Why Won’t You Just Leave?

[momi]

I hate it when I hear of married men using “I’m not happy in my marriage” as their reason for cheating.

Why don’t they just leave? I guess it’s just selfishness and low-downery.

 

[prettyinpurple]

Probably too lazy to leave

 

[NijaG]

I hate it when I hear of married men using “I’m not happy in my marriage” as their reason for cheating.

Why don’t they just leave? I guess it’s just selfishness and low-downery.

Because 85-95% of the time there is really nothing wrong with their wives. Deep down, they know the woman is doing the best she can with the circumstances and actions/behaviors they present towards her.

Honestly, many men are unhappy with themselves and instead of doing the hard inner work needed to gain a purpose and vision and take the hard steps needed to achieve what they want, they go for the cheap and easy route, which is using women and/or men (single or multiple) to boost their egos. It's a quick fix.

Many don't leave (unless kicked out) because they know that unless they are really planning to change themselves in some drastic and permanent way, they'll most likely end up in the same cycle once the honeymoon period is over with new woman.

Unless the man is rich/wealthy with tons of residual/passive income, you still gotta work, pay bills, taxes and deal with everyday life.

 

[biznesswmn]

- as the saying goes, its cheaper to keep her. They dont want to get up off that dough

- some men see women tryg to one up each other and play on that. They know another woman will try to solve that 'problem' for him and do what makes him happy

- i agree w prior posts, they dont wanna put the work in

 

[SurferBabe]

Because having a wife and mistress fulfills all of his needs.

 

[biznesswmn]

Because having a wife and mistress fulfills all of his needs.

Yes, they want the security and the buck wildness at the same time

Cake eating

My dad told me himself, if he couldv keep both my mom and his girlfriend he would have

The nature of the beast, i guess

 

[moneychaser]

-Divorces are expensive
-They enjoy seeing their kids everyday

 

[Mai Tai]

Because they are lying. Men play miserable or concoct sob stories to villainize their wives so that they feel better about cheating. When he builds that anti-wife campaign it makes the guilt an easier pill to swallow and if he ever does leave the wife, his friends and family stay on his side because "she was crazy anyway..."

When you are truly miserable...Divorce is cheap
When you are truly miserable...The kids will be ok
When you are truly miserable...Giving up 50% of your assets is worth 100% peace of mind

 

[brownb83]

Because they are lying. Men play miserable or concoct sob stories to villainize their wives so that they feel better about cheating. When he builds that anti-wife campaign it makes the guilt an easier pill to swallow and if he ever does leave the wife, his friends and family stay on his side because "she was crazy anyway..."

When you are truly miserable...Divorce is cheap
When you are truly miserable...The kids will be ok
When you are truly miserable...Giving up 50% of your assets is worth 100% peace of mind

All of this!
No one is worth my peace of mind

 

[Maracujá]

The more I learn about all the injustice done to us women though.

 

[Pat Mahurr]

-Divorces are expensive
-They enjoy seeing their kids everyday

Their wives make more money than their girlfriends — they can’t live on their own.

 

[GetHappy2014]

I hate it when I hear of married men using “I’m not happy in my marriage” as their reason for cheating.

Why don’t they just leave? I guess it’s just selfishness and low-downery.

When they are TRULY unhappy in their marriage, they will leave. That’s how men are ... they don’t endure much suffering.

 

[Farida]

Either he does not want to pay alimony and/or child support or he wants to have his cake and eat it too.

Marriage is hard. Affairs are often breezy and on the surface with no real responsibility.