I know this is going to sound bad and maybe all over the place, but please hear my heart. I want to be married, and a few of my close friends are married. They love their spouses and vice versa, but I am not sure how I would actually feel if I was in their shoes. For example, I know their husbands don't beat them, do drugs, don't cheat as far as anyone knows, or the MAJOR things, BUT they don't treat their wives like queens. I am not talking about roses, chocolate, etc. They are the type who pay the bills and then believe they are "holding down the fort" b/c they do what I feel they are "supposed to do" as bare minimum.
I have seen examples where my grandfather treated my grandmother like she was his queen. He always wanted her to look beautiful and have the best. Likewise, my grandmother had his back/side/front through thick and thin. I am not sure if it is b/c I am single, but when I get married I want to adore my husband and vice versa (I KNOW THERE WILL BE ROUGH PATCHES). I guess my ultimate question is my perception off or are these marriages "bad marriages?"
NOTE WELL-I never state my opinions to my friends, because I know that it's not my business. I just want to know what should I expect from a man ABOVE not doing drugs, beating me, etc.
I have seen examples where my grandfather treated my grandmother like she was his queen. He always wanted her to look beautiful and have the best. Likewise, my grandmother had his back/side/front through thick and thin. I am not sure if it is b/c I am single, but when I get married I want to adore my husband and vice versa (I KNOW THERE WILL BE ROUGH PATCHES). I guess my ultimate question is my perception off or are these marriages "bad marriages?"
NOTE WELL-I never state my opinions to my friends, because I know that it's not my business. I just want to know what should I expect from a man ABOVE not doing drugs, beating me, etc.
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