tocktick
Well-Known Member
I do understand. But his cheating on you and putting your life and children's life in jeopardy, this IMO is not a characteristic good man/father/husband. You have to consider your health and safety first. I don't mean to sound harsh, but cheating is bad enough as it is but your are 5 months pregnant. That's lower than low You may want to consider an exit strategy, if confronting him, counseling etc. does not change his behavior. You and your children deserve better than this. Please don't have anymore children with this man, it will only make it harder on you emotionally and financially.
I have been in a situation similar to yours many years ago. I did not stay with my ex-husband, I left and made it on my own with my son. I am not saying its easy, but you can do this too. I am praying for you.
i agree. the only thing i have to say is, if your daughter were in your position, would you be advising her to stay? i would think the answer you be no. but whilst you are in this kind of relationship, your children will observe how you and your husband interact with each other. by observing the dynamics of your relationship, it will serve as the basis of what they think is acceptable and unacceptable in a relationship. i'm sure you may have heard about women who have been brought up seeing their mothers abused ending up in abusive relationships themselves. whilst they know abuse is wrong, they subconsciously seek out destructive relationships because they did not grow up seeing how a real man treated his wife. now this isn't true for all women with mothers like that but it's too often an occurance to be dismissed. on the flip side, you often hear about boys being raised with dads who beat their mothers and those boys growing up to be abusers also. these kind of things then to repeat themselves.
i would hazard a guess that you husband did all these "nice" things for you out of guilt to be quite honest and not because he loves you. cheating on your wife and potentially bringing a disease home to infect her with is not love. being dishonest and betraying you is not what love is.