I will be 32 this year and I am giving up this year. For the past two years I very actively pursued romantic relationships and it just didn't work for me. I have decided to focus my energy on myself and the plans I have for my life. I still plan on having kids, but I am not holding out for marriage anymore.
I think this is my mindset as well!
Not that I have "given up".....I will
NEVER give up!
But more so that this year I've been determined to live my life to the full regardless of what happens in the future. Man or no man.
I find myself to be much calmer, optimistic, open, and HAPPY with my life!
You're about the same age as me
, and if you ask me, we are still quite YOUNG! Please don't say you've "given up".
If there's one thing I wish I had known in my 20's, it's just how YOUNG I really am. It seems women tend to think they are older than they actually are, and then when you reach an older age later on down the line, you look back and say to yourself: "what on earth was I thinking??? I was YOUNG!"
So, ladies...stop feeling "old", and stop feeling as though if you're not married by x,y,z time period that you "never" will be.
Get that mindset OUT.
Men don't worry about when they will get married. Sometimes I wish I could take a page out of their book lol
If women in their 40's and 50's are getting married, then guess what , so can I. That's how I view it.
I have two friends who just got married in their early 50's. They had beautiful weddings and seem to have found and been found by good guys. Up until then they were living their lives fully and seemed quite happy. I think the term giving up sounds sad. I think it's good to let go or move on, but with a hopeful heart. Not even so much hopeful that you will meet the one, but that you will live a happy, fulfilled life no matter what, focussing on all that is good and wonderful about you, your current life, and those who love you. I know it must be hard. I understand. But you have to find a way to be truly happy and satisfied with or without a romantic partner.
I think I'm FINALLY at this point right now where I'm optimistic, I'm hopeful, I'm happy, but I'm not going to break down and get depressed if I don't find a marriage mate in the future. I think I'm finally at a place where I feel like I will STILL have a fabulous fun-filled life with or without a mate.
My BIGGEST fear however is a fear of being alone when I get old.
It's not even so much a fear of never getting married, but more so a fear that if I
don't get married eventually and have kids, my parents will have died off, and I won't have anyone to take care of me or grow old w/me in the future "golden years".