UPDATE: Recently, we have had a lot of threads where people say that what you believe about marriage, its nature, and outcomes can affect if/when you get married. Please read on...
Well, I can go into a little more detail now. I learned that the "hidden" son was conceived during the husband's separation from Wife #1. The current wife, my older friend, came along over a decade later when the divorced had been finalized. The question that I finally asked my friend is why DID she stay. (We know each other like that, so yes...it was personal, but she talks to me straight about life and marriage). She said that she wanted her children to grow up in two-parent home. All of her peers were getting divorced left and right, and their children were being scarred visibly and immediately. She described some of the things that their children experienced after their divorces, and they were heart-wrenching. Because of that, she wanted her children to have a better experience.
The question is "Why am I reopening this thread?" I will admit that stories like this can leave a bad impression on singletons. I am already reserved by nature, and hearing about all of these situations is not helping me with my trust issues.
Have any of you had trust issues based on the experiences of friends, relatives, or yourself that you were able to overcome and now you are married or engaged with a date? How did you overcome your trust issues?
ETA: I looked at some of the later responses. My friend is in her mid-to-late fifties, so this occurred before the Internet hit the mainstream. Therefore, she COULD HAVE hired a private detective before marrying old dude, but she had no reason to do so.
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