When I see "giving up" type posts I feel sad. Usually the poster is "giving up" after what I consider, such a short time.
Real change takes time, give things a chance.
Hey ladies!
this thread makes a good point about not giving up. but i have to play devils advocate....sorry. Just want u guys to see another point of view. My hair has been between SL and APL most of my life (some think thats long but i dont). I feel like i've been plagued by 'the trim' forever. My mom and sister's hair is much longer. I get frustrated all the time b/c they dont do ANYTHING special to their hair. My mom actually dyes her hair BLONDE from root to tip once a month! and she rakes through it with a brush from ROOT to tip everyday and uses 99 cent gel and it just grows and grows and grows. Both my sister and my mom's hair is naturally soft - maybe 3as, my sister might even be in the 2 family (different fathers). So for me, giving up or the urge to give up doesnt really mean live with frazzled hair as much as it just means not WORKING so hard on my hair. Not letting it control my life. Sleeping without tying my hair up, going to the salon to look 'pretty' more often rather than wearing protective styles. i think about that type of 'giving up' often. I've struggled with my hair for so many years. I think this year and the next 3 (till i'm 30) will be my last shot to give my hair a chance. I'm transitioning to natural to see if that will help. I cant keep being let down anymore, spending $$, researching, living in the bun. So by 'give up' to me it just means giving up on length, not neccessarily health. Hopefully - i can have both...we'll see!
Miss Tress: you are welcome I hoped it would do some good and Im glad it has. Thank you.Thank you for this thread, thank tou thank you thank you..... You don't know how much it means to me. (sorry this might be a bit long)
Shoulder length has been my longest length all my life. 2 years ago I decided I wanted bra-strap long hair for my pro (this april). Well guess what, I'm still at shoulder length. Yes I am frustrated at times and a couple of days ago I just wanted to chop it all of and call it quits. But deep down I know it is not the good way to go.
The same way we have to change the way we think about food, exercise and body image, we have to rethink our relationship with our hair. We have to think of it a as new healthy lifestyle. not a diet. not an obsessive, race against the clock kinda thing.
I know that there are certain things I am very impatient about (my hair-getting a house...) and I tend to forget the whole thing about the "voyage" to that destination. I've 2 set backs and those have helped me to take better care of my hair. EXPERIENCE IS THE NAME GIVEN TO OUR ERRORS. I prefer taking my time and have healthy long hair istead of having bra-strap long hair in 2 months and loose it all because I would not know how to care about it.
Learning to let go of the stress is very helpful. Being worried, obsessed and all that negative stuff is not helping and we all know it. do your regimen, keep yourself busy with other things, if needed, take a break from the forums, but be consistent. If you need it, get a hair growing buddy (check the sticky), take pictures on a regular basis or wait until the end of a self-given challenge.
I know I should not give up. and we all know it can be hard sometimes.