Your friend befriending your S/O on social networks.

[TwoSnapsUp]

I confronted her on something else she had done that made me uncomfortable (no it had nothing to do with my s/o) and we ended up having a falling out and are no longer friends. Come to find out, she was holding ill feelings about something that happened last fall. As I stated before she isn't a random person so my "intuition" or "paranoia" was for a reason. I didn't bring up the social network thing but I'm sure there was a motive behind it especially now knowing that she was "upset" with me. Females, I swear.

Maybe it's time for you and her to permanently part ways?

 

[Lovestyr]

I myself would never add any of my friend's boyfriends/girlfriends, etc. I don't see the point especially if we aren't friends or don't talk regularly. I don't need to know what's going on in their lives. This is just me and I thought it was funny because my former friend and I had this conversation before about another friend who had added her one of her male friends and she was tight so I didn't get it when she turned around and did the exact same thing.

I agree. So, you got things resolved kinda of, right ? As someone stated keep asking questions. Don't let ppl comments discourage you

 

[cubanspice]

You guys just fell out?

Yes, yesterday. I asked her a question and she got defensive and started getting disrespectful.

 

[cubanspice]

Maybe it's time for you and her to permanently part ways?

I spoke to her yesterday and decided we shouldn't be friends anymore especially if she felt the way that she did for so long.

 

[hopeful]

Good! Glad we got that resolved!

 

[RocStar]

I confronted her on something else she had done that made me uncomfortable (no it had nothing to do with my s/o) and we ended up having a falling out and are no longer friends. Come to find out, she was holding ill feelings about something that happened last fall. As I stated before she isn't a random person so my "intuition" or "paranoia" was for a reason. I didn't bring up the social network thing but I'm sure there was a motive behind it especially now knowing that she was "upset" with me. Females, I swear.

Don't blame your stuff on women, this was about you and your "friend".

 

[cubanspice]

Don't blame your stuff on women, this was about you and your "friend".

What I said really wasn't that serious. Carry on.

 

[nlamr2013]

Yes, yesterday. I asked her a question and she got defensive and started getting disrespectful.

Oh geez this is like a soap opera. Do you think you approached her weird because of the social media thing? Awe I hate hearing of friendships ending.

 

[hopeful]

If I were you I'd forget all about this thread. It can just keep dragging out if you let it. Some women don't have a problem having their friends super intwined with their SO's, others do mind and like to keep things more separate. To each her own. And I have found that when I have a funny feeling about something there is usually a reason. Sure, sometimes we are just off base about stuff, but oftentimes our antenna goes up for a reason. And everything isn't about thinking someone wants your man, sometimes it's simply about boundaries or trust. Some people, men and women, are up to no good. All women are not sweet and loving. Some really are a piece of work. Some are absolutely wonderful. I think ending this friendship was a longtime coming. Sometimes we hold onto unhealthy friendships far too long. This incident just brought it to a head IMO. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

 

[cubanspice]

Oh geez this is like a soap opera. Do you think you approached her weird because of the social media thing? Awe I hate hearing of friendships ending.

No. This social media thing wasn't a recent thing honestly. My guy and I were conversing, she threw shade and I confronted her this is when she told me she was still upset with me. I wish she would've came to me sooner.

 

[cubanspice]

If I were you I'd forget all about this thread. It can just keep dragging out if you let it. Some women don't have a problem having their friends super intwined with their SO's, others do mind and like to keep things more separate. To each her own. And I have found that when I have a funny feeling about something there is usually a reason. Sure, sometimes we are just off base about stuff, but oftentimes our antenna goes up for a reason. And everything isn't about thinking someone wants your man, sometimes it's simply about boundaries or trust. Some people, men and women, are up to no good. All women are not sweet and loving. Some really are a piece of work. Some are absolutely wonderful. I think ending this friendship was a longtime coming. Sometimes we hold onto unhealthy friendships far too long. This incident just brought it to a head IMO. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

Thank you. A few of you guys were comforting and understanding and I appreciate the responses. Some of your responses made me reevaluate myself and my friendship(s). Sometimes you need to hear that from other people.

 

[bklynbornNbred]

cubanspice Trust your instincts. They are there for a reason. Everyone doesn't deserve a seat at your inner circle so there is no need to defend your personal comfort level with those that have a come one come all mentality. We may use friend term for shorthand but there's a difference between someone you jog with and someone you call on when mom is sick. Those flakey people we hung out with growing up that got passes "just because" lose their hold as you get older.

Lucie Your post reminded me of how it was in my family growing up. It wasn't until reading it that I realized why the next generation doesn't have the same level of "protection" with the women. As the elder men have passed on the next generation are single/divorced doing it all for themselves with nary a man to call on. My mother never did the things around the house that I now have to.

 

[Tolle]

Interesting perspectives. My FB is reserved for family and close friends but instagram is another story. I barely post anything but follow anyone who posts cool stuff. No malicious intent, im just a nosey sponge