2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks
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I don't care if he knows. I don't plan on staying around regardless for this reason and another one so it doesn't matter if he's ok with it or not. I don't call it snooping I call it fact checking, which I do when things don't make sense to me.
He currently lives in the property. He first told me he lived there for a year and half. Last night he told me it was six months and then something about him buying the place and renting it out and then the renters wife died and went to live somewhere else. So he moved in. He never looked me in the eye through that entire conversation. It was an elaborate story.
If he ever owned the place like he said he did/does his name would be listed as a deed holder, there would have been mortgage in his name, or his name listed as a grantee/grantor. For there not to be any history of him being tied to the property is strange.
daydreem2876
carpe diem
^^^kandake I feel you on the fact checking. I know I did The way I see it, if a man would lie to me over unimpotant matters what wont he lie to me about. Why should I stick around to find out where he would draw that line? The main reason SO and I are together is because he hasnt lied to me about anything... and, yes I checked everything!
The way I see it, if a man would lie to me over unimpotant matters what wont he lie to me about. Why should I stick around to find out where he would draw that line? The main reason SO and I are together is because he hasnt lied to me about anything... and, yes I checked everything!
mallysmommy
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Ok quick confession time. The past few days i have initiated contact with bf. Even though we spent time away yesterday i still called him that night to chat with him. He seemed annoyed and was sarcastic and was the same the day before.
Today i said id let him contact me. And so far no cigar. I see him posting on fb too.
Im just venting and perhaps even over reacting. Ill call him later on if i dont hear from him first.
Today i said id let him contact me. And so far no cigar. I see him posting on fb too.
Im just venting and perhaps even over reacting. Ill call him later on if i dont hear from him first.
ManeStreet
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I don't care if he knows. I don't plan on staying around regardless for this reason and another one so it doesn't matter if he's ok with it or not. I don't call it snooping I call it fact checking, which I do when things don't make sense to me.
He currently lives in the property. He first told me he lived there for a year and half. Last night he told me it was six months and then something about him buying the place and renting it out and then the renters wife died and went to live somewhere else. So he moved in. He never looked me in the eye through that entire conversation. It was an elaborate story.
If he ever owned the place like he said he did/does his name would be listed as a deed holder, there would have been mortgage in his name, or his name listed as a grantee/grantor. For there not to be any history of him being tied to the property is strange.
smart woman! If more people did things like this they wouldnt end up being a story on the ID investigation channel. Some people may call it "snooping", I call it smart.
hopeful
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Annoyed and sarcastic? And you still plan to call him if he doesn't? I feel like I'm missing something.
mallysmommy
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alrighty we're good, and i was overrreacting. he stopped by a two hours after i posted with dr.pepper and cheeto puffs. (my fav) Said that he had sent me a text last night talking about he was thinking of me. my phone has and still is acting funny and i have been missing messages. i rebooted my phone and sure enough the text came through. He stopped by saying that he know that we were spending some alone time but he really wanted to see me. 
we are watching cheaters and are getting ready to call it a night!!!! 
we are watching cheaters and are getting ready to call it a night!!!! 
VeryBecoming
Devil's Avocado
OMGGGGGGGGGGG living together is so weird. I wonder if we're just going to get used to it or if I'll actually try to find my own place. It's only been 2 weeks but it feels so...comfortable.
Lissa0821
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MY SO said something that really touched my heart.
We were out driving and I started to mention something about an ex-boyfriend. I stopped mid-sentence because he gets really jealous when I mention any man from my past. He asked why did I stop talking and I told him that I didn't want to deal with him getting an attitude cause we were enjoying each others company. He responded by saying, I really owe you an apology because I have made you feel like you can't say anything to me. I want to you to come to me about anything and everything, you can't do that if I keep getting jealous over your past. I am sorry and I will work being a better listener for you.
We were out driving and I started to mention something about an ex-boyfriend. I stopped mid-sentence because he gets really jealous when I mention any man from my past. He asked why did I stop talking and I told him that I didn't want to deal with him getting an attitude cause we were enjoying each others company. He responded by saying, I really owe you an apology because I have made you feel like you can't say anything to me. I want to you to come to me about anything and everything, you can't do that if I keep getting jealous over your past. I am sorry and I will work being a better listener for you.
firecracker
Well-Known Member
Too many things to do and not enough time. Thank goodness he is always willing and able to pick up the load.
mallysmommy
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i promise i have the worst luck ever.
so the suprise visit with goodies was a ploy to prepare me for why he really has been acting strange.
He mother is sick, i was aware of that but i didn't know the extent or nature of her illness. The doctors are saying that she doesn't have very long and that now his family should be preparing for her passing.
