ScorpioBeauty09
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Nope. My spirituality is too complicated to be involved with a pastor. Plus I want a more financially comfortable lifestyle than a pastor could provide.
Would You Date A Pastor Of A Mega Church...any Church?
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ChasingBliss
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I am a very private, laid back person. I dont like to be on display and feeling like there are expectations of me from everybody. I am not a heathen (I dont think) but I dont see myself being a pastor's wife. I know pastor's wives personally and I always wonder how they do it. How they keep up. Nah ...no thanks.
ElizaBlue
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Thank you ladies for all the honest and open replies. So here's the update: he blew it. Blew it even before we got to the first date. According to my cousin they regularly meet and pray about finding him his next wife...because he's just so desirable that one must convene a committee of men of God to ensure he gets the right wife...GTFOH.
If I was even remotely interested...and I was at first...that basically throttled any interest I had. Hold on to your seats ladies.
So out of curiosity I asked my cousin how this took place. This fool slipped up and told me they all brought, sent, showed pics of beautiful women and he picked the ones he wanted. "Cuz let me tell you he said you was the most bootiful of em all and he was already in love with you, but wanted to meet you and a couple of others ones just to be sure"
What kind of new age heaux sh!t is this...what in the electronic pimping in the church is going on? So they presented this "john" with a deck of cards, he cut the deck and deals a hand of who he thinks makes the cut? I wanted to start cursing but had to remember who I was talking to.
I told my cousin, you can stop right there. Don't ever as long as you need oxygen...ever in your life present me to another m0f0 (yes I did say "m0f0" to him), let alone tell me about someone you want me to meet. He started stammering and telling me I got it all wrong and that's how "men of gawd" are supposed to pick their wife. I was done.
Sorry I wasted ya'll time.
If I was even remotely interested...and I was at first...that basically throttled any interest I had. Hold on to your seats ladies.
So out of curiosity I asked my cousin how this took place. This fool slipped up and told me they all brought, sent, showed pics of beautiful women and he picked the ones he wanted. "Cuz let me tell you he said you was the most bootiful of em all and he was already in love with you, but wanted to meet you and a couple of others ones just to be sure"
What kind of new age heaux sh!t is this...what in the electronic pimping in the church is going on? So they presented this "john" with a deck of cards, he cut the deck and deals a hand of who he thinks makes the cut? I wanted to start cursing but had to remember who I was talking to.
I told my cousin, you can stop right there. Don't ever as long as you need oxygen...ever in your life present me to another m0f0 (yes I did say "m0f0" to him), let alone tell me about someone you want me to meet. He started stammering and telling me I got it all wrong and that's how "men of gawd" are supposed to pick their wife. I was done.
Sorry I wasted ya'll time.
LadyPBC
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Awwww - so sorry you feel that way. I will admit that his methodology is somewhat unconventional. It is probably not prudent for him to randomly date a lot of different women. He probably thinks it best to get recommendations from those he loves/trusts (like minded). I think that you should meet him, talk to him and ask him about his process. Allow him to explain. No strings attached. You don't owe anyone anything. I think that being a pastor's (the right one) wife is an honorable calling. God could be placing your king in your presence. At the end of the day we are all merely humans trying to be the best that we can be. Sometimes we fall short. If you have any other similarly situated candidates send them my way!!!!
okange76
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Deck of cards is BS. The way I've seen it happen is men get together when one decides he wants a wife. The men in turn go back to their network of friends, wives, mothers, sisters or female friends and ask if they know a nice Christian lady who is looking. They make recommendations and ask the girl if she is willing to meet the guy. They meet and if they are not compatible, they move on to the next girl till he finds someone he likes and she likes him back and they agree to be together. This preacher is very superficial and probably that's why he is divorced in the first place. Same thing happens in my culture outside the church.
ElizaBlue
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Awwww - so sorry you feel that way. I will admit that his methodology is somewhat unconventional. It is probably not prudent for him to randomly date a lot of different women. He probably thinks it best to get recommendations from those he loves/trusts (like minded). I think that you should meet him, talk to him and ask him about his process. Allow him to explain. No strings attached. You don't owe anyone anything. I think that being a pastor's (the right one) wife is an honorable calling. God could be placing your king in your presence. At the end of the day we are all merely humans trying to be the best that we can be. Sometimes we fall short. If you have any other similarly situated candidates send them my way!!!!
Thanks sweetie and I wish I could send him your way. Probably more than anything it was the blatant disregard for my privacy. If I wanted to join an offline church dating site I would have. Now I'm like pissed because they passed these pics around so everyone could vote or at least leer at. I will probably never go to my cousins church again.
