JustKiya
Well-Known Member
Here's a question I've been going back and forth over with for a while, and I haven't settled on an answer just yet. If you're going to be an independent woman who doesn't live her life for her hubby and kids and is able to maintain her own identity, what's the point of being married other than for financial, emotional and sexual reasons? Is divorce knocking at this point because of resentment?
I guess the balance of sharing your life with your DH and actually having your own life are both important factors, but which is a priority? I think this is where I'm on the fence. My relationship/marriage with DH has always come first, but now I'm ready to start doing me, so how's a marriage possible if I make myself my first priority? I've remained this way out of fear that I'll actually go too far out being little "Mrs. Independent" and really lose site of my marriage.
I really look forward to hearing your responses....
Interesting and very good question!
Which is a priority changes from day to day, from situation to situation. Sometimes my life is a priority - I'm going on a weekend trip with the girls next weekend, even though he would rather that we went camping, instead.
Sometimes our life is a priority - I'll come home a little earlier than I would want to from a party, because he wants/needs me home.
It's a 24/7 balancing act, and the trick is to let one side or the other only dominate occasionally.
And depending on what you mean by 'Do You' - you can 100% do that, and still be married. DH has followed my career in the past couple of years - but I clearly see a future where I will be following his.