am I being petty?

[Oasis]

at first i thought you were being petty because i never post pics of me and my boo on fb but he has me splashed all over his page.

but the fact that he's posting white chicks that he boned once and not you, who he is in a serious rlship with, that is a problem and i would certainly be annoyed if i was in your position. have you talked to him about it? what did he say?

 

[LiftedUp]

I don't put pics of SOs on my social media sites. I plan to post a wedding pic when I get married, that's it lol.

I won't think too much into it... but that's just me.

 

[SunRai Naturals]

I can see where you are coming from and I don't think it's petty. If he was consistent with being private then that's one thing but to post previous women that he had relations with and then not post you is something else.

It could be nothing or it could be a red flag. Some men like to appear single online because they are still out there sowing the wild oats and want to keep the girlfriend at home too. Not saying that this is what your guy is doing but just be observant.

 

[Crystalicequeen123]

@celiabug

Oh wow...sorry about this OP erplexed Are there any updates since you last posted?


Look, I love my social media and everything, but I try not to make it my life.

I think a good general rule for a lot of women to follow w/social media is to not post any pictures of you and your boo BEFORE he has posted/tagged photos of you on HIS FB page/IG photo album.

I know this sounds petty and looks like playing games, but I honestly think it's probably better to leave the Social Media alone when it comes to relationships. When I start dating a guy, people on social media will not know that I'm even dating him unless you are my SUPER close friend, OR unless HE has posted something on HIS social media page. Otherwise, I tend to be VERY private about my love life on social media.

I think it's better to let the guy do all of the posting. Maybe after he has posted stuff about you, THEN you can post a picture or two of him. But I wouldn't do it regularly and I wouldn't be too gushy about it.


RE: The OTHER girl.....
YEah...ummm...that would be a problem....

I would casually (and calmly) ask him about it, and if he tries to give you some lame excuse, I would discretely take down the pictures of him on my page.

Most of the time though, men just want to be PRIVATE. Maybe he doesn't want his BOYS giving him a hard time for being all "soft" now or something.

Usually social media is not THAT big a deal..... But, if it continues to be a problem for YOU, then yes I would address it in a non-accusatory way.

 

[Do_Si_Dos]

I don't put pics of SOs on my social media sites. I plan to post a wedding pic when I get married, that's it lol.

I won't think too much into it... but that's just me.

I did this, and people were shocked I was dating, let alone married. I still don't post pics of DH or even myself on FB. I only have that one picture of us up. Lol, anbd that's only when my FB isn't deactivated.