Has anyone ever done a year of celibacy?

I've done 5 years, hated it but it was after a divorce and I got my degree and 2 promotions so I kept myself busy. Won't do it intentionally but it happens for a year just because I keep coming up with losers.
 
I'm going on year 4 as we speak. I just wanted some time to myself to find ME, lose this weight and prepare myself for grad school and all it entails. I'll probably be breaking my celibacy soon though:look::look::blush:

I am getting through it by focusing on the things I want to work on, my weight loss, finding myself, working on getting rid of my depression completely and getting myself ready for grad school.

It has not been easy. I still think about sex.every.single.day:look: I don't have any advice on how to get through it unfortunately.

For me, it seems the longer i go without sex, the more I want it. How strange is that?:lol::rolleyes: Isn't it supposed to be the reverse?:lol::nono:
 
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Also there's a guy here at work who is constantly testing my ability to withstand temptation with his fine self and sexy a$$:lol: lawd!


Are you ladies finding that the older you get, the more your hormones seem to be raging out of control? with seemingly a mind of their own?:look:
 
Another thing that I think I should add: The longer I go, the more I fear breaking my celibacy with some terrible peen :look:

I now have a lightweight fear that the next person I *** will be godawful and that would be so depressing :sad:
 
mischka said:
I'm cracking up at feeling like the only chick who wants a relationship for the sex, not the other way around... lmao. Everyone's like, I want a relationship, and then I can have sex... when I think of being in a relationship the biggest draw is the steady on-call sex, not the relationship itself.

I need a hobby.
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We're right >>>>>>>>here<<<<<<<< this has been my mindset as of late:look:.
 
I was celibate for 2 + years and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'd previously done almost a year but ended up giving it up to my ex (big mistake). I then cut him off completely. In the beginning, it was hard but as time went on, it got easier and I didn't think about it much. Towards the end though, I thought I'd go crazy :spinning:.

For the most part, I had lots of clarity and peace of mind. I knew what I wanted and I didn't settle for anything less. I started dating multiple men (I'd never done this before) but I never got myself into tempting situations and they were all really respectful (I only kissed one guy that I'd dated for 3 months). I was dating with intentions of getting married and if I didn't see a future with someone, I ended things.

Then when I met the one, after quite some time -- after we were in an exclusive, committed relationship and in love, I felt comfortable enough to share what I call my gift with him. And I've been sharing it 4-5 times a week since. By the way, he knew I was dating other men when we started dating and after a while, he ask me to become exclusive with him. He didn't like it when he asked me out and I already had plans :lol:.

I love sex and have a very high sex drive :lick: so I thought it would be really hard but in all honesty, it wasn't that bad. I'm sure I'll never have to do it again but if it ever came to it, I would do it again in a heartbeat. Of course I wasn't a virgin (although it felt like I was :blush:) but my SO really feels special because he was the one I chose to share myself with after such a long time. He eventually told me that he's never had to wait that long for the goods. Also, when talking to my friends and family, they let him know how special he truly is because they know how I was.

I never share things about my life here anymore but maybe this will help someone struggling with this.
 
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Etherealsmile26 said:
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Also there's a guy here at work who is constantly testing my ability to withstand temptation with his fine self and sexy a$$:lol: lawd!


Are you ladies finding that the older you get, the more your hormones seem to be raging out of control? with seemingly a mind of their own?:look:
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OMG, yes!! I'm like teenage boy right now!!
 
MizzBrown said:
Did anyone experience a difference after being away for so long?

Yall know what I'm talkin' bout! :look:
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Yes...please I want to know this. I am celi now and I want to know...umm...well...:blush:...does it hurt after a long time...does it get tight again?:look: Do you dry up? I am really curious...I dont want to dry up...thats my greatest asset...:lachen:
 
prettyfaceANB said:
Yes...please I want to know this. I am celi now and I want to know...umm...well...:blush:...does it hurt after a long time...does it get tight again?:look: Do you dry up? I am really curious...I dont want to dry up...thats my greatest asset...:lachen:
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prior to my almost 4yr stretch right now, i had a period where i went almost 1yr without sex. I was very tight down under:look:, it kinda felt like i was having sex for the first time again...not exactly the best feeling ever:lol::blush:
 
MizzBrown said:
Did anyone experience a difference after being away for so long?

Yall know what I'm talkin' bout! :look:
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Yep!:yep: It was like doing the deed for the first time minus the cherry to pop. The er.......nether regions, were extremely tight but that was my experience.:look:
 
calm_delight said:
I was celibate for 2 + years and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'd previously done almost a year but ended up giving it up to my ex (big mistake). I then cut him off completely. In the beginning, it was hard but as time went on, it got easier and I didn't think about it much. Towards the end though, I thought I'd go crazy :spinning:.

