2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

So disappointed in him. He knows today is our anniversary (we talked about it yesterday) and he hasn't said a dang thing about it. :sad: 7 years!?! How do you forget about that!?!

I don't even want to say anything about it since it didn't pop in his mind... If he only knew how tired I am of all this, he would go fetch me the stars and the moon. :rolleyes:

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DanitheBee said:
Me: wyd
Him: abt to eat some cereal and then take a shower, wanna join me? lol
Me: Sure lemme come scrub you with a brillo pad
Him: omg black woman dont you have a romantic bone in your body?
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my problem is not the shower invitation. regardless of how serious a guy is about you he's gonna wanna see if he can get some. the ''omg black woman'' is what bothers me. what does that have to do with anything? couldn't he just have easily said ''omg woman''?:perplexed what is he trying to imply?
 
A few interesting convos I feel like sharing.

So I'm on the phone with my little friend and all of a sudden
He yells::orders: Aye, AYE. MAN CUT THAT ISH OUT!!!
NS: :look:
Dude: I SAID CUT THAT ISH OUT!!!
NS: :ohwell:
Dude: Sorry for screaming in your ear but some dude was beating the hell out of this little white boy. MF on the ground screaming, crying and ish. And this lil ninja just punching the ish out him. I don't like to see ish like that. :blah:*proceeds to go on a rant about bullies*
NS: :yep:
Dude: AYE MAN, YOU AIIGHT??? LET ME KNOW IF HE PLUCKS WITH YOU AGAIN!!!!
NS::infatuated:
He's hood as pluck :look: but anyone who stands up for the underdog is cool with me :waytogo:








Next convo. I met this dude who tried that "I don't like to go out to eat, let's just chill" madness with me.
*Phone rings*
NS: *looks at phone* :rolleyes::boredwrk:
Text:Why are you acting funny
NS: :boredwrk:
Text: No comment
NS: :boredwrk:
Text: Are you okay?
NS: :boredwrk:
Text: You're not going to answer?
NS: :boredwrk:
Text: Why are you acting like that?
NS: *Text* I'm sorry. I think you are a nice guy but we don't have anything in common.
Text: How do you know that? You've never given me a chance
NS::boredwrk:
Text: Let me prove it to you.
NS: :ohwell:
Text: We can go out, do whatever you want to do sweetie. Just talk to me please.
NS: :boredwrk:
Sighs. It's amazing how quick a ninja will change his tune when you put your foot down:rolleyes:. Cuffing Season 2012.
 
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DanitheBee said:
could you please explain? I didn't find talking about showering together very romantic so early in the process.
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I think you are taking this too seriously too soon. Clearly he was joking and you are kinda mad. Maybe he is too playful for you? But you also played into the showering thing with (Sure lemme come scrub you with a brillo pad). I think that because of that he won't know that you are mad with him.
 
I did well today. He called me twice. I responded with my regular happy voice. He sounded really sad/upset, but wasn't ready to share; I told him that if he needed to vent, he could give me a call. I guess I'm not in the mood to date anyone right now, but I do want to try out some of the meetup events to possibly expand my social circle.

My friend is ready to date, and I want to go 'window shopping' with her for moral support. She is amazing, so I hope she can meet a few men with good qualities and sense.
 
DanitheBee said:
Yea I do think I took it too seriously, but I explained all of that to him and he said I should relax lol, however I'm still glad it happened so that he knows he's no where near getting anything. (on his okc profile he said 3-5 dates b4 he sleeps with someone).
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I think HE took it too seriously. I think the brillo pad response was classic:lol: I respond like that all the time and most dudes just laugh it off.
 
Relaxed after enjoying 2dys at the spa.

I had to tell him get his passport updated because I have an obligation to attend my bff that lives in Bermuda 50th bdy party in March.
 
he's taking me to a cocktail party this weekend hosted by his program. and one of his close friends wants to go to the fair/finally meet me.

i really don't want to spend money on a new dress & am happy i realized i have multiple appropriate options. just wtf to do with my hair. ugh why i do have so much. :ohwell:
 
After being hurt so many times in past relationships, I can't discern whether I'm being paranoid about being cheated on in my new relationship or if there are really some things I need to investigate. I operate on the "take ten" philosophy and take 10 (or more) minutes before I react or respond to anything to avoid lashing out in emotion. I'm going through a very difficult time emotionally in general and I don't want to sabotage my relationship. He takes such amazing care of me and is so attentive, affectionate, etc. I think I'm just waiting for something bad to happen because it's been so good so far... I wish I could just allow him to love me and be happy for once.

One thing tho - I refuse to jump right into "Girlfriend 10.0" and lose myself again. I will maintain my identity, my interests, and my friendships. Being too caught up in my relationship is what got me hurt last time.
 
MrsS said:
So disappointed in him. He knows today is our anniversary (we talked about it yesterday) and he hasn't said a dang thing about it. :sad: 7 years!?! How do you forget about that!?!

