kia said:Yeah, but how can you marry someone that you dont' love w/ all your heart????
I mean I want the man I marry to love me JUST AS MUCH as I love him. If I dont' love him as much as he loves me, that tells me that he may not be the one for me.
kia said:Yeah, but how can you marry someone that you dont' love w/ all your heart????
I mean I want the man I marry to love me JUST AS MUCH as I love him. If I dont' love him as much as he loves me, that tells me that he may not be the one for me.
kia said:Sorry but I guess I"m the only one that disagrees...well, I dont' totally disagree, I just don't get it .
My cousin goes by this and has NEVER been in love. SHe like guys that are totally head over heels for her but she just doesn't love them in return .
I don't 'want that for myself. I want to love and be in love w/ someone. If he loves me a little more, that's great. Of course I want it as balanced as possible, BUT I know that's nearly impossible. Yet, I just can't see myself being w/ someone that I love a lot less. I just don't see it erplexed
sunnydaze said:...and I have also seen alot of lasting marriages where the man is obviously gaga over his wife and she is indifferent acting towards him.
Glib Gurl said:@ the bolded. I agree that he should love you more, but dang, she should love him at least a little bit!
Zeal said:I was told this by a man. Who I jsut liked as a friend He wanted marriage. I could not do it. I did not love him even a little bit.
EbonyHairedPrincess said:IMO there is no "one" for you. There are millions of people on this earth, you choose one and then call him the "one". The love you with all my heart is not something we should seek out it's actually a trap set by mother nature that fades after a while. The sole purpose of that feeling is to cause us to get sexually aroused and pregnant. True love is willing to sacrifice for the benefit of another. When it comes to men use the head not the heart. Men expect women to act a certain way with them and when we don't follow the "rules" they don't respect us. Hence, man problems.
Glib Gurl said:I can't find the thread, but I'm certain we talked about this before. In any case, I was against this idea at first, but the more I think about it, the more that's the way I think it should be . . . seeing how trifling men can be, you really want someone who loves you more than anything (except God!) . . .
EbonyHairedPrincess said:IMO there is no "one" for you. There are millions of people on this earth, you choose one and then call him the "one". The love you with all my heart is not something we should seek out it's actually a trap set by mother nature that fades after a while. The sole purpose of that feeling is to cause us to get sexually aroused and pregnant. True love is willing to sacrifice for the benefit of another. When it comes to men use the head not the heart. Men expect women to act a certain way with them and when we don't follow the "rules" they don't respect us. Hence, man problems.
abenyo said:yeah it has, I believe it was one of Dlewis' thread. I agree that a man should love you more than you love him. Somehow he brings the best out of you when he showers you with love not necessary material.
trimbride said:I agree as well, I know my husband loves me more. The gap is extremely small.
It sounds cruel but it works
ETA: I do love my husband very much, I think the difference is that he would probably die for me and I am not sure if I would do the same for him