If one more person asks me if this is my real hair!!!!!!

[ms-gg]

It is not a compliment for someone to ask if your hair is real or not. I never understand why people feel like they can walk up to a perfect stranger and probe them, asking personal questions like that.

This nosey old white man asked me was I wearing a weave at work. I mean seriously, why is it any of your business if I am wearing a weave or not? It is a very offensive and rude question.

 

[ms-gg]

Two months later, she decided to do an extensive weave check in front of an Asian coworker. She was shocked when my hair did not fall on the floor, and she didn't find any tracks or glue. You should have seen the look on her face.

That is so effin rude!!!! What the hell, was she really that hell bent on proving that you had extensions that she was going to embarrass you at work?? That is why I find these questions and weave checks RUDE.

 

[topnotch1010]

I'm starting to get these questions more and more as my hair gets longer and it doesn't bother me. It means my hair looks good and healthy.


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[CarmelCupcake]

Thanks guys for the compliments! You guys are right. I guess i should just take it as a compliment and keep it moving!

 

[CarmelCupcake]

Wow, my hair wants to be like yours when it grows up. It looks luscious! Don't let those peeps get you upset. BTW, what's your regimen?

Thanks op! Because I have 4a hair that gets extremely tangled when wet, when I wash my hair, i first part my hair into 4 sections. I braid each section and secure the ends with baretts. I then hop in the shower like this and wash my hair in these 4 braids. I then rinse my hair. I towel blot my hair and unravel the four braids. I comb each section and condition each section. I let the conditioner sit for about 25 minutes with a plastic cap on top. I then rinse it and gently towel blot it. I then apply chi silk infusion...this is the stuff!!!! I then blow dry my hair and flat iron it and curl it. I wear it down for a couple of days, and then its back into a bun. I wash my hair every two weeks. Oh and I use redken all soft shampoo and conditioner.

 

[diadall]

I think sometimes people know its your hair because the one person that I know that wears weaves and wigs (not for protective styling) gets offended if you say anything about her hair...even if you say it looks nice she thinks you are trying to clown her about her wig/weave.

 

[Solitude]

This hasn't happened to me in a while so my hair must be looking really "real" aka rough.

Take it as a compliment...

 

[Mandy4610]

I actually don't get offended by comments like that, because they give me the opportunity to proudly say YES, yes it's my hair.
It is such a good feeling for me to say that.
I don't know, maybe I am weird like that.

 

[Carisa]

Most people assume its my real hair (im only apl) when I wear it out but I happen to get alot of comments from people who thought I didnt have any hair because I always wear weaves/wigs and I simply explain thats those are protective styles and my hair grows quicker that way.

 

[Legally Natural]

I first want to say that your hair is gorgeous. It looks really nice straight and anyone can tell that you are taking very good care of your hair. Second, this is something that you will have to learn to deal with as your hair gets longer. I have been dealing with "is this your real hair" comments for years. Most of the time, the Black women who are asking are those who have no hair and want to find a way to bring another Black woman down. For the others, they are on the Chris Rock hype and feel that he opened the door for them to openly question Black women about whether their hair is real or not. For those people, they know not what they do. You have to teach them.

 

[CarmelCupcake]

I first want to say that your hair is gorgeous. It looks really nice straight and anyone can tell that you are taking very good care of your hair. Second, this is something that you will have to learn to deal with as your hair gets longer. I have been dealing with "is this your real hair" comments for years. Most of the time, the Black women who are asking are those who have no hair and want to find a way to bring another Black woman down. For the others, they are on the Chris Rock hype and feel that he opened the door for them to openly question Black women about whether their hair is real or not. For those people, they know not what they do. You have to teach them.

Thanks girl! I love your name by the way!

 

[French Rouge]

This reminds of a road trip incident. Me and my younger brother stopped at a gas station while traveling. A guy tried to hit on me and I ignored him. Just as my brother was walking out the store, the guy says "you're not all that and take that weave out". Before I could even respond my brother who caught the tail end of the weave comment, yelled back and said "thats her hair, STFU". I was shocked and proceeded to laugh.

 

[Tiye]

I look forward to being asked again but this time I want it to the next level. I want hair so good that people of at least three different ethnicities ask about it in one day - preferably before lunch. And I want one of them to cross the street or make a u-turn to ask.

 

[Phaer]

I LUV your hair. I can't wait for someone to ask me this question.

RP: is that your hair?
P: why yes, yes it is (grin as big as the chesire cat)

 

[nappystorm]

Yall know yall like it You ain't got ta lie, Craig, you ain't got ta lie

 

[beans4reezy]

My grandmother just asked me that question the other day. I love it, it means
My hair looka good!

 

[Legally Natural]

Thanks girl! I love your name by the way!

Thank you! I use that name because I am natural and I am in law school.

