Has anyone ever done a year of celibacy?
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Duchesse
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Yup..doing it right now (though it's been waaaay over a year lol). Reasons- I've never been into casual sex, and after the last guy I dated, I told myself no more until I meet my future husband. I'm not built emotionally/spiritually for sex without a deep commitment.
Honestly, it's really not that big of a deal, and I do have a normal sex drive. But goshdarnaggbit..when I do meet him..he shall be a lucky man.
Honestly, it's really not that big of a deal, and I do have a normal sex drive. But goshdarnaggbit..when I do meet him..he shall be a lucky man.
PlatinumBronze
Living my life like its Platinum!
Yes I've done it and I'm doing it right now. I've been through a lot in regards to relationships so I decided to take a 6 month break. My 6 month break has turned into a 9 month break. I'm not going to lie, it's hard at times but I needed to go through this. I'm doing it for spiritual purposes. I was solicited by a former fling just recently and turned down his advances. This time last year may have been a totally different story 
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Menina Preta
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Hmm, not since college to be honest. If I was to break up with my SO, then yes, I think I'd probably try to be celibate for a year...I'm good on casual, non-relationship sex. Had my share and at this point in my life, it is not for me.
Successfulmiss
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I went 3 yrs and then met my husband! I had so much clarity and was able to work on myself and my dreams. I didnt do ANYTHING sexual. But I would still have dreams...hehehe
ladysaraii
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Does masturbation count in the celibacy period? If so I'm knocking on 3 years. Mainly, I haven't found anyone that I'm interested in on that level. And 2, it was good for my to take a break.
Although I certainly am looking froward to breaking it.
Although I certainly am looking froward to breaking it.
keenyme
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i went a year and a half last time. no particular reason, there just wasn't anyone that i REALLY wanted around at the time. i'm about 4 months into another bout of celibacy, and i don't see anything promising on the horizon.
i can go another year, no problem, but i can't let 1 1/2 years catch me... bad things happen around that time... BAD DECISIONS. BADDDD.
actually, i swore to never dance horizontally ever again after the last time... IT WAS THAT BAD. i'll cut cut somebody if they come to me w/ that kind of lameness again. i will.
i can go another year, no problem, but i can't let 1 1/2 years catch me... bad things happen around that time... BAD DECISIONS. BADDDD.
actually, i swore to never dance horizontally ever again after the last time... IT WAS THAT BAD. i'll cut cut somebody if they come to me w/ that kind of lameness again. i will.
Renewed1
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I'm going about 5 years strong. I always been able to control my sexual urges or redirect them for other uses (non-sexual). I did it after a really bad break-up, I didn't want to be bothered with dealing with a man and I needed a break,etc.
Now, I'm ready to be married and I won't be handing out the goods until I get a ring with a document signed by the preacher. I want my new guy to capture me without the sex. Removing sex forces you to talk more with your partner and understand each other.
Now, I'm ready to be married and I won't be handing out the goods until I get a ring with a document signed by the preacher. I want my new guy to capture me without the sex. Removing sex forces you to talk more with your partner and understand each other.
10WordzOrLess
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Yup..doing it right now (though it's been waaaay over a year lol). Reasons- I've never been into casual sex, and after the last guy I dated, I told myself no more until I meet my future husband. I'm not built emotionally/spiritually for sex without a deep commitment.
Honestly, it's really not that big of a deal, and I do have a normal sex drive. But goshdarnaggbit..when I do meet him..he shall be a lucky man.
^^^^THIS^^^^ All of it.
I was just telling a male friend last night, that I'm not meant to be a F*ckbuddy. A lot of people are into that, and I can definitely see what the purpose is. But I cannot imagine having sex with someone without being in a relationship, or at the very least knowing them and having an emotional attachment for some time.
Entering the dating world again, I'm sitting back like...Bruh...this is our FOURTH DATE though....Mane...Hay-ell Naw, you don't even know my middle name!
For me, celibacy puts things into perspective, and weeds out a lot of heartbreak down the road.
Longest stretch was 4 years.
rainbowknots
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The bolded is the reason why I want to give this a shot. I feel like I really need to clear my head and focus on me only.
I'm currently celibate and went beyond the year mark quite some times ago
If I found someone that was worth ******, then yeah I'd do it, but I must say that having a prolonged period of celibacy really gives you perspective. I've passed over many a guy who I would have found ***-worthy only a few years ago because without the strong need for sex looming over my head I truly do see them more clearly.
After the first few months (that literally feel like you are in heat) it's not so bad. Don't get me wrong, there are days when I feel like if I don't get some today I might keel over and die, but for the most part it's okay.
Even though it's not as bad as it probably seems to people who are getting it in on the regular, I probably would not do it again. I definitely miss it and once I hop back on, I have no plans on getting back off and am probably going to run some poor guy ragged for awhile
Maybe it depends on the person. I haven't decided what I'll do yet.
Thanks everyone for responding. I don't know if I necessarily want to wait for marriage, I just know that I do need a break from men in general. I don't think one year is going to be that difficult. I don't know if I can last as long as some of you have, but maybe that'll change over time.
mischka
shrinkage.
