ladysaraii
Well-Known Member
This was posted on one of my FB groups.
Let's say you cheat on your significant other, someone you've been with for years. This person has been with you through thick and thin. They find out somehow or another about your affair and you know they know. It was pretty bad - you cheated at a really low period for your partner (like John Edward's style cheating). They want to meet up and talk (and no, don't assume they're going to kill you or have you jumped, stick to the hypo), but have said out the gate that there is no way in hell they will take you back. You believe them. You know there's no future between you. They just want to say their piece and get closure.
BE REAL: do you meet up and let them verbally give you the business, going through all the phases of grief and asking you questions you know are going to be tough to answer? Do you give them at least that moment? Or do you - acknowledging that there's nothing in it for you except uncomfortable questions, painful answers, a lot of shouting, screaming, crying, etc. - ignore the request/say no and move on?
So what would you do? And why?
Let's say you cheat on your significant other, someone you've been with for years. This person has been with you through thick and thin. They find out somehow or another about your affair and you know they know. It was pretty bad - you cheated at a really low period for your partner (like John Edward's style cheating). They want to meet up and talk (and no, don't assume they're going to kill you or have you jumped, stick to the hypo), but have said out the gate that there is no way in hell they will take you back. You believe them. You know there's no future between you. They just want to say their piece and get closure.
BE REAL: do you meet up and let them verbally give you the business, going through all the phases of grief and asking you questions you know are going to be tough to answer? Do you give them at least that moment? Or do you - acknowledging that there's nothing in it for you except uncomfortable questions, painful answers, a lot of shouting, screaming, crying, etc. - ignore the request/say no and move on?
So what would you do? And why?