2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

[VeryBecoming]

wax = vax
when = ven
vote = wote
windshield = vindshield
vine = wine

so cute.

Awww he as accent!? My bf doesn't but his whole family does. There was a little Indian boy a flight and I thought his accent was so cute. I think my bf trained himself out of his.

 

[Evolving78]

we spent the entire weekend with each other. i forced him to watch anime and chick flicks with me and he dragged me to a video game convention. we have a lot in common but i found out that our musical tastes differ GREATLY.

im all
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YT_yxs_-J1M, and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DRg7cbsFJ34

he's all

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slpVaf8tq5E and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tiPAvmy3eA

and he has the nerve to suggest we go on a road trip.

girl don't do it! or you will have to bring your ipod, mp3 player, tablet, etc....

 

[MzLady78]

@MzLady don't over think it or take the lead. He drove you home and he kissed you. Be patient and see what happens. It may mean nothing -- just a drunken kiss. Or it could be the beginning of something special. Either way let him continue to take the lead and see where things go, then you make the best decision that works for you.

In other words try not to start asking what did that mean and what do you want from me, etc.

Yep, that's exactly what it was.

How stupid do I feel?

 

[firecracker]

Yep, that's exactly what it was.

How stupid do I feel?

I was kinda taken aback by the whole thing. I know ya'll were drunk and all but I don't play that kinda behavior drunk or sober. He deserved to be slapped instead of wondering what it meant imo. I consider that sexual assault and disrespectful.

I hope things work out for you on all fronts MzLady78.

 

[hopeful]

Yep, that's exactly what it was.

How stupid do I feel?

No need to feel stupid such is life and things happen (especially when you are drunk .) And I think he may be lying too but chickened out of pursuing you, welp either way, he can KIM with his bougie self.

 

[BGT]

Me and SO made our first couple friend, Mike and Savannah! We're going to their apartment Wednesday for dinner and scrabble. Mike sent a long text with menu options:

1. Crab biqsue, chopped salad, grilled fish with chili sauce, peppers and yellow rice
2. Crab bisque, caesar salad, seafood pasta with mollusks, crabs, shrimp and scallops
3. lebanese garden salad, hummus with pitas, girlled lamb sauteed with onions and served with falafel and basmati rice.

We chose option 2. Then on Friday, SO and I are going to treat them to bowling and pizza.

 

[MzLady78]

I was kinda taken aback by the whole thing. I know ya'll were drunk and all but I don't play that kinda behavior drunk or sober. He deserved to be slapped instead of wondering what it meant imo. I consider that sexual assault and disrespectful.

I hope things work out for you on all fronts MzLady78.

Interesting.

I didn't look at it like that but I guess I can see how one could. I didn't feel unsafe or uncomfortable at all.

In either case, it's whatever. I'm over it all.

 

[misseyblue]

So we just had our first unpleasant text convo...but all is well now. He ended it with "I appreciate you"...good thing as I was about to ignore him... it was clear that we both didn't wake up on the right side of the bed this morning...

 

[Oasis]

Awww he as accent!? My bf doesn't but his whole family does. There was a little Indian boy a flight and I thought his accent was so cute. I think my bf trained himself out of his.

sorta. his parents have ''gas station owner" accents but his is very different. it's only obvious when he uses V/W or certain words. immejetly, yor-ROPE-e-an, prom-EH-THEE-us etc. he said when he a kid he pronounced penis, PEN-is. i find that so hilarious for some reason.

was yours born here?

 

[CarLiTa]

Cuffing season scares the living daylights out of me. I don't wanna be cuffed!*shudders in a corner*

 

[tinkat]

Cuffing season scares the living daylights out of me. I don't wanna be cuffed!*shudders in a corner*

you will be fine

 

[InchHighPrivateEye]

aww, Carlita, you're not being cuffed!

 

[tyrablu]

Cuffing season scares the living daylights out of me. I don't wanna be cuffed!*shudders in a corner*

I'm sorry, but this made me laugh

 

[VeryBecoming]

sorta. his parents have ''gas station owner" accents but his is very different. it's only obvious when he uses V/W or certain words. immejetly, yor-ROPE-e-an, prom-EH-THEE-us etc. he said when he a kid he pronounced penis, PEN-is. i find that so hilarious for some reason.

was yours born here?

No he was born in India and lived there until he was 7 or something like that.

 

[daydreem2876]

SO is going through some personal growth changes and doing some reevaluating of his life (i.e. some friendships, some behaviors, setting goals). He has been very clear that it doesnt have anything to do with me and says he doesn't want me to do anything different, just continue to be me because it makes it makes him smile.

The hard part is that he is not ready to talk about it, he simply does not have the words. When I ask what he is thinking, I can see him trying to express it but he struggles to. I can respect that because I do the same (just last week matter of fact). I told him that its OK, he does have to talk about it now, and I already know what's wrong. I dont want to push, because the conversation will be more productive and both of us will be more open and receptive the others thoughts. Both of us are used to internalizing our personal issues. We have been alone for so long and fending for ourselves (at least 6 years a piece) that sharing our feelings/fears/struggles with someone else is almost a foreign concept.

I guess my question is, what do you do to be supportive of your SO/DH when they going through some personal changes that have nothing to do with you? It makes me unhappy to watch him brooding like that and not able to fully connect with me.

 

[tinkat]

daydreem2876

I would just be my normal self as stated to you. I would continue to be supportive and encouraging. He will come around and appreciate the fact that you were there during a tough time.

 

[deltadreamland]

Another date tonight with SO. I know it's a work night, but I just cannot resist him. So.....

Babysitter-CHECK
Outfit-WHO KNOWS?
Hair-DISASTER AREA erplexed
Happiness and Love-CHECK, CHECK, AND CHECK

 

[Dare~to~Dream]

So I never heard of the term "cuffing season" and had to Google it.

