I have many male relatives there, good men, handsome, too, but they have already been snatched up
I lived in Jackson years ago. Several ladies here live there.
I have many male relatives there, good men, handsome, too, but they have already been snatched up
DC is filled with good men! If you look approachable, you can meet them everywhere. Bookstores, gyms, Starbucks, Whole Foods, U Street, Lima... Just get out of the house, make eye contact, and smile.
If you're open to dating outside your race, finding a good man is even easier.
DC is filled with good men! If you look approachable, you can meet them everywhere. Bookstores, gyms, Starbucks, Whole Foods, U Street, Lima... Just get out of the house, make eye contact, and smile.
If you're open to dating outside your race, finding a good man is even easier.
DC is filled with good men! If you look approachable, you can meet them everywhere. Bookstores, gyms, Starbucks, Whole Foods, U Street, Lima... Just get out of the house, make eye contact, and smile.
If you're open to dating outside your race, finding a good man is even easier.
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Can you give more specific places in DC where men aren't hesitant to approach black women? Thanks. I'm asking because I've been Whole Foods, gyms, etc etc, but men aren't approaching and don't really make eye contact.
I find good men all the time, but can't find the one that's "my type". You know, the one that loves you, loves you?
There's no spark there. They are incredibly attractive on paper, but they usually lack charm and experience with dealing with a woman especially a woman like me. And what am I to do? hold on to them until they mature? Ripen, like a mango? What am I supposed to eat in the meantime?
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I know quite a bit of single "good". Here are three examples.
#1. Is from Uganda. Just got into Law school. Mother is dipomat and I believe dad works in the UN.
#2. Very hardworking, loving and dedicated (he's Nigerian). He was getting ready to propose to his girlfriend when she told him she wanted to see other people. Also college grad
#3 is an computer engineer who just got a position with Goldman sacks
So they are out there
I'm currently trying to hook them up with some Haitian sisters. I have to look out for my people
Maybe part of the problem is that in the black community, we leave soooooo much up to chance and churches. Maybe we need to change that.
:::just thinking out loud:::
I do a lot of things but I don't generally get approached.
I don't really see other women getting approached either.
OT (sorta): I always think this question needs so many qualifiers, because it's subjective as well as relative. The REAL questions are: Where are the "good men" who are looking for serious dating/relationship? By whose definition are we defining a "good man"?
I can meet a random dude who wants sex ALL the time...that's not hard at all. Now he may be single, educated, and telling his friends/family that he's looking for a "good woman", but when he's out in public, it may be a different story. Therefore, the women who say, "oh I know a "good man", perhaps they do, but he may not be coming across as "good" to someone else. I'm saying that to say...it's really a hard question to answer which is why, although we're getting good answers on where to find them (LuckiestDestiny was mad thorough! ) they're not presenting themselves to be looking for the same thing we're looking for. A guy as a friend can act differently as a potential. Thus, the question gets re-asked again and again.
Also, there's the the other variables as to what he's looking for first---the physical (I'm just mentioning that because men see the physical first). I think I'm an attractive woman, although I'm not a 10. BUT, with the surge of interest in the masses of "lonely BW" flooding the media and presenting us as educated, but single and lonely, some of these men know they're in demand and only want a certain look or a 10 or extremely specific criteria. So, that also can add other dimensions to the "good man" who is known, but not found and also can't find someone.
Unfortunately, though that question can be answered superficially, there's never really a concrete answer. I think it's about timing and being at the right place at the right time...simply put. I've been to so many events and got nothing...or went out randomly and met a decent guy, so I think it's just the luck of the draw.
I think we as BW keep searching for logical answers to this question and superficially, it can be answered, but once you start digging, it's much harder than that.
P.S. I think the fact that a BM can't find a good BW is BS. Plain and simple. There is not enough convincing in the world to make me believe that with ALL these single BW running around this country, a BM can't find ONE. I refuse to believe it; I REFUSE it with all my heart and EXTREME PREJUDICE, LOL. IMO, if we were to break it down, we'd see that these men are 1) being unrealistic in what they're looking for, 2) dismissing a "good" woman on the basis of something stupid, 3) looking for a "good" woman in a "bad" place, 4) or finding a "good" woman and not putting in the work and then determining it must be her.
