Has anyone ever done a year of celibacy?

rainbowknots

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If so, how did you get through it? What was your reason behind it? Do you feel like you accomplished anything, and would you do it again?
 
I've done a life of celibacy so far. It's really not as hard as people think. TONS more to life than sex...
Can't wait til I get married so I can tear my husband up. :look:
 
no reason.
nope no feeling of accomplishment..just loneliness :lol: bullet helped a lot :look:
sure i'll do it again if i have to. i don't want to lol.
 
I'm curiouis to know how many sexually active women chose celibacy and how many had celibacy thrust upon them :lol: (as in I haven't met anyone I wanted to be in relationship with or have sex with)...I'm excluding those who chose for religious reasons because then the reason is clear.
 
ambergirl said:
I'm curiouis to know how many sexually active women chose celibacy and how many had celibacy thrust upon them :lol: (as in I haven't met anyone I wanted to be in relationship with or have sex with)...I'm excluding those who chose for religious reasons because then the reason is clear.
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I really would like to hear from the women who actually chose, although I appreciate everyone's responses.
 
I did that for a year and half after breaking up with an ex

I felt that was the only way to clear my head and get over him and prepare to date again.

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I am glad I did it tho, it helped me bypass a lot of men who only wanted one thing. the first 3 months were no joke tho! I just exercised a lot more and the urges went away after a while
 
Yeah, did it by accident.:lachen:

There were no available candidates that made it worth shaving my legs and I was very busy with the rest of life. I didn't even realize how long it had been until I was talking to one of my girls.
 
I always shoot for a year but I generally get bored a couple months in... especially if I stop my BC and my hormones start raging again.
 
I forced myself to be "single" for a little while because I realized that since I had stated dating I had never been "single". I lasted a few months and then I decided I didn't need to stop having sex, I just needed to not be in a relationship.
 
blaqphoenix said:
If so, how did you get through it?
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Just did it, the longer I went without the easier it was.
blaqphoenix said:
What was your reason behind it?
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New relationship and we decided not to have sex. Well, him more than me, but I didn't have a problem with it. I thought after a year, I really knew him and sad to say I didnt. I will say, it was easier to get over him since we were not sexually intimate.
blaqphoenix said:
Do you feel like you accomplished anything, and would you do it again?
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No, I don't feel like I accomplished anything. NO, I would and will NOT do it again.

ambergirl said:
I'm curiouis to know how many sexually active women chose celibacy and how many had celibacy thrust upon them :lol: (as in I haven't met anyone I wanted to be in relationship with or have sex with)...I'm excluding those who chose for religious reasons because then the reason is clear.
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See answers above.
 
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Yes, I was taking care of someone and did not want to chance bringing men around, she was such a big part of my life that whoever I dated would have to be involved and I did not want that. I was very protective of her.
 
I did a few years ago. It was after I had broken up with my ex. I had a huge fear of intimacy as well as some self-esteem issues back then. I worked out a lot and put a lot of focus into work/school, which helped a little.

When I started dating again, I met someone who was understanding and who I could relate to. I broke my celibacy and have no regrets when it comes to who I decided to break it with, even though our "relationship" didn't last long or go beyond a physical level.
 
I'm doing it now. Decided I needed to clear my head and work on some other things (mentally, emotionally, and other tangible life goals) after my last breakup which was really intense. Plus its also a self discipline thing, I used to find myself putting up with things I didn't want to just to have someone around for good sex. I decided that's pathetic and weak and I don't want to be weak anymore.

I feel like I had a habit of jumping into sex with someone else to ease the pain of getting over the person before. So relationships kept being built on the wrong thing so they end bad, jump to the next bed. Wash, rinse, repeat. Basically, just realized this was probably not a good cycle, so I decided to put a stop to it. I figured why not try something different, what do I have to lose?

Its been since August 2010. Plan to go til the end of this year at least.
 
I did about a 9 months after my last relationship. I was so heartbroken, I didn't want a dude to so much as look at me, let alone put his peen anywhere near me. It gave me some time to get my head straight and start putting my life back together.

I've had periods here and there where I've contemplated trying it again, but ummm, they've all been short lived. :look:
 
One year while I finished school. Had offers but didn't want any of them at the time. I was just focused. Now I want it all the time. LOL
 
Due to a lifestyle change I became celibate for a little over 2 years. In the beginning it wasn't that easy. I realized how quick most guys seem to want to have sex and how much they talk about it because of this I became secluded and lonely in a way. I started to focus more on other things about myself that i did and did not like and wanted to change. Eventually not having sex wasn't a bother for me. In my time of celibacy I start realizing things about myself and learned more about who i am and what i wanted out of life. It was a great experience for me because I became more self aware.It was during this time I met my husband and he was very respectful of my lifestyle and didn't push me or try to persuade me. We talked a lot about any and everything and sex was never our main topic of discussion. It was a great experience for me and I was able to make good judgment and a sound decision on choosing a mate because of it. It was a great way for me to practice discipline and self control because lord knows I was a sinner:lachen:
 
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I'm currently celibate and went beyond the year mark quite some times ago :look:

If I found someone that was worth ******, then yeah I'd do it, but I must say that having a prolonged period of celibacy really gives you perspective. I've passed over many a guy who I would have found ***-worthy only a few years ago because without the strong need for sex looming over my head I truly do see them more clearly.

After the first few months (that literally feel like you are in heat) it's not so bad. Don't get me wrong, there are days when I feel like if I don't get some today I might keel over and die, but for the most part it's okay.

Even though it's not as bad as it probably seems to people who are getting it in on the regular, I probably would not do it again. I definitely miss it and once I hop back on, I have no plans on getting back off and am probably going to run some poor guy ragged for awhile :look:
 
i haven't had sex in over a year and have went as long as 2.5 or 3yrs without......i love sex but kept encountering men who were a waste of my time sexually:nono:so i've decided to do without for a bit and work on myself.....using loa to draw a life partner to me with a jumbo crayon that he knows how to use and works properly in addition to having lots of money, handsome, and nice:look:. imma bout to start working out 4-6 times a week:look: to release some tension, mostly weights, cardio, and yoga.
 
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Not a year but I've gone several months without in the past and the first 2 months were THE hardest.

How did I get through it? Focused on other things and learned a lot about self pleasure.
 
I haven't done anything in a year and a month. It doesn't bother me really. I was only having sex because I was in love anyway, so without that I don't care much. Actually I've gotten really lazy since I stopped lol.

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13 years for me. after a bad break up i lost all hope in men i was totally disgusted. i worked in a call center and the only men there were either married,or gay.i gained tons of weight my self esteem dropped to the ground.
 
I should say its not that I'm not in love its that we're not together.

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