that and sort of the idea that i'm not perfect, and i need to take in feedback from others to be a better person. not necessarily being right all the time, or not getting my way all the time. just the fluidity of interacting with someone else and learning from them and willing to see or do things differently, or think of things in a way i don't already, or believe or feel things that don't come natural to me. i like to be in charge too but i dont look at relationships as something where i'll never have to do any of those things. i would expect for and need my partner to check me from time to time because i don't know everything. i don't have it right and together and all sewn up all the time, and i would rely on the person living their life with me to point out the times where i need tuning up. when you don't have a partner you go through life reinforced only by your own perspectives.