He Followed Her Friend On Social Media, Petty Betty Or Nah?

[FelaShrine]

It wouldn't bother me if my friend questioned me about her boyfriend following me. I know I did nothing wrong and if it bothered her I would personally block him. No biggie IMO

why is she coming to you?

 

[simplertimes]

why is she coming to you?

She probably feels she can trust what I tell her. i don't really care about why she came to me since it's my job as a friend IMO to reassure her that it's purely innocent.

But, yeah she should also talk to her guy as well.

 

[FelaShrine]

^thats the job of the man she's screwing

 

[GeorginaSparks]

That is very odd that he did that. And social media doesnt "auto follow".

I remember one time a lady on my FB sent a friend request to my now DH and he was like "who the hell is this?!"

he read out "mutual friends: georginasparks. umm why are your friends being nosey and sending me friend requests. delete and block". i had never been so proud of him that day.

 

[Saga]

Someone I used to talk to added one of my close friends and was constantly complimenting her profile pictures saying "Beautiful" and "gorgeous". Up until that point I didn't care that they were friends on fb, but when I ran across those comments at first I was like but then I was like because from my personal experience with him he was a petty person in general as well as a narcissist. I chose not to worry about it.

Then after that whenever he would post on her page, my friend would bring it up to me like "omgosh look what so-and-so said!" and then I started getting annoyed because I really was not looking and didn't want to know. I wasn't sure if she kept mentioning it because she liked the attention or the drama but once it became a re-occuring topic of convo I texted her saying "I'm sorry but, can you delete him?" and she was like "oh...ok " I didn't feel comfortable telling her what to do with her own social media but she has met this guy before, knows all about our history and how bad he is and still felt the need to bring him up. After that I had no problems, I also don't have him on any of my social media accounts.

If it was someone I was personally dating it really would come down to whether or not I know them to be very active on social media. I usually have much better experiences with men who barely use it as opposed to men who like to constantly scroll their timeline and comment on stuff. Any man that has ever made me feel the need to "check up on him" ended up being a jerk anyway and just not good for me (there have only been two men who've ever made me feel this way)

 

[MuziqizLyfe]

Im not on social media...but i always found men on social media to be odddd....it just seems off..like society is tipping into another area..

i guess im old school im use to men not being so visible and expressive with their thoughts and i like it that way
like a man should be working and if ya not at work you should be maintaining the smile on my face and keeping your family happy...tis all

Society tipping is a good way to put it it...

Women are used to being admired, getting attention, compliments, and being persued. This is a regular part of our lives and starts off at a young age. Men on the other hand have been the admirers and persuers ...they haven't been the object of attention in this way unless they were athletes or some kind of performer and even then it wasn't been on the same level as the regular attention women receive.

Social media reverses that or equalizes it so you have men putting themselves on display, seeking attention, women sliding into their DMs, commenting, liking pics etc...and I don't think men once they jump into that world can give up that kind of attention. It's not like they will get that in their everyday lives....and not only do they get that attention and flattery, they also get to feast their eyes on as many beautiful women as they want to (specifically their preferred type of woman if they want, women they could gain access to if they want, etc) and interact with them openly or discreetly which is not something they could so easily in public everyday settings.

 

[tru4reele]

It would raise a red flag in my opinion. Only because I have witnessed so many bad situations that start with just a follow on social media.

 

[InchHighPrivateEye]

First, they're too old for this level of foolishness Secondly, I don't trust a man over 22 on social media for personal reasons. Brand building or social activism are fine w/ me. Some people may think it's just me showing my age but human nature hasn't changed with the invention of the computer. Back in the day it was "liming" or hanging out on the stoop. After a while a man's got to give up on that mess. The wealthy people who run this country (except for Trump) aren't on social media. They're in boardrooms making deals and coming up with ideas. [/end rant]

This. I wouldn't be attracted to the kind of grown man that would be on social media, so I can't tell if it's shady or not. What I mean is that, to me it seems like Instagram is somethin you just follow ppl for bc you like their pics. Unless my friend is a celeb or my dude is a loser that never leaves his bedroom, yeah, I would think he was either a loser or shady. But maybe it is normal for ppl to just follow each other just to be in the mix like that and it's not shady at all, so idk. But I would expect the "in the mix" thing to happen with a younger crowd. I can't get into a 30 year old man that is tapping buttons on his phone because he is actually on Instagram, and not....doing some adult stuff. Lol


It's different for women. Lol