Found Roses, a Card, & Candy on My Desk

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from a janitor where I work. Here's what the card says:

Dear __:

I hope it's not inappropriate of me leaving you this card like this; If it is! I apologize, I just saw a beautiful lady and I got beside myself...My name is __, and I work this little part-time custodian job here at the school at night for four hours, and I saw you a couple of times but was too shy to introduce myself. I must say, I think you are truly fabulous and I was wondering could I take you out for coffee or something sometime...I don
t drink coffe, but I will drink it just to fit in. Just to tell you a little bit about myself;I am 40 years old, never been married, have no children, don't smoke, nor drink. I graduated from __H.S., went to college at ___ for four years and earned a business degree...I worked in the mortuary industry for a few years and them branched over into the affordable housing industry as a property manager until I was laid off in January of this year. I guess I can't complain too much, the management company where I was employed left me with an ok severance package; but the whole "laid off thing" caught us all by surprise...For what it's worth, I hope that you and I could be friends...Call me

Sincerely,___
*Punctuation his*

I don't know who he is. There are several janitors in the building that could fit in his age range. IDK...should I give hime a chance? He's a bit older than I would normally date because it seems like men that hit forty begin to act old. My dad was a janitor and took really good care of my family, my mom was a stay at home mom, so his current employment status isn't that big of a deal. I wish I knew who he was. He could be the heavy set white guy I see around the building. I've had a blind date once in my life, and he turned out to be verbally abusive. I don't do well with surprises at all, even with people's best intentions, surprises actually make me mad. I have never been happily surprised.
 
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That was sweet... The full introduction is a bit different, but I guess he figured you may look down on him since he is a janitor.

It'll be up to you if you give him a chance. I'm sure he will let you know who he is...maybe a smile or a nod?
 
That was nice of him. I understand how you feel. I would just text him to thank him and ask him who he was. After his response if he was not someone I was attracted to I would just thank him again, keep it moving. If he mentioned the whole date thing I would be ready with an excuse as to why it would not be a good idea.
 
That was a very sweet move on his part. I would say to give him a call and find out who he is. After all it couldn't hurt. Based on the gesture alone, even if there is no attraction, he may be a good person to get to know.
 
Ahhh that was sweet. I think you should call him & thank him for the card and candy.

I understand about the blind date thing, but he might make a nice friend.
 
I would go out with him just because I'm curious...
He sounds sweet and it's a good sign that he wants to be honest from the start.
 
Thats so sweet! To be honest, I wouldn't be to keen on a blind hook up. I would just respond back and tell him thank you, and he should introduce himself the next time he see's you, and leave it at that.

When (if?)you call him, if he persists that he would like to meet for coffee or what not, I would just thank him and again and tell him you can talk about it when he introduces himself.

I also would love to here what comes of this!
 
snilloh said:
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:lol: Thank You! We always complaining!! A man shows us some chivalry by doing what he is SUPPOSED to do and it's creepy?

NO!! We should EXPECT to come to work and see roses, flowers, cards, candy, etc. in order to accept a date. Whether you know him or not. What happened to courting?

OP, you have to thank him obviously, lest he feels like women don't appreciate ish and he'll never do it for anyone else again. I believe that's part of the reason why many men DON'T do this anymore.
 
milknhonee said:
from a janitor where I work. Here's what the card says:

Dear __:

I hope it's not inappropriate of me leaving you this card like this; If it is! I apologize, I just saw a beautiful lady and I got beside myself...My name is __, and I work this little part-time custodian job here at the school at night for four hours, and I saw you a couple of times but was too shy to introduce myself. I must say, I think you are truly fabulous and I was wondering could I take you out for coffee or something sometime...I don
t drink coffe, but I will drink it just to fit in. Just to tell you a little bit about myself;I am 40 years old, never been married, have no children, don't smoke, nor drink. I graduated from __H.S., went to college at ___ for four years and earned a business degree...I worked in the mortuary industry for a few years and them branched over into the affordable housing industry as a property manager until I was laid off in January of this year. I guess I can't complain too much, the management company where I was employed left me with an ok severance package; but the whole "laid off thing" caught us all by surprise...For what it's worth, I hope that you and I could be friends...Call me

Sincerely,___
*Punctuation his*

I don't know who he is. There are several janitors in the building that could fit in his age range. IDK...should I give hime a chance? He's a bit older than I would normally date because it seems like men that hit forty begin to act old. My dad was a janotor and took really good care of my family, my mom was a stay at home mom, so his current employment status isn't that big of a deal. I wish I knew who he was. He could be the heavy set white guy I see around the building. I've had a blind date once in my life, and he turned out to be verbally abusive. I don't do well with surprises at all, even with people's best intentions, surprises actually make me mad. I have never been happily surprised.
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If you really wanted to give this a go, you can find out who he is. He's at least given you a first name :yep:.

He does seem to be a tad bit too forward for my personal liking, but hey, you never know. You may have struck gold. There is only one way to finding out. ;)

Keep us updated, please.
 
MizzBrown said:
:lol: Thank You! We always complaining!! A man shows us some chivalry by doing what he is SUPPOSED to do and it's creepy?

NO!! We should EXPECT to come to work and see roses, flowers, cards, candy, etc. in order to accept a date. Whether you know him or not. What happened to courting?
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Uhm, but he doesn't even know her. He's solely going by physical attraction. I thought chivalry comes after we've had at least one good conversation.
 
I will ask around to see if I can figure out who he is. I loved the gesture. It's amazing that he said anything at all. I live in a city where a large portion of the AA men date outside of the race. I have sat in on many a gripe fest with black women from here and other cities who are fightin mad at the fact that many of the average black men here 1) do not approach black women (from the average looking to the drop dead gorgeous) in public places (like seriously avoid eye contact), and 2) don't date Black women.

