2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

I think looking alot younger than my age is half my problem when it comes to dating. Guys my own age think I'm some young bit and young guys want to 'holla'.
 
Bublin said:
I think looking alot younger than my age is half my problem when it comes to dating. Guys my own age think I'm some young bit and young guys want to 'holla'.
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it concerns me when 8th grade boys hit on me (used to work in a middle school). i def dress like an adult, but being short/young looking is apparently more misleading as far as how old i look. high school boys love to holla. i try to steer clear of both places for a reason :lachen:
 
A personalized cake to celebrate a promotion. Yay? Nay?

I want to acknowledge it in a way that's more than "that's good, man. Congrats, my boi" but not quite "See!?!?!?!!! Look how textbook supportive I can be!?!?!"

Am I overthinking it? :look:
 
Plus he's not going to let me leave it at his house. He loves cake. He hates that he will wake up at 3am and eat that whole cake :look: And I will have no cake at my house. No sir. Not today and not tomorrow.
 
i told my bff about feeling a little inadequate sometimes next to my bf (accomplishments wise, i think i'm a slightly better person tbh :lol: he has some elitist tendencies and can be a little dick-ish) and she wrote me a laundry list of why i'm great. lolololol. love this girl. the perfect cheerleader. :yep:

i deserve a man that upgrades me anyway. :lachen:
 
InchHighPrivateEye said:
Plus he's not going to let me leave it at his house. He loves cake. He hates that he will wake up at 3am and eat that whole cake :look: And I will have no cake at my house. No sir. Not today and not tomorrow.
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maybe bake cupcakes (or purchase) give him half & give the rest away :lol: (less tacky than giving away half a cake i think...maybe?)
 
:lachen::lol::lol:
have mercy!

ThatJerseyGirl said:
firecracker -- boy do we think alike cuz as i was readin, i was like....if she know like i know, she betta up da ante on da 'surance policy lololol

da only complaint i have is dat when mines is drivin, he looks like a gotdayum crash dummy wif da x's for eyes and dat dumb smile. chile, da left hand be at 9 o clock and da right is on 3 o clock and he be grippin da steerin wheel right tight to da point where u can see his knuckles. his hands neva change position. ever. in fact, i neva see his head move off da swivel.

u know how u go to change lanes, and u at least look in ur side mirrors? dis bama don't even do dat...we just get on ova chile....his head neva swivels to see if anything comin. and i told him one day, i was like do u know whatchur side profile look like when u drivin? he was like..naww what...and i told him. a gotdayum crash dummy...head right erect n stiff wif da seat straight up. not even leaned back a lil. that's why i don't like ridin with him.

i was like when u pull up to a light in a nice ride, people automatically look to see who drivin. when they see u, they just be off da :perplexed wif his corny azzzz.

so now, if i gotta go somewhere and i don't feel like drivin, we just go at night. late. when there is less people on da road cuz ridin shotgun wif dis bama....u just neva know....
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kismettt said:
maybe bake cupcakes (or purchase) give him half & give the rest away :lol: (less tacky than giving away half a cake i think...maybe?)
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Cupcakes make good sense, and they can still be personalized with one letter per cake. Thanks!!
 
SO said he found one of my hairs in his shower and it made him happy. Awe! I told him next time I'll leave a giant hair ball!! :lol:

Sent from my iPhone. Excuse the typos!
 
I'm doing me for the rest of the year. I've been too busy with school, work, and life to worry about broke, married, immature, or whatever your hang-ups are men!
 
Trying to wrap my head around last night's events.

My drinking buddy's cousin has showed some interest in me in the past. I always found him attractive but a little odd and bougie. I can have some hood tendencies at times. :look: But he had me cracking up last night, I couldn't stop laughing and I really needed it. I was going through some things. I had no idea he knew so much about me and my situation with ole boy, he even knew his name. I must overshare when I've been drinking. :drunk:

He ended up giving me a ride home. We're sitting in the car talking and he just grabs my face and kisses me. :blush: Not a peck, but a really intense, passionate kiss. At one point he stops, looks at me and says "_____ is a fool". I asked him how long he's wanted to kiss me, and he said a long time. But every time he's seen me in the past, I've been too wrapped up in my issues with dude to really pay him any mind. He text me one time and I was really short with him because I was mad at dude, he never bothered to contact me again. Can't say I blame him. I guess as much as I said I was open to meeting other guys since I wasn't getting what I wanted from dude, I didn't realize how much my situation with him was really hindering that.

But clearly we need to have a conversation today without being under the influence. I want to know exactly what it is he wants from me.
 
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MzLady78 said:
Trying to wrap my head around last night's events.

My drinking buddy's cousin has showed some interest in me in the past. I always found him attractive but a little odd and bougie. I can have some hood tendencies at times. :look: But he had me cracking up last night, I couldn't stop laughing and I really needed it. I was going through some things. He ended up giving me a ride home. We're sitting in the car talking and he just grabs my face and kisses me. :blush: Not a peck, but a really intense, passionate kiss. I asked him how long he's wanted to do that, and he said a long time. But every time he's seen me in the past, I've been too wrapped up in my issues with ole boy to really pay him any mind.