I don't even want to say anything about it since it didn't pop in his mind... If he only knew how tired I am of all this, he would go fetch me the stars and the moon. :rolleyes:

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(((hugs)))
Does he usually forget?
If it were me I'd ask what we were doing and do I need to make the plans? Don't sit around sulking on your anniversary. Be determined to make it a good day. Take control.
 
I love how I have his appointments saved in my phone, then I remind him
like a wife :look: should....babe don't forget you have an ortho appt today :wink2:
 
just had my brakes fixed by some guy i found on craigslist:look: and now he's texting me.:nono: i'm a cutie, what's my man's name, he just moved from detroit etc.

oh lawd. i don't have time for this.
 
I had a talk with the dude and laid my feelings out. It SEEMS that he gets it but his stubborness deserves a medal. A platinum one encrusted in F-diamonds with unicorn glitters and sparkles.
 
i know that i am the queen of "woe is me" but it is so annoying when a guy does it. ugh dude get it together and stop acting like a beetch.
 
I overheard SO helping my son with his homework tonight. My heart melted. He also offered to host my son's birthday party at his house...baby boy's birthday is in February.
 
Will be dealing with sugar daddies and tricks from here on out. No more putting my all into a relationship only to be disappointed and heartbroken ever again. Don't judge me :look:

I guess its true that women will seek a mate that is similar to their father...for me that means neglectful, emotionally unavailable and not worth shyt *kanye shrug*
 
I know that we normally talk about our romantic relationships. But my sister really makes me upset at times. Whenever she is mad she starts to attack everything that represents me which includes the way I live my life (journaling and meditation), my friends (particularly my sorors), and my relationship. She talks about how I don't talk or spend time with family. Honestly I have been away from family for a long time ( meaning in a different cities with no family) but I am a loner by nature. So whether you are my friend or family, I'm going to be off in the corner, chilling. I'm real laid back and enjoy spending time by myself. It's never personal, I just enjoy being by myself. My sister always takes it as me not wanting to be around family. But honestly I treat everyone about the same. I am finding a new apt by myself bc I am becoming more negative around her. I can take a lot of things but I will not walk on eggshells and take someone always spewing negativity about things that have nothing to the situation. It comes off as if she is jealous. And the crazy thing is that there is nothing to be jealous of. It reminds me of how my stepmother was/is. Everything that is near and dear to my dad was had an issue with including his own children. She would try to keep him all to herself. He and I are a lot alike so idk how he was able to deal with that for so long, but he is patient obviously. I commend him for that.

But what my sister doesn't realize is by her doing that makes me not want to be around her or share anything personal with her. Bc for one she talks to much and also when she gets upset she throws or up right in your face. I don't like when people do that. She has talked about my twin and my friends and I normally would want to get her to meet them but no I wouldn't now. She would eventually have to meet twin but I'm not pressed for her to meet him.

Anyway, my twin is glad that I decided to just go and move. This past weekend while we were laying down he was trying to tell me in a no so forceful way to not compromise my sanity to save a few dollars (ie live with my sister). He mention a quote I don't remember (he loves quotes) but it was so true. But enough about that. I am starting to miss him :(.

Sorry so many typos, on phone!
 
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I.didnt.even.finish!!!!! Arrrrrrrgh
Don't care about your ego one bit!
I'm so mad right now, makes me not want to give it up EVAH.
 
We were at my Mom's house for 6 hours yesterday. We went right over after he worked his graveyard shift. He had to repair her leaking ice maker which required crawling inside the attic and make two trips to Home Depo. While he was in Home Depo I was in Ross swiping his card on Doggie stuff. At least now my Mom has a cut off valve behind the fridge and can stop buying ice. She baked him a Blueberry coffee cake and my brother sent us off with his homemade turkey enchiladas. He told my Mom no charge Happy belated birthday. I was so tired so I know he was bushed.

His schedule is packed with jobs so all I can do is try to keep him fed and well rested in between. We are checking out a play with Sanaa Lathan this Sunday ,as well as, going to a Drum & Jazz Festival over the weekend. I refuse to discuss making anything permanent now until I can accept the way he handles his memory issues. I guess if his Mother hadn't suffered from Alzheimer it wouldn't bother me so much. I'm learning to accept people for who and what they are. Along with changing the way I respond to folks.
 
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hopeful said:
(((hugs)))
Does he usually forget?
If it were me I'd ask what we were doing and do I need to make the plans? Don't sit around sulking on your anniversary. Be determined to make it a good day. Take control.
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He usually doesn't forget, especially not after we talked about it the day before. His argument was that we hung out on Sunday and that was our "celebration". Doesn't excuse the fact that he didn't say anything and came home late on our anniversary. We escalated into an argument... I'm tired of taking control. :nono:
I'm over it but not in a good way. I'm slowly getting to the point of no reaction=I won't care eventually. :nono:

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