Just turned 30 and there are plenty of good enough. I meet, talk to and get to know lots of good enough. I guess it depends on what you're looking for and for me I am looking for friendships/networking, so its no pressure for me strike up a conversation where ever with whoever.
Besides, I am not subscribing to all those things that turn black men into a purple unicorn because he's employed, responsible and a productive citizen. Why should he get credit for doing what he's supposed to do? No other race accepts such abject mediocrity. I believe because I don't subscribe to this sky is falling/no eligible black men thinking, I find and enjoy the company of lots of black men who will make great husbands and fathers one day or today. I am no 10 by a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo *inhale*ooooooooooooooooong shot, but I guess I am exposed more to them given my career is in a male dominated industry. I also don't have 'desperate for husband and kids' in size 200 Times New Roman font above my head and I grew up with all male cousins, so I share their interests and attend events where they are: gaming, sports, cars etc.
I know beautiful women with great men and some who say they cant find one and I know some Gigapet looking *****s who capture half way decent looking, smart, responsible black men and some looking like Shirley Hemphill in the corner watching everyone elses drinks.
*shrug* I dont know. I can tell you that a few of my coworkers/male friends...good men get looked over because they're under 6'4 or he makes 30K a year teaching science or he's at home with his parents because he's saving for a house or he drives a hatchback and apparently..that isn't hott in the streets. I hear all sorts of horror stories.
Also, Patrice Oneal said it best..."there is no such thing as a "single" man". He may dislodge his attachments for you, but men in general run a corporation and will always have employees performing various duties for them. They're recruiters...its what they do, even now more than ever.
On a side note: Those I want to be a bachelor forever types are the absolute worse, collecting women, selling dreams, so they can get all the milk without buying the cow. Bastards.
Its all interesting.