Clearly we need to have a conversation today without being under the influence....
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Ooh! I'm glad you had a good time :).
 
Unimportant reason why it is convenient to have a SO #57: They could drop me off on a game day at the building when checking plates from an experiment.

Instead this girl has to walk 15 min or so to her building since the min wage worker wouldn't let her park for 10 min. THE darn football game doesn't even start until 7:30pm! My elbow was sweating.
 
:cry::cry: I just don't get it. Why can't I meet someone who is totally in love with me that I actually want.

I'm at a total loss. I have been patient in each instance but the feelings never came. There is nothing wrong with any of them. Infact they all fall into the extremely good catch category but the feelings are just not there.

My gut feeling is that they spent so much time trying to figure out how to get me that they've talked themselves into me being the One yet I barely spend any time or chat with any of them. No need to block another sista's blessings.

I have always been straight forward and honest about not feeling the same way. It goes in one ear, out the other.

The guys that I'm interested in always friend zone me really early. I'm afraid I may cave and settle for one of them or end up being alone at 40 with no prospects in sight waiting for the One. :cry::cry:
 
he told me "i love you" last night. i told him it was infatuation :look: and he was like, "i love that you're so rational about this". :lol: but i knew it was coming since he's been talking around it for the last day or so. "i could fall for you", etc (and it slipped out a couple of times, which i politely ignored :lachen:). we talked about how we def have a strong emotional connection and lots of feelings for each other at this point, but we don't necessarily have the right words for it yet (er that's what i said, he stuck with "i love you" :lachen:)

he's cute.
 
I text SO while I was at Wal-Mart to see if he needed anything. He responded with: you're all I need. Corny, but it melted my heart.
 
MzLady78 said:
Trying to wrap my head around last night's events.

My drinking buddy's cousin has showed some interest in me in the past. I always found him attractive but a little odd and bougie. I can have some hood tendencies at times. :look: But he had me cracking up last night, I couldn't stop laughing and I really needed it. I was going through some things. I had no idea he knew so much about me and my situation with ole boy, he even knew his name. I must overshare when I've been drinking. :drunk:

He ended up giving me a ride home. We're sitting in the car talking and he just grabs my face and kisses me. :blush: Not a peck, but a really intense, passionate kiss. At one point he stops, looks at me and says "_____ is a fool". I asked him how long he's wanted to kiss me, and he said a long time. But every time he's seen me in the past, I've been too wrapped up in my issues with dude to really pay him any mind. He text me one time and I was really short with him because I was mad at dude, he never bothered to contact me again. Can't say I blame him. I guess as much as I said I was open to meeting other guys since I wasn't getting what I wanted from dude, I didn't realize how much my situation with him was really hindering that.

But clearly we need to have a conversation today without being under the influence. I want to know exactly what it is he wants from me.
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@MzLady don't over think it or take the lead. He drove you home and he kissed you. Be patient and see what happens. It may mean nothing -- just a drunken kiss. Or it could be the beginning of something special. Either way let him continue to take the lead and see where things go, then you make the best decision that works for you.

In other words try not to start asking what did that mean and what do you want from me, etc.
 
Playing words with friends with my baby. I was behind him by 50 now I'm beating him...all he could say was damn!!!! Lol
 
tinkat said:
Playing words with friends with my baby. I was behind him by 50 now I'm beating him...all he could say was damn!!!! Lol
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Spoke too soon...good game!
 

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I don't think I'll be happy in the long run in this situation.

I want to be the priority, and I shouldn't feel guilty in saying that.
 
This is a great thread - thanks firecracker for starting it.

Well, I had a semi-heart-to-heart with this dude the other night. I won't go into details but it's clear that we are both shopping for spouses and keeping each other "on the list" of possibilities. And that's actually not a bad place to be . . . . I'm just really figuring out this whole dating thing and don't necessarily want to be tied to any one person (unless it's the right person).

Have a few other possibilities percolating. One is a guy I met at a work function. He looks so young, when he asked if we could have coffee, I figured he was an intern/recent college grad looking for advice. Turns out ol' boy (who is my age) was tryna holla :blush: We've met each other for coffee and lunch (dutch treat both times) . . . and he's sniffin' around for interaction number three. Hmmm . . . .

Met another dude at another work function . . . haven't had as many opportunities to interact with him, but definitely keeping my eyes on him :lick:
 
wax = vax
when = ven
vote = wote
windshield = vindshield
vine = wine

so cute.:lachen:

he made homemade mashed potatoes (my favorite food ever!) and shrimp fried rice this weekend.:lick: i made him an oreo ice cream cake (no cooking/baking involved :lol:) and he was so appreciative; kept going on and on about how delicious it was.:rolleyes: i should do nice things for him more often. he definitely deserves it, all the **** he does for me and all the **** he puts up with.:look:

next weekend he's making Enchiladas and bringing me Biryani on Tuesday.:lick:

me + him + good eats = :infatuated:
 
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