I don't know -- just don't like the potential father/daughter dynamic that could emerge.
Interesting post ladies. I believe the person who holds the youth has the most power, more to gain and higher possibility of "out growing" the older mate. This tends to leave the older mate vulnerable and slightly insecure.
Generally, I do (10+ years) but I think I'm going to stop.
A FB friend of mine wrote a blog about women who only chooses older men because they have more, are more sophisticated, etc are stupid. He said they were stupid because these men usually date much younger because they are losers and no woman thier age will have them.
The more I tried to disagree, the more I saw his point. While the men I've dated have more than me, they were lagging compared to others in thier age group. They were conceited and had extreme character flaws. Then I think about the men my age whom I would never date, and they generally date women who are much younger...
I'm sure there are exceptions to the rules but the blog, along with my experiences and observations gave me something to think about.
A FB friend of mine wrote a blog about women who only chooses older men because they have more, are more sophisticated, etc are stupid. He said they were stupid because these men usually date much younger because they are losers and no woman thier age will have them.
Generally, I do (10+ years) but I think I'm going to stop.
A FB friend of mine wrote a blog about women who only chooses older men because they have more, are more sophisticated, etc are stupid. He said they were stupid because these men usually date much younger because they are losers and no woman thier age will have them.
The more I tried to disagree, the more I saw his point. While the men I've dated have more than me, they were lagging compared to others in thier age group. They were conceited and had extreme character flaws. Then I think about the men my age whom I would never date, and they generally date women who are much younger...
I'm sure there are exceptions to the rules but the blog, along with my experiences and observations gave me something to think about.
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When I was in high school all my female friends dated older guys that wasn't in high school. I use to be mad as hell cause all the chicks I wanted to get with didn't date guys their own age! I always wanted to be the older guy who got all the *****es! Well now I am the older guy and I am sickened by *****s dating girls that are still in high school. My friend once dated a guy (22) when she was 14! That ***** got problems! This is for all the females that think their winning by dating older guys, news flash, you’re dating a loser! Why do I say that? Well no guy WANTS to date a younger girl; he is forced to if he does. Women their age or older women don't want his *** so he is forced to date you and you don't know any better. You're in high school so your standards of dating are at 0. If he has a car and out of high school, you think you’re winning because he is more mature then the guy that was in your English class. WRONG! How is it that females will date a older guy in high school, get out of high school and look down on guys who date girls still in high school? Women are some *** backwards creatures. I mean that in a nice way, don’t want to lose all my followers!
I honestly don't think women mature faster then men. I just think women try to be grown way before they have to. That's just my input.
When women get older, they date younger men (sometimes). Hm.. This is when I scratch my head. Didn't you date older men because they were more mature but now you’re dating younger men because they have better d***? I honestly think women think with their ***** just as much as guys think with their ****. You date older guys when you’re young because you want that older pipe then you date younger guys when you’re old because they got that lasting pipe. If you date older men when you’re young because they are more established then guys your age. You’re an idiot because women their age aren't ****ing with them because they aren't as established or mentally able to hold on a relationship. So in the long run does age really matter? NO!
I often feel like women treat love like long lost treasure and spend their entire life looking for it in all the wrong places. Men and women are different. We men spend our childhood and teen years, having fun. Women never seem to have fun in the dating game until they get their heart broken. It just amazes me that women go through these stages of men they date as they get older. Guys just date and we catch a lot of slack for not having the same filters but O well. We experience a lot less heartache. Just date because age has nothing to do with stability and mental state. You run around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to find love and keep running off cliffs. The moral of this blog is, stop being so stupid thinking you’re being smart. It isn’t working and hasn’t worked. Peeeaaaaaaaaace!!
Even after reading his blog I still do not see his point. He said that "older men are losers" b/c they cannot go after women thier own age who would put up with his behind. Yes, and no. It goes both ways I can date a man my age and the problem would be some men my age are losers some younger men are losers. It is all about balance and finding whats right for you.
Now if he is speaking of girls in high school who dated older guys, well shoot that is me. However, I date guys my own age who were not mature enough. Who broke down when it came to responsiblity. JMHO
This has been my experience. With this dynamic in place its hard to really grow with the person because they feel like they have "been there, done that."
Dh is seven years older than me. I've always dated older men, one as much as 10 years.
The one thing I've noticed in being with someone older is there is a chance to be manipulated if you don't know who you are and as you grow "up" and older the older partner has to grow with you. The manipulation isn't intentional at times, it's basically a superiority like "I'm older, I know better", etc.