 

[mallysmommy]

Spending some time alone today. We've spent the last two weekends and some weekdays together which has left us both a little behind on things for me ... ie laundry hair schoolwork and just some plain ol' "me" time. We are both off on friday and have planned to spend the entire day together while ds is at daycare . Yaaay

 

[C@ssandr@]

I need a gift idea!

My aunt and uncle just got married last weekend.

They've been together for 37 years

What could I possibly get them?

 

[Evolving78]

keyawarren

^^^spa package?
cooking class they can do together
a nice bottle of wine
a pretty picture frame of them
massage candles
funny his and her tee shirts
bath towels with their names on them

 

[SoopremeBeing]

Nothing much going on over here. Made a personal slave out of my ex since he's trying to make amends. He keeps updating me on what hes doing and where he is, and...its kinda annoying LOL.

 

[Maracujá]

Hoping my cute co-worker addresses me about something not work-related. We've spoken on the phone and we're always so cordial towards each other...I spend my time looking for him and when I do I just observe him, I like the way people act when around him, they're always so happy and patting him on the shoulders and all.

 

[firecracker]

He's being...sweet. Which I find odd.

I asked him if he was drunk or something. I don't think he appreciated that.

this made me bust out laughing.

Interesting.

I didn't look at it like that but I guess I can see how one could. I didn't feel unsafe or uncomfortable at all.

In either case, it's whatever. I'm over it all.

I'm kind of a prude when it comes to unwarranted or unsolicited sexual advances, discussions etc so pay me no never mind. Different strokes for different folks. What if tries to back track on his statement after the fact would you consider giving him a shot? Maybe he had liquid courage then got cold feet there after. You never know with men and their egos. Well nevertheless I wish you all the happiness you deserve.

I'm really glad to see so much love in the air in this thread. tinkat I'm loving it and all the rest of you ladies riding the waves of love. Enjoy the moment and marinate in the afterglow. Life and love is a precious and beautiful thing especially if you have someone to share it with and call your own.

@crlsweetie I'm glad your feeling somebody or rather you guys are feeling each other.

Kismett & deltadreamland I'm singing that sitting in the tree K-I-SS-ING song to ya'll. Be warned I sound like Barry White though.

 

[tinkat]

Thank you firecracker! I am loving the wave of love in the thread too.

I know understand how you guys feel who are in ldr and it gets to that point where you start getting irritable bc you miss you SO. Today he thought I was getting smart with him via text but I wasn't trying to.. Then I started getting mad bc I just got finish talking to my Sis who really irks me to the core. So to hear him think that I was getting smart almost mad me want to really get smart. But I kept it cool and we settled it, he apologized and I did also(with hesitation :lol, it's that Leo in me). There is a lot going on in my personal life but I can't complain. Things will be looking up. It's difficult living with a sibling at times, especially one who is dramatic and panics at any adversity. She has a good heart deep down but this is the last roommate I will ever have!!!!!!!

I really miss him though! Everyday he sends me a passage from a book he is reading about patience. It's the theme in my life right now bc I need it.

 

[MzLady78]

I'm kind of a prude when it comes to unwarranted or unsolicited sexual advances, discussions etc so pay me no never mind. Different strokes for different folks. What if tries to back track on his statement after the fact would you consider giving him a shot? Maybe he had liquid courage then got cold feet there after. You never know with men and their egos. Well nevertheless I wish you all the happiness you deserve.

I feel you.

Subsequent convos have led me to believe that it really just a drunken urge but if somehow I turned out to be wrong, I would probably K.I.M. I don't have any patience for someone who is gonna be wishy-washy with me, you're either interested or you're not.

At any rate, I'm falling back from all things male related. I need to get my ish in order. It hit me yesterday that I'll be 35 soon and I'm seriously failing at life right now.

 

[Evolving78]

I feel you.

Subsequent convos have led me to believe that it really just a drunken urge but if somehow I turned out to be wrong, I would probably K.I.M. I don't have any patience for someone who is gonna be wishy-washy with me, you're either interested or you're not.

At any rate, I'm falling back from all things male related. I need to get my ish in order. It hit me yesterday that I'll be 35 soon and I'm seriously failing at life right now.

don't feel that way. i'll be 35 soon as well. i had to literally start my life over.
men will always be around. are they really a distraction for you? i used to feel that way, but i've come to the conclusion that i was the one getting in my own way. i would get so wrapped up into a relationship and lose focus on what i was trying to achieve. what i needed to learn was balance and to stop compromising myself and my goals. i had to learn my time and energy was just as valuable to me, and not just give it all to a relationship.

going on hiatus from men didn't help me at all. every time i felt like i needed to get back on track, i would leave men alone for awhile. i would get myself together and they would just come out of nowhere. i would end up getting myself caught up again. that's where i figured out that i just need balance.

i have a friend that always shuts herself off from the world when things aren't going right in her life. she comes out once in while, but as soon as the first man tries to pull a fast one on her, she is back in the dark again. literally.

 

[Miss AJ]

SO and I are 9 days away from moving in together. We've only been in a relationship for 3 months but we've been friends (and in love lol) our entire lives. I believe life kept us apart for a reason and now is the time that was destined for us. I couldn't be any happier

 

[tinkat]

Just realized me and twin been together a month today! Tomorrow marks a year without the crayon ...I know I said I'll wait til marriage but I don't know...lol

But a visit is in the making soon !!!!

 

[kandake]

I've been dating this guy for a couple weeks and he just ruined it by lying about a piece of property he owned. His story seemed suspicious so I looked it up. The Recorder of Deeds does not have his name listed anywhere in all the records from the time the place was built to present. SMH I'm trying to figure out if I should confront him on it or stop taking his calls.