The best bet these days is through mutual friends OR a group that meets on a regular basis with a mix of men/women.
Sorry to hijack OP...I guess I just had to some things to get off my heart/mind, LOL. I just kept typing... great question that can rarely be answered thoroughly though. I have more to say and an example, but I'm going to stop now.
ITA, in general.
I actually get approached, but not by the guys who are about something. For instance, I was approached by a guy at a black professional discussion group and though I wasn't necessarily attracted to him, I gave him my number, just because he was very outgoing and seemed to be a lot of fun. Well, I come to find out that's he's only interested in sex. Literally, that was it. So, though I was in a neutral, professional environment with educated BM, the one that WOULD hit on me, wasn't interested in a relationship or even dating for that matter. But, yes, on paper and by all accounts, he is a "good man", I guess.
ITA, in general.
I actually get approached, but not by the guys who are about something. For instance, I was approached by a guy at a black professional discussion group and though I wasn't necessarily attracted to him, I gave him my number, just because he was very outgoing and seemed to be a lot of fun. Well, I come to find out that's he's only interested in sex. Literally, that was it. So, though I was in a neutral, professional environment with educated BM, the one that WOULD hit on me, wasn't interested in a relationship or even dating for that matter. But, yes, on paper and by all accounts, he is a "good man", I guess.
Thanks so much sharing this!! Just wanted to say that.I have friends who went to all these events, one even went with her sister. Black professionals, Black Lawyers society, Black Business society. All the black networking, they went to singles events at church. Busy mingle, eventually with all the mingling, they still didn't meet partners and she added up frustrated. She screamed "God, I need a husband, why can't I find one, anyway, she and her sister found her husbands, both non-black, while they were out and about. One in the high street and another in a restaurant. Another friend, her sister and mother prayed for a husband for their younger sister, after three months, she found her husband in Glades shopping centre!
So there you go!
I have friends who went to all these events, one even went with her sister. Black professionals, Black Lawyers society, Black Business society. All the black networking, they went to singles events at church. Busy mingle, eventually with all the mingling, they still didn't meet partners and she added up frustrated. She screamed "God, I need a husband, why can't I find one, anyway, she and her sister found her husbands, both non-black, while they were out and about. One in the high street and another in a restaurant. Another friend, her sister and mother prayed for a husband for their younger sister, after three months, she found her husband in Glades shopping centre!
So there you go!
I've met good men at:
- Tryst (grad students study there during the day)
- Starbucks on Howard U's campus
- Eighteenth Street Lounge (where I met my bf)
- Lima (upscale international guys. I've met a lot of guys here; doctors, laywers, accountants, and diplomat's sons. I usually go during the week.)
- Washington Sports Club on Connecticut Ave (there's a co-ed sauna!)
- The stores around Georgetown
- Peacock Cafe (Go for brunch and sit on the patio when it's warm)
- U Street (attracts a better crowd than Adam's Morgan)
- Any indie coffe shop
- Soul Vegetarian (if you like Neo Soul guys. Get the vegan mac and cheese, it's delish)
- the bar at Busboy's and Poets and Alero
- walking around Capitol Hill
- downtown Bethesda around lunch time
- when I was in undergrad, I met a couple good guys when I was doing volunteer work
This area attracts motivated networkers, so you can meet good guys in just about every nice neighborhood. If you are confident and look approachable, you'll get hit on. From what I've seen, European and Persian men are into Black women here. White American men are usually hesitant to make the first move, but if you smile at them then they'll approach.
This sounds more promising than Boston. I'm in Canada as well and well.... Ottawa sucks!
I love Boston and it feels like home. I think I might try to venture to your area.
Does anyone have any recommendation for Boston? as to where to meet good men?
Chocolat, please provide more of your examples.