the invitation. I said "Thank You," but asked her to send it back. I even told her that I found the gesture a little "off putting" but she dismissed it as "just being nice"
She then literally "popped up" at an after work birthday celebration my coworkers threw for me and paid for my meal. Again, a nice gesture, but it felt... off. She has since insisted on sending me random texts which I rarely answer. It's like she's looking for a reason to text me. It will be things like "I was in the store and saw something I thought you'd like" or "Hey, I bought this new necklace. We should go out so I can rock it" or really strange GIFs of dogs massaging cats. It's STRANGE.
I've tried to be nice and say, you're making me uncomfortable. She clearly doesn't get the hint of me not responding to her texts. I don't want to be a B****, but she's creeping me out now, and there's a chance that my department could be moving to the same floor as her department.
Is there a way that I can say STEP OFF tactfully without this getting even weirder?
I know how dudes feel when someone just won't leave them alone. She's a lil cra cra.
So, I came across this "colleague" a few years ago at work. Since there's not many women of color in our environment, we make it a point to try to acknowledge / get to know each other. After our initial introduction, we didn't interact much outside of a passing "hello" because we work in different departments.
Around the beginning of the summer, we had an interdepartmental meeting and we talked more, etc. We went out to lunch a couple times (I consoled her about turning 40), but as we talked more, I started sensing that she may be a bit... off. She started doing things that made me uncomfortable.
For example, I shared with her that I was upset with the guy I was dating for inviting me to a white party at the last minute because I didn't like white parties or have the time/energy to buy a white outfit in time for the event. The next day I get a skin tight white dress delivered to my door from Amazon. She then texted me later that day like "SURPRISE!!!" When I asked her how she got my address, she reminded me that I had invited her to my Dad's birthday party and my address was on the invitation. I said "Thank You," but asked her to send it back. I even told her that I found the gesture a little "off putting" but she dismissed it as "just being nice"
She then literally "popped up" at an after work birthday celebration my coworkers threw for me and paid for my meal. Again, a nice gesture, but it felt... off. She has since insisted on sending me random texts which I rarely answer. It's like she's looking for a reason to text me. It will be things like "I was in the store and saw something I thought you'd like" or "Hey, I bought this new necklace. We should go out so I can rock it" or really strange GIFs of dogs massaging cats. It's STRANGE.
I've tried to be nice and say, you're making me uncomfortable. She clearly doesn't get the hint of me not responding to her texts. I don't want to be a B****, but she's creeping me out now, and there's a chance that my department could be moving to the same floor as her department.
Is there a way that I can say STEP OFF tactfully without this getting even weirder?
I know how dudes feel when someone just won't leave them alone. She's a lil cra cra.