For the most part, I had lots of clarity and peace of mind. I knew what I wanted and I didn't settle for anything less. I started dating multiple men (I'd never done this before) but I never got myself into tempting situations and they were all really respectful (I only kissed one guy that I'd dated for 3 months). I was dating with intentions of getting married and if I didn't see a future with someone, I ended things.

Then when I met the one, after quite some time -- after we were in an exclusive, committed relationship and in love, I felt comfortable enough to share what I call my gift with him. And I've been sharing it 4-5 times a week since. By the way, he knew I was dating other men when we started dating and after a while, he ask me to become exclusive with him. He didn't like it when he asked me out and I already had plans :lol:.

I love sex and have a very high sex drive :lick: so I thought it would be really hard but in all honesty, it wasn't that bad. I'm sure I'll never have to do it again but if it ever came to it, I would do it again in a heartbeat. Of course I wasn't a virgin (although it felt like I was :blush:) but my SO really feels special because he was the one I chose to share myself with after such a long time. He eventually told me that he's never had to wait that long for the goods. Also, when talking to my friends and family, they let him know how special he truly is because they know how I was.

I never share things about my life here anymore but maybe this will help someone struggling with this.
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Well thank you for sharing.

MizzBrown said:
Did anyone experience a difference after being away for so long?

Yall know what I'm talkin' bout! :look:
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Yeah I've gone a few months without before and it definitely got tighter, only initially though.
 
my whole damn life...:sad:

I cant wait to move over to the other side....is coloring all that as they make it out to be? I dont understand.
 
DayStar said:
my whole damn life...:sad:

I cant wait to move over to the other side....is coloring all that as they make it out to be? I dont understand.
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Depends on the person you ask. I would say hayle yes, but others may say no :ohwell:

And THAT is why I need to take a break (not that I'm coloring left and right). I think I put too much importance in it.
 
DayStar said:
my whole damn life...:sad:

I cant wait to move over to the other side....is coloring all that as they make it out to be? I dont understand.
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Coloring can be pretty fantastic depending on who you choose to be your first partner. When you reach that bridge and decide to cross over, i hope you find someone who you emotionally, mentally and physically connect with otherwise the experience might be pretty lackluster and leave you very disappointed:look:
 
I'm over a year in and it's for religious reasons... I don't cheat (bullets etc.) either... I just haven't had the desire to. I really don't even think about it.
 
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I'm on my 9th month now. Not by choice. I really just want to wait until I'm in a relationship to do it again. Y'all got me nervous now. I didn't know it would get THAT tight. lol​
 
I did 2 years of celibacy before because i was waiting until i was in a relationship. I got tired of it after a while and ended my celibacy with someone I was dating.

I don't know if I would do it again though...it all depends on who Im seeing and if I feel comfortable enough to be intimate with him.
 
mischka said:
I'm cracking up at feeling like the only chick who wants a relationship for the sex, not the other way around... lmao. Everyone's like, I want a relationship, and then I can have sex... when I think of being in a relationship the biggest draw is the steady on-call sex, not the relationship itself.

I need a hobby.
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Moral reasons, for me. Although, if I could get away with it, I'd just have a f***buddy, no relationship needed...then I'd find Mr. Right. :giggle:
 
Duchesse said:
Yup..doing it right now (though it's been waaaay over a year lol). Reasons- I've never been into casual sex, and after the last guy I dated, I told myself no more until I meet my future husband. I'm not built emotionally/spiritually for sex without a deep commitment.

Honestly, it's really not that big of a deal, and I do have a normal sex drive. But goshdarnaggbit..when I do meet him..he shall be a lucky man.:drunk:
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You took the words out of my mouth
 
blaqphoenix said:
If so, how did you get through it? What was your reason behind it? Do you feel like you accomplished anything, and would you do it again?
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Yes and it was by choice. Still celibate. I decided I would not have sex until I was in a committed relationship. I know it may not be that deep to some people, but I started to feel like I was giving a little bit of myself away each time I had sex with someone who didn't even deserve an ounce of me (no pun intended). I've done this on one other occasion and Im still standing strong AND would do it again. I have more clarity when Im not involved and it makes it easier to see the BS instead of being blinded by the peen, so to speak.
 
Yes I was celibate for an entire year after a bad breakup. It wasn't difficult, because I did not want to be bothered by men at all!
 
I did a year of celibacy and no dating by choice..I had gotten divorced and started dating a lot right after and it was exhausting, so I decided to stop. I just wanted some time to heal from my divorce and be by myself for a while. It actually wasn't that hard..
 
Not on purpose!

Sometimes you just look at the calendar and add up the months and think :perplexed no wonder I'm so moody!!!!!
 
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