in_di_vi_du_al
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I recently (April `09) started "talking" to my brothers-fiances-younger brother. And he's a really sweet guy! Very respectable, and a hard worker! We hit it off from the start. Until, apparently he was visiting his ex-girlfriends house...They don't have ANY kids together, but not long before they got together she had twin girls that he became very close too, so he goes and see's them from time to time, or takes them out. This last time, the ex-girlfriend started going through his cell phone and noticed MY number in there. She flipped out and ended up smashing his windshield in- and since then has attempted to stab him. Should I feel indirectly responsible for this? Should I miss out on an opportunity to get to know a good guy because she wants to be crazy? Also, he did say that for the sake of this situation, he wasn't looking for a relationship RIGHT NOW- but in the future, that may be an option for us. Honestly- I can't blame him for coming to than conclusion, but should I wait around for him to come-to terms? or let it go and remain friends, forever? He says he needs to get his life together, before anything.
So- Recently I'd notice a decline in our communication towards each other. We talked less. Saw eachother less & he seemed all around not interested anymore.
This has really HURT me because I don't know what happened..
I dont know what went wrong?
This last past Saturday-we where invited over to his mother house
for dinner.
There where SO many people there, a lot of which I DIDN'T KNOW!
So I stepped out for a minute with his sister ( my brothers fiance)
and when I came back.. He was downstairs and held the door open for me
was a real gentlemen..but I could tell something was wrong.
He NEVER looked me in the eyes
and in addition to him and his crew coming in
this random girl popped up
But she didnt really talk.
They never said TWO words to each other
I thought she was just a family friend/cousin? Shoot, IDK!
Well it had started to get late, so I said my goodbyes and headed down the stairs.
I was on the phone and not paying much attention, but I DID notice that
he was parked directly in front of me.
He was getting out of his car, And suddenly that girl appeared again..
They where holding hands.
.....
wait what?
I FLIPPED!
I was so hurt.
I am so hurt
I just dont know what happened..
Why her? Why not me?
....
So- Recently I'd notice a decline in our communication towards each other. We talked less. Saw eachother less & he seemed all around not interested anymore.
This has really HURT me because I don't know what happened..
I dont know what went wrong?
This last past Saturday-we where invited over to his mother house
for dinner.
There where SO many people there, a lot of which I DIDN'T KNOW!
So I stepped out for a minute with his sister ( my brothers fiance)
and when I came back.. He was downstairs and held the door open for me
was a real gentlemen..but I could tell something was wrong.
He NEVER looked me in the eyes
and in addition to him and his crew coming in
this random girl popped up
But she didnt really talk.
They never said TWO words to each other
I thought she was just a family friend/cousin? Shoot, IDK!
Well it had started to get late, so I said my goodbyes and headed down the stairs.
I was on the phone and not paying much attention, but I DID notice that
he was parked directly in front of me.
He was getting out of his car, And suddenly that girl appeared again..
They where holding hands.
.....
wait what?
I FLIPPED!
I was so hurt.
I am so hurt
I just dont know what happened..
Why her? Why not me?
....