He is the only child, and has made the decision to move back and stay with his mother to comfort her in these final moments. then he drops the bomb that he also accepted another job position back in his hometown and he has decided to move back permanently
i had no words. he left late last night and has texted and call this morning but i seriously have nothing to say to him.
though i understand him being with his sick mother, but why a permanent move? how long had he been considering this? i didn't even know that he was job hunting.....and for some strange reason i have a feeling that something isn't right in the water.......
erplexed
someone out there in the universe really doesn't want me to be with anyone....i'm starting to become bitter and really not really interested in being with anyone...ever. its like i get too close to someone and something always happen.
this is no woe is me post. im actually feeling very neutral, but my heart is hardening.
so the suprise visit with goodies was a ploy to prepare me for why he really has been acting strange.
He mother is sick, i was aware of that but i didn't know the extent or nature of her illness. The doctors are saying that she doesn't have very long and that now his family should be preparing for her passing.
He is the only child, and has made the decision to move back and stay with his mother to comfort her in these final moments. then he drops the bomb that he also accepted another job position back in his hometown and he has decided to move back permanently
i had no words. he left late last night and has texted and call this morning but i seriously have nothing to say to him.
though i understand him being with his sick mother, but why a permanent move? how long had he been considering this? i didn't even know that he was job hunting.....and for some strange reason i have a feeling that something isn't right in the water.......
erplexedsomeone out there in the universe really doesn't want me to be with anyone....i'm starting to become bitter and really not really interested in being with anyone...ever. its like i get too close to someone and something always happen.
this is no woe is me post. im actually feeling very neutral, but my heart is hardening.
InchHighPrivateEye
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We had a terr*rist fist bump moment
There are so many times when I'll say something very commitment-esque or something like "I'm the one you talk to
!" and I'll be saying it in jest but I really mean it and I want to immediately retract it because I feel like I've exposed my vulnerability and it's like my past interactions with men have taught me that they might shy away from or take advantage of that. I love that he doesn't. He'll be like "That's right. Exactly." Word? I love it.
There are so many times when I'll say something very commitment-esque or something like "I'm the one you talk to
!" and I'll be saying it in jest but I really mean it and I want to immediately retract it because I feel like I've exposed my vulnerability and it's like my past interactions with men have taught me that they might shy away from or take advantage of that. I love that he doesn't. He'll be like "That's right. Exactly." Word? I love it.
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InchHighPrivateEye
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firecracker
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mallysmommy I don't think you should internalize his actions to the point that you give up on love. We all take chances and there are no guarantees. You guys had just started dating so at least neither one of you were vested in each other at this point. I know it probably hurts because you really liked him and was looking forward to seeing what it could become. Don't give up on love. This is just a bump in the road of love.
Feel better. Try to enjoy the journey.
Feel better. Try to enjoy the journey.
NappyNelle
Kinky Coily 4A, Fine Strands, WSL
It's been nearly 2 weeks and I'm going to see him. Gotta look so he can see what he's been missing. 
ditto
but something def dont sound right---at all with dude...
*** him--on to the next--i wouldnt allow anyone to control my happiness--have a moment and cry it out and dust yourself off and then keep it moving
accepted a job and didnt have the deceny to mention that---dude..really? insane
but something def dont sound right---at all with dude...
*** him--on to the next--i wouldnt allow anyone to control my happiness--have a moment and cry it out and dust yourself off and then keep it moving
accepted a job and didnt have the deceny to mention that---dude..really? insane
. Thankfully work will keep me busy.
Oasis
grabbing life by the pussy
Glamorous_chic
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i just posted this in the cuffing season thread... so this fool who i dated for a few months who literally disappeared from the face of the earth back in june just hit me up, texting me hey....
i called b/c i wanted to know wtf happened to him, he didnt answer, then i went off on him via text. he responds that he was out of the country in alaska helping family with some flooding issues. 1. alaska is not out of the country idiot, its apart of the us
2. as far as i knew all his family lives here or jersey. 3. you've been out of the country since may, and decide the best you can do is text hey. i was sooo pissed and was gonna go off somemore but decided silence was better. i was really worried something bad happened to him, like we went from seeing him every day to just silence. no answer to text or phone call. smdh. men never fail to amaze me.
i called b/c i wanted to know wtf happened to him, he didnt answer, then i went off on him via text. he responds that he was out of the country in alaska helping family with some flooding issues. 1. alaska is not out of the country idiot, its apart of the us
2. as far as i knew all his family lives here or jersey. 3. you've been out of the country since may, and decide the best you can do is text hey. i was sooo pissed and was gonna go off somemore but decided silence was better. i was really worried something bad happened to him, like we went from seeing him every day to just silence. no answer to text or phone call. smdh. men never fail to amaze me.
InchHighPrivateEye
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Oasis said:
It self destructed like those little Mission Impossible tapes
C@ssandr@
formerly known as "keyawarren"
So this morning I had the pleasure of running into my crush. We rode the elevator together but we both forgot to press our floor :/ (we work in the same building). Fortunately my boss was in the elevator too and had already pressed the button. He ended up riding up with me. This time our interaction was only semi awkward. I can barely remember the conversation. I invited him to come out with our mutual friends tomorrow (he usually comes but wasn't invited yet) but he said he has plans with a coworker or something. My mind was so foggy I barely remember looking at him. Although I did noticed he shaved his mustache since our last run in.
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