Food is expensive, so I don't cook....
...he does.
I know a lot of Christian ladies who bend over backwards showing off their cooking and cleaning and creativiity skills, just to compensate for not having sex in a relationship. It gets tired; they get older and more tired and they end up with nothing.
The wonderful key is simply being with someone that you just get along with so well, that sex doesn't matter. Someone that you are 'free' to be with as yourself and not have to put on airs and trying to go down a list of xyz, just to hold on to him. It is such a waste of time and so unnecessary.
Of course, as a woman, it's only natural to fix your hair, nails, and to do all of those 'girly girl' things that women do, that's the fun part of being a woman, which is to be a girly girl
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But men love a woman who is comfortable with herself and who is not exhausting herself just to get him, keep him or lose who she is. He loses respect for her or fears being with her because she appears 'desperate'. Men can tell when a woman is desperate and they either 'run' or take advantage of her. Men know that any human being is not up to all of that and that she will soon 'crash' from an overload of 'doing' and 'being' outside of one's normal capacity.
The Key: A man feels most comfortable with a woman who is comfortable with who she is and when she is around him. This is what makes him 'stay'. He's at home with a woman who respects her human limitations and is able to enjoy being with him as herself and nothing less. He is able to see his future with her and no one else. And indeed this is the kind of man God will send into a woman's life.
No woman has to prove her worth to any man. When she finds herself doing this, she is with a counterfeit, not the man God has placed into her life.
Neither Ruth nor Esther had to do this... more than ever, now during this time, neither should any daughter of God such are each of you. God still betroths His daughters.