When I was preparing to move here on one of my visits a black female security agent asked me if I was from here. I told her no and that I was preparing to move here. She responded by asking me if I had a boyfriend coming with me. When I said no, she said, "You better find one before you come, because once you get here, you definitely won't find one ."
I have had to find out from mutual friends that one man was interested in me, even though I came into contact with and talked to him on a regular basis.

I didn't say all that to mean that I would just go with whatever, but that is not a typical gesture for black men here.

I'll keep yall updated...
 
It sounds nice, but this could be a part of his game. I would wonder how many other women he has tried the "note" thing on. I've had guys do this who turned out to be jerks. They saw me at work, left a note, i.e. casted a net to see if I would bite.

Good luck with whatever you decide. It was a nice gesture, but I'm wondering why he couldn't ask you in person.
 
LOL some of yall need a little more love. He sends flowers and candy and you are saying something bad. :lol:

Sounds worth a shot.
 
Even with his name, you still don't know which one he is...Do you know anyone who might (that you don't mind asking about this guy to)? I would like to know which one he is before actually calling.
 
MizzBrown said:
:lol: Thank You! We always complaining!! A man shows us some chivalry by doing what he is SUPPOSED to do and it's creepy?

NO!! We should EXPECT to come to work and see roses, flowers, cards, candy, etc. in order to accept a date. Whether you know him or not. What happened to courting?

OP, you have to thank him obviously, lest he feels like women don't appreciate ish and he'll never do it for anyone else again. I believe that's part of the reason why many men DON'T do this anymore.
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No, I'm not saying that it's a bad thing. It was thoughtful and he sounds sweet, but the idea of not knowing he he is would freak me out. And then the prospect of having to turn him down would make me anxious. But first and foremost, it's flattering. lol. I'm a bit neurotic I guess.
 
Awwwww he sounds like such a sweetie pie! I think you should give him a chance :D I would (you know...if I dated 40 yr olds lol). He went to college, graduated, and was a property manager. Girrrl, he upper echelon ( :lol: I'm gonna be referencing that for at least the next 2 weeks smh)! :lol: No, but really...it just sounds like he's fallen on hard times. Now, if he would have said "I graduated HS...then became a janitor" Negative :lol: Annnnd he got that bomb arse severance package? :yep: :lol: I hope you find out who he issss! :D
 
Goldenprincess said:
No, I'm not saying that it's a bad thing. It was thoughtful and he sounds sweet, but the idea of not knowing he he is would freak me out. And then the prospect of having to turn him down would make me anxious. But first and foremost, it's flattering. lol. I'm a bit neurotic I guess.
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Same. This happened to me in college before I was on FB and could do sleuthing. Dude had a massive crush on me and sent me roses + notes, which was great, but I didn't know who he was :perplexed.

I was flattered, but there some crazy people out there in this world. You can never be too careful of those who watch you from "afar."

I found out who he was, how he knew me, and I was cool after it. But he had such a thick European accent that I had a hard time understanding what he was saying so the relationship potential diminished. A sweetie, though.

This sounds great though! And he looks like he knows English better than my dude, lol.
 
Awww!! The dreamer in me says give him a chance. That alone shows that he has a bit of a romantic side...and that hopefully he is an honest person. Now, I woudn't meet him all willy nilly outside of the workplace just yet.

You should call him, ask to him to reveal himself during the day..stop by your desk and say "hi", and if you like what you see, go get some coffee.
 
He sounds friendly. Since he said to call him, I'm taking it he left his number for you? I hope you'll give him a call.

milknhonee said:
from a janitor where I work. Here's what the card says:

Dear __:

I hope it's not inappropriate of me leaving you this card like this; If it is! I apologize, I just saw a beautiful lady and I got beside myself...My name is __, and I work this little part-time custodian job here at the school at night for four hours, and I saw you a couple of times but was too shy to introduce myself. I must say, I think you are truly fabulous and I was wondering could I take you out for coffee or something sometime...I don
t drink coffe, but I will drink it just to fit in. Just to tell you a little bit about myself;I am 40 years old, never been married, have no children, don't smoke, nor drink. I graduated from __H.S., went to college at ___ for four years and earned a business degree...I worked in the mortuary industry for a few years and them branched over into the affordable housing industry as a property manager until I was laid off in January of this year. I guess I can't complain too much, the management company where I was employed left me with an ok severance package; but the whole "laid off thing" caught us all by surprise...For what it's worth, I hope that you and I could be friends...Call me

Sincerely,___
*Punctuation his*

I don't know who he is. There are several janitors in the building that could fit in his age range. IDK...should I give hime a chance? He's a bit older than I would normally date because it seems like men that hit forty begin to act old. My dad was a janitor and took really good care of my family, my mom was a stay at home mom, so his current employment status isn't that big of a deal. I wish I knew who he was. He could be the heavy set white guy I see around the building. I've had a blind date once in my life, and he turned out to be verbally abusive. I don't do well with surprises at all, even with people's best intentions, surprises actually make me mad. I have never been happily surprised.
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That was so sweet. Regardless if something happens you should thank him. I'm still young but I'm beyond frustrated with the lack of chivalry I see in men these days, so I always appreciate it when I see it.

That said, it is kinda creepy since he knows who you are but not the reverse. How are you supposed to get in touch with him? I'd thank him and get him to tell me who he is. Flowers, roses and candy were sooooo sweet, but I'd want to see this guy in person.
 
My :twocents: The whole senario sounds sweet and innocent. You must always be careful when dealing with any male. But I would give some benefit of the doubt based on his age, and the way he said, what he said in the card.

I hope everything goes well OP :yep:
 
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