WHY ARE SO MANY BLACK WOMEN SINGLE?
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ambergirl
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Now THAT's the truest thing said in this thread,
CurlyMoo
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The women who are the opposite of what you described are never the ones complaining about there being no good men. They always have men. I'm dead serious. Just like unemployed Ray Ray is never without a woman. It's crazy!
Unemployed Ray Ray can always get a woman because getting a woman is what he knows how to do best. Can keep a job but can keep a woman sprung. Better in bed than providing for his family. And the women that Ray Ray deals will are on his level. Believe that.
kmn1980:
Why are these discussion always reduced to caricatures and extremes? Either a black woman is delusional and prideful and must have a 6 figure ninja or she's wasting her time with thugs. Really? I also don't know all these "don't need a man" independent black women, a lot of black women I know are in fact all about having a man. Now if you said many black women don't know how to communicate effectively or identify what makes a man marriage material, I would agree. There are so many varied scenarios and nuances playing into relationship choices that making sweeping generalizations isn't very useful.
As far as the OOW thing, black women aren't procreating with themselves. There are just as many black men with children OOW, it's just not seen as a strike against them in the mating game. Who are all these childless black police officers, UPS workers, etc? They may exist but they are a minority - just like single childless black women are a minority by a certain age. I believe both black men and women have valid points but all this blame game stuff is kinda wild.
I do agree that owning your life choices, weaknesses, and strengths is paramount. You'll never hear me blaming black men for my choice to be single. I have a couple non-negotiables I need in my future husband (he doesn't have to be black or a 6 figa ninja btw), and until I meet that man who is compatible with me I'll stay single and keep my mouth shut about it. I do interact with great guys married and non-married so I know they exist.
Why are these discussion always reduced to caricatures and extremes? Either a black woman is delusional and prideful and must have a 6 figure ninja or she's wasting her time with thugs. Really? I also don't know all these "don't need a man" independent black women, a lot of black women I know are in fact all about having a man. Now if you said many black women don't know how to communicate effectively or identify what makes a man marriage material, I would agree. There are so many varied scenarios and nuances playing into relationship choices that making sweeping generalizations isn't very useful.
As far as the OOW thing, black women aren't procreating with themselves. There are just as many black men with children OOW, it's just not seen as a strike against them in the mating game. Who are all these childless black police officers, UPS workers, etc? They may exist but they are a minority - just like single childless black women are a minority by a certain age. I believe both black men and women have valid points but all this blame game stuff is kinda wild.
I do agree that owning your life choices, weaknesses, and strengths is paramount. You'll never hear me blaming black men for my choice to be single. I have a couple non-negotiables I need in my future husband (he doesn't have to be black or a 6 figa ninja btw), and until I meet that man who is compatible with me I'll stay single and keep my mouth shut about it. I do interact with great guys married and non-married so I know they exist.
ambergirl
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Girl why you up in here talking truth and common sense? Don't you know we're all just a pile of turds wishing on a star that we could magically transform into a tootsie roll so one of the millions of perfect black men will choose us to be his one and only?
lol I'm sayin. That tootsie roll/turds analogy was ridiculously offensive
, at least needles look different than haystacks. I'm halfway tempted to accuse kmn1980 of being a black man posing as a woman but I'll try to give her the benefit of the doubt. I'm gonna start "approaching" black men out and about - "How are you doing brotha? *smile* I totally understand if you think I have kids and a bad attitude - how could you not? Just lettin you know that I'm child-free and willing to let a man be a man. I know already you're a responsible and loving king just waiting for his queen. I'm here for you brotha
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naijamerican
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I'm not going to answer the question because I don't know the answers.
All I will say is that, I was shocked and disappointed by the posts that seem to blame Black women for their singlehood and I'm glad for posters like Bunny and Ambergirl who said what I wanted to say in a much more thoughtful, articulate, and polite manner than I feel like doing. So you mean to tell me that the same forces that have elevated all women have somehow conspired against Black women in particular and rendered them incapable of landing a man? That Black women, who might be more likely than their male counterparts to get a job, are themselves to blame for their success? GTFreakOHWTBexcrement.
I had no idea that I would rather shop at Nordie's than date a man! 
Gee, no wonder I'm single! The problem with answering this question, which was probably not posed with any good intentions and is just bait for disagreement, is that everyone has an opinion and is likely to impose what worked for them onto other people and call it the rules of how things should go down. This is a multifaceted problem and folks would do well to delve into the history of the Black community, particularly in America, before they answer it.
And just why did the OP dip anyway? Anyone who wants a serious answer to such a question would have stayed, fielded questions, engaged in thoughtful dialogue, etc. Ridiculous.
All I will say is that, I was shocked and disappointed by the posts that seem to blame Black women for their singlehood and I'm glad for posters like Bunny and Ambergirl who said what I wanted to say in a much more thoughtful, articulate, and polite manner than I feel like doing. So you mean to tell me that the same forces that have elevated all women have somehow conspired against Black women in particular and rendered them incapable of landing a man? That Black women, who might be more likely than their male counterparts to get a job, are themselves to blame for their success? GTFreakOHWTBexcrement.
I had no idea that I would rather shop at Nordie's than date a man! Gee, no wonder I'm single! The problem with answering this question, which was probably not posed with any good intentions and is just bait for disagreement, is that everyone has an opinion and is likely to impose what worked for them onto other people and call it the rules of how things should go down. This is a multifaceted problem and folks would do well to delve into the history of the Black community, particularly in America, before they answer it.And just why did the OP dip anyway? Anyone who wants a serious answer to such a question would have stayed, fielded questions, engaged in thoughtful dialogue, etc. Ridiculous.
Bunny77
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I'm not going to answer the question because I don't know the answers.
All I will say is that, I was shocked and disappointed by the posts that seem to blame Black women for their singlehood and I'm glad for posters like Bunny and Ambergirl who said what I wanted to say in a much more thoughtful, articulate, and polite manner than I feel like doing. So you mean to tell me that the same forces that have elevated all women have somehow conspired against Black women in particular and rendered them incapable of landing a man? That Black women, who might be more likely than their male counterparts to get a job, are themselves to blame for their success? GTFreakOHWTBexcrement.
And just why did the OP dip anyway? Anyone who wants a serious answer to such a question would have stayed, fielded questions, engaged in thoughtful dialogue, etc. Ridiculous.
Everything you just said...
And on another note, a look at the history of the threads started by the OP proved quite interesting... hmmm...
Finally, engaging in so-called debate in this thread is pointless because the OP dipped, and then so much uh, mess, has been spewed that it's not even worth comment.
But, I will leave everyone with this...
http://www.blackdemographics.com/population.html#anchor_401
Marriage in Black America
It is widely accepted that black women are least likely to marry than any other women in America. But after viewing the true data, we can see that although fewer black women are "now married", more black women marry at least once than black men. 44% of black men are "never married" compared to 42.7% of black women.
Marrital Status Black female male (All Races)
(15yrs and older)
Now married 33.8% 29.1% 39.6% 53.4%
Widowed 6.4% 9.3% 2.8% 6.0%
Divorced 1.6% 13.2% 9.7% 10.2%
Separated 4.9% 5.7% 4.0% 2.2%
Never married 43.3% 42.7% 44.0% 28.1%
*All statistics used here are from the US Census Bureau 2005-2008 unless otherwise noted.
ambergirl
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And on another note, a look at the history of the threads started by the OP proved quite interesting... hmmm...
....yes, very interesting....Similar threads