But more than anything I'm way to reserved and private for that type of church inclusion. I just don't do well in mass expectations from others...and to me that's what the role of first lady seems to be.
beingofserenity
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Wow, that was dissapointing
ElizaBlue
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Yeah...that would make more sense...but the way they did it was no Bueno. And yes he is very very superficial my cousin actually let fall out of his mouth that he knew he would like me because I had the same skin tone and looks as his ex wife. Which gave me all sorts of questions about all these church shenanigans.
ditto..for me it just wouldn't pan out...the way my life is set up..my debauchery and heathen ways would be all the talk of the chucccchhhhhhh folk loll
well-known queens, ny pastor was hollering at me hard for a min...i dont know what other language i could've spoken in to explain I'm not interested but bless you on your path...
he's married now and so am i but i still get "personal" invites to the chuccchhh functions and etc..bro its not happening
lol
well-known queens, ny pastor was hollering at me hard for a min...i dont know what other language i could've spoken in to explain I'm not interested but bless you on your path...
he's married now and so am i but i still get "personal" invites to the chuccchhh functions and etc..bro its not happening
lol
ElizaBlue
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ditto..for me it just wouldn't pan out...the way my life is set up..my debauchery and heathen ways would be all the talk of the chucccchhhhhhh folk loll
well-known queens, ny pastor was hollering at me hard for a min...i dont know what other language i could've spoken in to explain I'm not interested but bless you on your path...
he's married now and so am i but i still get "personal" invites to the chuccchhh functions and etc..bro its not happening
I think that's the underlying sentiment I got from all this...who cares if I win first place...if I had all these runner-ups. What...they just gone disappear...I doubt it.
caribeandiva
Human being
What the hell? So he's basically looking for a look alike replacement for the ex-wife.
ElizaBlue
Well-Known Member
Right...which makes me wonder why she got ghost...especially if he's sooooo great!
ElizaBlue
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Or not...shoot pastors these days make that light work. Who is that pastor going to clubs talmbout that's where he reaches sinners...smh.
Seraphina
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The wife still wouldn't get away with that, though.
ElizaBlue
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Unless her name was Lucille....
(see previous post) And come to think of it, the pastor's wife of the church my ex had us visiting from time to time would also. These folks were so worldly it was incredible...some not all but for some being a pastor is just the new dope game.
LadyPBC
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Lady-RuffDiamond
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So, in short, you'd be a trophy wife.
I wouldn't go to your cousin's church again either. EVER.
PretteePlease
#fakeworkouts
depends on his salary lol nah I'm not cut out to be a 1st lady
FemmeCreole
Island Gyal
Does a preacher's wife have to go to church every Sunday? If yes then I can't do it
ElizaBlue
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ALL DAY ON SUNDAY...board meeting on Monday, then bible study on Tuesday, choir rehearsal on Wednesday, Women's Group on Thursday, Friday is the off day to study at home with Pastor, then Saturday is hat shopping day to get ready for Sunday. Nosah.
FemmeCreole
Island Gyal
Oh no indeed. I pray and praise God everyday but I'm not about that First Lady life. Plus I'm catholic so that kind of life doesn't even compute.
ElizaBlue
Well-Known Member
Yeah I couldn't do it. People in the church think they own the First Lady and Pastor like you better not have the audacity to have your own life and interest without them.
ItsMeLilLucky
NotLucky no mo' just blessed.
What kind of new age heaux sh!t is this...what in the electronic pimping in the church is going on? So they presented this "john" with a deck of cards, he cut the deck and deals a hand of who he thinks makes the cut?
...so y'all just gonna bypass this?
...so y'all just gonna bypass this?
LadyPBC
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I am so tickled by these responses. You're generalizing. Much of what you say is true but not absolute. Depends on whether or not the wife already has a career, the size of the church, the wife's ministry interests, whether or not children are involved, etc. Pastors and their families get a chance to have fun too but no... it probably would not be prudent for you to be in the club dropping it like its hot, twerkin' or turnin' up LOL!
ArrrBeee
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Thank you ladies for all the honest and open replies. So here's the update: he blew it. Blew it even before we got to the first date. According to my cousin they regularly meet and pray about finding him his next wife...because he's just so desirable that one must convene a committee of men of God to ensure he gets the right wife...GTFOH.
If I was even remotely interested...and I was at first...that basically throttled any interest I had. Hold on to your seats ladies.
So out of curiosity I asked my cousin how this took place. This fool slipped up and told me they all brought, sent, showed pics of beautiful women and he picked the ones he wanted. "Cuz let me tell you he said you was the most bootiful of em all and he was already in love with you, but wanted to meet you and a couple of others ones just to be sure"
What kind of new age heaux sh!t is this...what in the electronic pimping in the church is going on? So they presented this "john" with a deck of cards, he cut the deck and deals a hand of who he thinks makes the cut? I wanted to start cursing but had to remember who I was talking to.
I told my cousin, you can stop right there. Don't ever as long as you need oxygen...ever in your life present me to another m0f0 (yes I did say "m0f0" to him), let alone tell me about someone you want me to meet. He started stammering and telling me I got it all wrong and that's how "men of gawd" are supposed to pick their wife. I was done.
Sorry I wasted ya'll time.
@ the bolded
Did I miss the part of the story where you met and spent time and fell in love? Because otherwise he gets another side eye to go along with the 5 he already had.
BrickbyBrick
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Go and see! Shoot, take him out for a test run. Nobody says you gotta buy anything in the store. You can browse......sample a few freebies. No harm done.
ETA: AWWWWWWW, just read the update. D*mn, d8mn, D@MN!!!!
ETA: AWWWWWWW, just read the update. D*mn, d8mn, D@MN!!!!
ElizaBlue
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No mam this was site unseen and from my cousin pilfering my fb pics no less.
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