 

[EllePixie]

Yall know yall like it You ain't got ta lie, Craig, you ain't got ta lie

LOL! I'm not sure if I like it...but I think it's because of the tone of voice people use when they ask me...it's almost like, "That can't be yours huh..." When I blew out my hair once another woman asked me if it was my hair and I asked her, "Well why wouldn't it be?" And she was like, "It's just so beautiful..." Yes, I understand that's an awesome compliment but my hair isn't surrounded by angels...so it's like huh I can't have pretty hair?

Another time, an older woman told me that my hair was gorgeous, and I thanked her...then her granddaughter (I think), was like "Is it yours?" almost like she felt funky that her grandmother was complimenting a stranger while her hair was looking to' up...I dunno I feel like she was trying to refute the compliment...when I told her yes she was like, "Oh..."

 

[AlliCat]

I think of it as a compliment, even if the person had other intentions

 

[Nova]

I don't have long hair but if I did, I would be offended if I was asked this question; as if Black women can't grow long hair!

 

[Bnster]

Some people can't believe without verification. I have been asked if it was mine by my aunt that was visiting and once by a stranger. With the stranger incidence, my hair wasn't even out, it was up, not even in a fancy bun. The lady didn't believe it was mine because of the fullness of it - her hair was shot. I took it as a compliment because I didn't think too much about my hair and took no offense when I got the weave check.

I guess if I get questioned a lot about it being mine and people being rude stating it wasn't I would be truly upset. It is all on how it is being asked. Cause sadly the norm AA Women usually don't have long hair. We are slowing changing the notion with one head at a time through friends and family.

 

[Poopiedo]

I had a random man come up to me in the grocery store (he worked at the store) and ask if my hair was real. I asked him, would you walk up to a white woman and ask the same question or would you automatically assume it was her hair? He had a dumb look on his face. Then I asked, what if I was a cancer survivor and I was self conscious about wearing a wig due to hair loss from chemo? If this was so, you would make me feel bad. I told him to think twice about asking the next woman about her hair because you don't know what she's going through.

After I got done with him he just said yes maam and I walked away.

At the time I was wearing a sew in but still.....I think it's rude and you don't just walk up to me and ask a personal question like that. If I volunteer the information then fine but don't get so comfortable with me that you think it's the equivalent to, "hello how are you?"

 

[SmileyNY]

I would prefer they ask than to literally weave check me. I was weave checked during a first kiss. I was like really? You had put your fingers all up in my hair & rub on my roots during a 3 second kiss?? *Michelle from Full House Voice* How rude! So basically on our previous dates instead of listening to me he spent a lot of time thinking "I wonder if that is her real hair??" SMH...

 

[B3e]

I can't wait to have this problem.

 

[SlantedEyezMiss2003]

I never really had this experience because I would wear my hair in ways that to them, it looked like was mine and no one would ask me questions, but honestly I wouldn't even worry about it, cuz the more you are worried about it the more u will have to prove to the next person who ask you if your hair is real and you shouldn't have to prove nothing to no one, you know what you have beeing doing to get your hair healthy, So no matter what, just take the comments and if they ask if this is your real hair, I would say yes, and give them the cold shoulder, cuz you can prove them wrong all day, and they will probably still think it's not real.

 

[MysteryMermaid]

I would take it as a compliment =)

 

[MysteryMermaid]

LOL! I'm not sure if I like it...but I think it's because of the tone of voice people use when they ask me...it's almost like, "That can't be yours huh..." When I blew out my hair once another woman asked me if it was my hair and I asked her, "Well why wouldn't it be?" And she was like, "It's just so beautiful..." Yes, I understand that's an awesome compliment but my hair isn't surrounded by angels...so it's like huh I can't have pretty hair?

Another time, an older woman told me that my hair was gorgeous, and I thanked her...then her granddaughter (I think), was like "Is it yours?" almost like she felt funky that her grandmother was complimenting a stranger while her hair was looking to' up...I dunno I feel like she was trying to refute the compliment...when I told her yes she was like, "Oh..."

But, you probably would have to get used to others projecting their insecurites on you, because your hair is beautiful and so is your face.

 

[mikimix]

I dont even have long hair (I'm only at SL/CBL) but black people always ask me if it's a weave. I don't get it. One girl said my hair "looks to good to be real". :/

ETA: And yes it's only black girls who ask me.

 

[Okay]

I dont even have long hair (I'm only at SL/CBL) but black people always ask me if it's a weave. I don't get it. One girl said my hair "looks to good to be real". :/

ETA: And yes it's only black girls who ask me.

LAWD! smh...........

 

[carameldelight87]

My own mother asked me if my hair was real. Lol! I posted a pic on facebook of my hair after it had been straightened. It's not quite APL but past SL and very full. She called me "is that all YOUR hair?!" I laughed a bit and said yes. Her reply "it's so thick and beautiful!" It made me feel pretty good. Especially since my mom hasn't been the most encouraging person on this HHJ.

I'm not too concerned with people thinking my hair is fake because they don't think Black people can grow long, beautiful, healthy hair. The goal is to fight that assumption by proving them wrong. And every time we say "yes, this is my hair," we do that.