Kimberly
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The man that I have been seeing off and on and I have recently gotten rather serious. We've been off and on due to the distance. He's in VA and, at first I was in TN and now I'm in IN.
He does not have his own church. He has not been to seminary. But he is very studious and he feels that he has been called to preach and was invited to preach several times last year by a few different churches where he is (like his mother's church, his sister's church, etc.). I have a feeling this will increase but he said that he doesn't feel that he was called to have his own church. At least, not now. (My aunt's husband just recently started his own church and he's 66 so I guess you go when God tells you to go).
I'm wondering how or if him preaching might change the nature of our relationship. When we first met almost four years ago, he would talk about waiting to have sex until we were married...and that didn't quite work out...
I daresay that I was the problem where waiting was concerned although I know that I didn't and couldn't make him do anything he didn't want to do.
Now, he is seriously talking about getting married next year. I'm apprehensive because we have mostly only spent time together a weekend at a time 2-3 times per year. Most of our relationship has been over the phone, emails, and IMs. The tentative plan is, when the children go to Memphis to spend the summer with their father, I move to VA. We spend that 2 months together and planning the wedding. BUT I think I would rather get married in late May/early June and then send the children to spend the summer with their father while we honeymooned. That way, we wouldn't just be living together during the summer. We'd be married. And we wouldn't be trying to honeymoon with the children there.
This man is so beautiful to me...inside and out. For almost four years, he's been patient and kind and generous. He's always encouraged me and been supportive of me. And, although I have dated other people during the years of knowing him, after he left in September from our most recent visit, I have just not wanted to be with or even around anyone else. I just want him.
So, the reason I started this post is I am wondering if men change as they get into "the Word" or preaching? I love him and I love him the way he is. Does it take a certain kind of woman to be married to a preacher? Would I be expected to change? I want to be as encouraging and supportive of him as he has always been of me. Does that mean no more stilletos or mini-skirts or low-cut blouses?
edited to clarify...I don't wear the stilletos, mini-skirts, or low-cut bouses all at the same time...that may seem a little skanky...not that anyone who does is skanky...I'm not trying to offend, that just wouldn't be me
TIA, I appreciate any feedback.
He does not have his own church. He has not been to seminary. But he is very studious and he feels that he has been called to preach and was invited to preach several times last year by a few different churches where he is (like his mother's church, his sister's church, etc.). I have a feeling this will increase but he said that he doesn't feel that he was called to have his own church. At least, not now. (My aunt's husband just recently started his own church and he's 66 so I guess you go when God tells you to go).
I'm wondering how or if him preaching might change the nature of our relationship. When we first met almost four years ago, he would talk about waiting to have sex until we were married...and that didn't quite work out...
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Now, he is seriously talking about getting married next year. I'm apprehensive because we have mostly only spent time together a weekend at a time 2-3 times per year. Most of our relationship has been over the phone, emails, and IMs. The tentative plan is, when the children go to Memphis to spend the summer with their father, I move to VA. We spend that 2 months together and planning the wedding. BUT I think I would rather get married in late May/early June and then send the children to spend the summer with their father while we honeymooned. That way, we wouldn't just be living together during the summer. We'd be married. And we wouldn't be trying to honeymoon with the children there.
This man is so beautiful to me...inside and out. For almost four years, he's been patient and kind and generous. He's always encouraged me and been supportive of me. And, although I have dated other people during the years of knowing him, after he left in September from our most recent visit, I have just not wanted to be with or even around anyone else. I just want him.
So, the reason I started this post is I am wondering if men change as they get into "the Word" or preaching? I love him and I love him the way he is. Does it take a certain kind of woman to be married to a preacher? Would I be expected to change? I want to be as encouraging and supportive of him as he has always been of me. Does that mean no more stilletos or mini-skirts or low-cut blouses?
edited to clarify...I don't wear the stilletos, mini-skirts, or low-cut bouses all at the same time...that may seem a little skanky...not that anyone who does is skanky...I'm not trying to offend, that just wouldn't be me
TIA, I appreciate any feedback.
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