redwineluva
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I have a situation.
So I have an ex-fiance..who I recently saw last week. I basically said that I'm stressed out, tired of working and would love a 6-month break. I didn't imply that he should give me money.
I quote from his email; "I want to take care of you emotionally, physically, and financially as much as possible". He doesn't earn 6 figures. Close to, but not quite. He owns a home and has been in his profession for over a decade. He is about 9 years older than me, single, no children and we nearly got married a few months ago (VERY long story!). He said that all he wants in return is emotional support.
The problem is, I don't really like him. He irritates me when he says stupid things and he is pretty insecure, on top of being needy. He is pretty much obsessed with me...in the sense that when we had a falling out in the beginning of the year he showed up at my door unannounced once and
managed to find out another one of my email addresses and contact me through there.
It's not that I want to take his money and run because I'm fiercely independent and have never had anyone's help to get to where I am now. I want to use the $$ so that I can heal myself (I'm literally burnt out, I've had over 40 jobs since I was 14) and focus on doing work that actually makes me
happy. However that being said I'm not used to being taken care of. I have significant trust issues with men.
Now you may say I should just act or pretend but I could pretend if I actually liked him somewhat. Anther thing is, he doesn't want sex from me. We've never had sex and I've known him for a year. He has *ahem* a problem when it comes to the sexual part so he literally just wants to please and satisfy me sexually with cunnilingus (sorry to be so blunt!!)
I should be happy, right? I mean, here's a guy willing to support me during while I take a break from working (I'm preparing applications for graduate school in September) and he said he wants to be there for me in all aspects. He said he's willing to give me around $20,000 as I stated that's how much I would need.
What would ya'll do? I just feel so helpless. It's hard for me to ask for help. I'm so used to doing things myself. erplexed
So I have an ex-fiance..who I recently saw last week. I basically said that I'm stressed out, tired of working and would love a 6-month break. I didn't imply that he should give me money.
I quote from his email; "I want to take care of you emotionally, physically, and financially as much as possible". He doesn't earn 6 figures. Close to, but not quite. He owns a home and has been in his profession for over a decade. He is about 9 years older than me, single, no children and we nearly got married a few months ago (VERY long story!). He said that all he wants in return is emotional support.
The problem is, I don't really like him. He irritates me when he says stupid things and he is pretty insecure, on top of being needy. He is pretty much obsessed with me...in the sense that when we had a falling out in the beginning of the year he showed up at my door unannounced once and
managed to find out another one of my email addresses and contact me through there.
It's not that I want to take his money and run because I'm fiercely independent and have never had anyone's help to get to where I am now. I want to use the $$ so that I can heal myself (I'm literally burnt out, I've had over 40 jobs since I was 14) and focus on doing work that actually makes me
happy. However that being said I'm not used to being taken care of. I have significant trust issues with men.
Now you may say I should just act or pretend but I could pretend if I actually liked him somewhat. Anther thing is, he doesn't want sex from me. We've never had sex and I've known him for a year. He has *ahem* a problem when it comes to the sexual part so he literally just wants to please and satisfy me sexually with cunnilingus (sorry to be so blunt!!)
I should be happy, right? I mean, here's a guy willing to support me during while I take a break from working (I'm preparing applications for graduate school in September) and he said he wants to be there for me in all aspects. He said he's willing to give me around $20,000 as I stated that's how much I would need.
What would ya'll do? I just feel so helpless. It's hard for me to ask for help. I'm so used to doing things myself. erplexed