I'm cracking up at feeling like the only chick who wants a relationship for the sex, not the other way around... lmao. Everyone's like, I want a relationship, and then I can have sex... when I think of being in a relationship the biggest draw is the steady on-call sex, not the relationship itself.
I need a hobby.
I need a hobby.
Honey Bee
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@mischka, you're definitely not , now let me go read the rest of the thread.
eta: Ok, I'm all caught up. I was celibate for a year once, it sucked, but yes, my grades were phenomenal and that was the last time I worked out regularly.
OT: I swear, I never knew so many adult women were celibate until I joined this board.
, now let me go read the rest of the thread.eta: Ok, I'm all caught up. I was celibate for a year once, it sucked, but yes, my grades were phenomenal and that was the last time I worked out regularly.
OT: I swear, I never knew so many adult women were celibate until I joined this board.
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tHENATuRALhAiRpRoJEcT
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tHENATuRALhAiRpRoJEcT
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.... definitely on the longest stretch of my life
Truth
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I did a year when I was in college. Not by choice, my "relationship" at the time fell apart..and quite frankly there was no one at the time worth the effort. ...once I met the guy who was worth it poor soul didn't know what hit him... would I do it again? it will have to be forced upon me that's all I can say, cause clearly I go 2 weeks without and i'm ready to cut heads off...
poor soul didn't know what hit him... would I do it again? it will have to be forced upon me that's all I can say, cause clearly I go 2 weeks without and i'm ready to cut heads off...
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FlowerHair
Reclaiming my time
Yeah, I've even done several years.
I was just single, I didn't have any reason behind it.
Thank goodness those days are over!
I was just single, I didn't have any reason behind it.
Thank goodness those days are over!
Guitarhero
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Are you kidding me? Try 10 years.
lala89
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When I was 18 I became celibate, I stopped when I was 20. I chose to be celibate at that time but I wasn't really tempted because I felt I had to. My main reason was because through out my teens I was very depressed and once I started having sex I treated it like a drug. There was no emotional aspect to it. I didn't love me so I didn't believe anyone else could, and I didn't want to pretend. The day I lost my virginity I did it to get it over with, and because virgins are always seen as a prize of some sort I hated that. I didn't want to be objectified, so I objectified myself. I didn't want to be lied to, so I lied to myself.
The decision to become celibate came when I was at rock bottom. During that time I learned about myself andmy confidence soared. I've ended my celibacy since because I gained self control and knew I would never put myself in that same situation. It was the best thing I've done for myself.
The decision to become celibate came when I was at rock bottom. During that time I learned about myself andmy confidence soared. I've ended my celibacy since because I gained self control and knew I would never put myself in that same situation. It was the best thing I've done for myself.
^^^^THIS^^^^ All of it.
I was just telling a male friend last night, that I'm not meant to be a F*ckbuddy. A lot of people are into that, and I can definitely see what the purpose is. But I cannot imagine having sex with someone without being in a relationship, or at the very least knowing them and having an emotional attachment for some time.
Entering the dating world again, I'm sitting back like...Bruh...this is our FOURTH DATE though....Mane...Hay-ell Naw, you don't even know my middle name!
For me, celibacy puts things into perspective, and weeds out a lot of heartbreak down the road.
Longest stretch was 4 years.
yes, i learned the hard way that i can't have casual sex. i catch feelings and become emotionally involved. i rather not even go there unless im in a committed relationship.
nappystorm
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My grades were never higher than when I was boning this one guy on a regular basis. I was so focused. It was a lot easier to stick with a pattern/routine
Come to think of it...
msbettyboop
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At various times in my life, 1.5 years, 2 years and 2.5 years. The first two times was because I wasn’t in a committed relationship. The last one was because I’d made up my mind I didn’t want to touch a man or be touched ever again until I met the man I would spend the rest of my life with. In-between, I redirected my sexual energy into other things as there’s more to life than getting laid.
My grades were never higher than when I was boning this one guy on a regular basis. I was so focused. It was a lot easier to stick with a pattern/routine
I still rememeber one of my best semesters grades wise. Was my first year living off campus and having my own room
. Won't go into details w/the Lhcf moral police and others watching, but lets just say I was no where near celibate that semesterI have zero issues getting emotionally involved in a "f*** buddy" situation. I mean, u know the deal up front, you get it in and thats about it. The tricky ones that have gotten me messed up are the "friends with benefits (FWB)" situations; those are a hot mess for me. All that gray area
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rainbowknots
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Wow, that's a long time.
rainbowknots
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The last time I tried to have an *** buddy it did not work out. We spent a little too much time together and ended up catching feelings. I've learned that in order to have a successful bump buddy relationship you need to treat that like a job. You clock in, put in work, then clock out.I still rememeber one of my best semesters grades wise. Was my first year living off campus and having my own room
I have zero issues getting emotionally involved in a "f*** buddy" situation. I mean, u know the deal up front, you get it in and thats about it. The tricky ones that have gotten me messed up are the "friends with benefits (FWB)" situations; those are a hot mess for me. All that gray area
LunadeMiel
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I've done 2 years at one time, and then 10 months from october 2008 to August 2009. It wasn't that hard. I didn't really enjoy sex until I got married.
